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Meeting for the First Time - 1/16/2007 8:07:01 PM   
spankme81


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Status: offline 		Hello,
I'll be meeting a Mistress for the second time tomorrow, but our first one-on-one meeting, and it will be in a public place, tomorrow. I'm not likely to be collared any time soon or anything--i'm new to the scene, and she's offered to train and sort of mentor me.

Anyway, i was just wondering if anyone had any tips about this first meeting.  When we actually met the first time, it was at a play party, and we didn't spend too much time talking.  Is there anything i should know about a meeting like this? i know, everything is up to the individual, and no on can tell me how to address her or anything, i was just wondering for those who have experienced it (and she has 25 some years exp) what i should be looking for and expecting of a first meeting like this, and the best way to act...

now i feel like this post is kinda useless, since really, how can anyone tell me about what she as an individual would prefer?? I guess i'm just real nervous! I've spent the last 10 years or so lurking on different websites and this will be my first r/l experience, so any advice anyone has would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!!


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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/16/2007 8:16:18 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		It sounds like your meeting might just be the next step in getting to know more about you in person.  My advice would to be yourself and don't think too much about it.  Being polite and respectful will get you far, in general.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/17/2007 8:10:53 PM   
Monts


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Status: offline 		Dont be over zealous. 
Be confident yet flexible.
Be honest.

Everything will go fine.

Good luck.
Monts

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/18/2007 1:33:36 AM   
MistressYlwa


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Status: offline 		Don't answer questions with the answers you think she wants. Do not claim to have any experience or abilities that you don't have and be open about the experience you do have. Be polite and respectful. You don't serve her yet, but she is someone who offers you the possibility. Tell her if anything makes you uncomfortable or if anything she talks about is something you cannot do. Don't be afraid to be honest. Not everything is written in stone and, from my experience, compromise is always available.
 
Be yourself. She will appreciate that more than any affectation you could project.
 
Mistress Ylwa

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/18/2007 6:53:07 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		If you know where you are meeting her, dress appropriately and be neat and clean.

After that just be a polite and friendly you. If she wants something more, in my opinion, she should have told you before the meeting.

Just a note that even if she seems all cool, calm, and collected inside she is probably nervous too.

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/20/2007 3:10:35 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		as a submissive male i have a few times met Mistreses after talking too them on the phone then makeing a frist vist in a public place ..   and being submissive most have had me to or show my submissive side to them im guessing as sing that your realy submissive and will follow orders and do as told ????/   ive had them ask too wear certin items bras and panties or other things under male clothes .. have any other Mistress'es or Maters that might read this thread done simular at public or frist time meetings

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/20/2007 4:54:53 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		Since I'm not particularly into men who crossdress, no, I would not have them do that.

A first meeting is just "getting to know you as a human being" time - if I don't like the sub as a person, then I'm not going to be interested in him as a sub.

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/20/2007 6:50:39 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		No.

When I meet someone for the first time, even though they have submitted a formal application to me, I still have not offered them a training contract.

I save myself time by meeting them as people face to face but only after I think there is a chance I'll be interested.

I save them the horror of accepting me before they've seen me face to face. They might not like my hair or think I'm fat or think my laugh is annoying or something afterall. I can usually tell that after a first lunch together though so when I have offered a training contract it hasn't been rejected.

If things seem to work, I'll offer to negotiate with them and set up a play date/session to feel things out further. Only after that has gone well do I offer a training contract.

Even when I make the offer until they've accepted we aren't in a Ds relationship.

I only expect my orders to be obeyed once I am the D and he/she is the s in a relationship.

However if I have expressed preferences (like for button-down shirts, short hair, a certain time to meet) meeting my preferences does matter a lot to me.

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/20/2007 11:46:04 AM   
alwayzron


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Status: offline 		To quote Robin Williams in Alladin .... "beeeeee yourself".  If things don't work out, it was never meant to be and it will save you a lot of frustration in the long run.

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RE: Meeting for the First Time - 1/20/2007 4:16:53 PM   
needdiscipline23


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Status: offline 		edit--sorry, posted to the wrong place!

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