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RE: How to be positive? - 1/18/2007 9:43:33 AM

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If you feel that you did the best you could in the relationship there's not much else you can do. Maybe look for patterns of behavior that brought you to this place. Sometimes you can be in a relationship that is good, but it just doesn't work, for whatever reason. There's no sense in wallowing in it. Distract yourself, get busy with something else, take a break.

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/18/2007 4:55:18 PM

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I wanted to thank everyone who took the time to reply, I have read each one and many brought a smile to My face.

In answer to the skunk it is not a pet of Mine, he deserves to be wild but due to some reason he is unable to, I did quite enjoy snarling at other people so they wouldn't wake him.

In voicing the greiving as someone mentioned that was kindda the plan with this message, I didn't want to make it come across as self piting, but look for a positive angle, I was frustrated and trained harder tonight in Martial Arts to vent My poor Bo Staff has a few dents in it now (not on a person but another Bo staff).

I do however admire everyones "next" approach but as you can hear the violins playing, I don't often get that chance. With that said I will learn from it, takes more then the world to beat Me ;)

To what I bought I got this fantastic jacket it's slighty old fashioned but has a touch of modern to it so I'm happy with that and 10 DVD's to cheer Me up, Men in Tights, Shawn of the Dead to name a few :)

I must admit having a cute critter in My picture has bulked out what I recieve in terms of messages, and it's always a pleasure to reply to polite messages.

So I'm getting there ;) So come get Me ladies *laughs* :) I'm in a good mood now :)

WoS - The nasty Bo staff beater....

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/18/2007 6:43:32 PM

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I'm a bit late on getting to this message, but wanted to add this. Obviously it hurts and it sucks and you are in so much pain. But you don't know who else is out there. And maybe this heartache is actually so that you can find the one.

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/18/2007 9:34:11 PM

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Don't despair, Pfizer's SOMA pill is weeks away from FDA approval.

For a drug free route, you may try cultivating your Ch'i

Laurence Boldt recommends:

1. Be Cheerful
2. Breathe
3. Move your body
4. Master your emotions
5. Meditate
6. Simplify
7. Spend time in nature
8. Eat Well
9. Rest your body
10. Cultivate an awareness of your surroundings

--The Tao of Abundance

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/19/2007 5:39:09 AM

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Thanks cloudboy

I have to admit I do spend alot of time Mediating (due to tinnitus and the such), however I'm always keen to learn new things so I have taken that on board and I think I'll write it onto, a post stick so it's a reminder :)

Thanks again

subbie4real

Thanks for taking the time to reply, thats how I'm looking at it, perhaps it's one of those things in life that is a nesscary lesson to be learnt.

Cheers

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/19/2007 7:40:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: MinofSin

I look at each relationship as a growing experience. Having just ended a relationship very recently, I take the good things from it and learn from the bad. Hopefully, I can apply those things in the future. At least, that is how I tend to try to stay positive.

i agree with this but i also allow myself to feel the loss of it...

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/19/2007 7:42:55 AM

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I spend time with my friends and others who have a positive outlook on life. When you think back on old relationships and ask yourself 'what might have been,' you aren't just daydreaming about a certain set of circumstances. Chances are the person you are thinking of in this fantasy question is very different from the 'real' person you dated. If someone didn't want to or wasn't read to date you, they did you a favor by not wasting anymore of your time, attention, or resources. It's hard to keep that perspective, but it is essentially the truth.

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RE: How to be positive? - 1/19/2007 8:50:28 AM

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I agree with everything that has been said.
I was so naive when I joined the lifestyle.
I actually thought that everyone who used the term sub or slave was actually submissive.
We really do need some BDSM police lol.
I've learned some hard lessons in life throughout my journey as I am sure everyone has and I'm sure there are more to learn.
Each relationship teaches me more about myself and I hope teaches the other person in it more about themselves.
I have learned to mourn the loss of the fantasy and try harder next time not to fall into another fantasy but to see the person as they really are from the outset.
You can change a lot of behaviour but you can't change someones basic personality.
Fantasy is fantastic a wonderful tool but to make a relationship work we have to deal in reality.
Of course some people will always prefer the fantasy.

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