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trust - 1/19/2007 1:10:56 AM   
confused43


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Status: offline 		hello, i am presently seeking advice concerning a master relationship that has been in the making for 2 yrs.He is younger than i but age is only a number in my mind.He unfortuentately was incarated and sentenced for 2 yrs.During our relationship he would take my money for his experiences and later i discovered he was sleeping around with 3 others, but yet said he cared for me.Since his incartion i have continued to stand by him, he wrote he really wants us to be a couple when he gets out, but i am not sure he can ever be fully trusted, a money slave is not my desire.advise please  !     
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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 2:22:34 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I see this as one of those instances where you need to really think about the old line of : "Action's Speak Louder Then Words".  It's clear you've listened well to words, but have been blind to actions.  My suggestion is to take the stand to be good to yourself.


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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 2:26:21 AM   
BeautifulRacket


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Status: offline 		OF COURSE he wants you to be together when he gets out of prision! Only a foolish inmate would turn down the opportunity to take more money and cheat on someone who trusted him enough to allow them back!

If he used you for sex and money, he doesn't give a flying f*** about you. The fact that he's screwed you over before and been in prison for a couple of years should tell you there's something very wrong with this man, and he's no Dominant. Real Doms have control of, respect for themselves and integrity.

To spell it out, NO, he shouldn't be trusted. I'll give you credit for questioning instead of just doing, but please get far, far away from this person and everyone else with questionable morals. Being near him could mean a DEATH sentence for you - lord knows what he may have picked up while cheating and in jail. There are certainly plenty of losers out there, but there are also many who are good people and will treat you well because you don't deserve someone who will use and abuse you.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 3:17:16 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Honey, you're no kid.  Use some common sense.  What do YOU think he wants from you.  Love?  Respect?  Or a place to stay, easy sex and easy money?  Come on...God gave us all a brain...use yours.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 4:06:56 AM   
dvart


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Status: offline 		I agree the best thing is to walk away.
However if you really can't do that then challenge him. He should get a place to live by himself, a job and prove that he is serious and won't sleep around. He also needs to take an Aids test. If he is serious he will do all these things. If not he will find someone else to exploit. If he falls down on your tests, then at least you won't be left with "what if" feelings.
Everyone, including you is ENTITLED to respect.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 4:14:42 AM   
Isobella


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Status: offline 		A long time ago i had an online relationship with a Dom, we met, we
had the right chemisty and got on so well. My friend and i had
purchased some tickets to see a show in London all paid for -
including the hotel - unfortunately she was unwell and could'nt attend
so i invited him along it would cost him nothing.
He had the damn cheek to ask me for petrol money, i was shocked 
so very embarrassed for both him and myself, i ended it
that second.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 4:55:57 AM   
mymasterssub69


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Status: offline 		do yourself a favor and break off this relationship

he doesn't earn the right to have your respect, trust and submission as your master. he's not even worthy of the title either. he was only looking for a doormat where he could wipe his feet  and call home until he gets the urge to leave again. it's totally blatant that he doesn't care and love you if he's sleeping around. who knows what STDs he might have from these women if he didn't use protection. why put your life and health in danger? it's not worth it - leave now!


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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 6:00:44 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Run do not walk to the nearest exit on this one. He's using you as a cash cow and you deserve better than that. Find yourself a new Master.

~Lashra


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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 6:21:30 AM   
swtnsparkling


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quote:

bandit25
Honey, you're no kid.  Use some common sense.  What do YOU think he wants from you.  Love?  Respect?  Or a place to stay, easy sex and easy money?  Come on...God gave us all a brain...use yours.

You read my mind!
Spot on

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 7:25:34 AM   
confused43


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Status: offline 		Thank you and i do have a brain but sometimes i just like other views hes history i just needed the extra help to make it happen!

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 8:08:35 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Get the hell outta Dodge, leave no forwarding address, get your phone number changed, dye your hair..........whatever, but ditch the looser!!

just my opinion..............

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 9:04:49 AM   
poplolly


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Get the hell outta Dodge, leave no forwarding address, get your phone number changed, dye your hair..........whatever, but ditch the looser!!

just my opinion..............


And a very wise opinion at that; OP, listen to LaTigrese.  Been there, done that.  It ended very badly.  R U N !!!

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~~ Marilyn Monroe.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 10:01:17 AM   
LadyJulieAnn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: confused43

hello, i am presently seeking advice concerning a master relationship that has been in the making for 2 yrs.He is younger than i but age is only a number in my mind.He unfortuentately was incarated and sentenced for 2 yrs.During our relationship he would take my money for his experiences and later i discovered he was sleeping around with 3 others, but yet said he cared for me.Since his incartion i have continued to stand by him, he wrote he really wants us to be a couple when he gets out, but i am not sure he can ever be fully trusted, a money slave is not my desire.advise please  !     


I would encourage you to read your posting again and think about why you feel this relationship is a positive one and why you think his actions show he cares about you.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 12:51:23 PM   
Focus50


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From: Newcastle, Australia
Status: offline 		Sleeping around with 3 others *and* doing time!  Exactly when do you reach a point where you tell yourself the screeching obvious - that this one is definitely not to be trusted???
 
He's a pathological liar and good at it in that you're clearly not the only one who's taken in by his spiel.  And bad at it in that he is incarcerated - for whatever reason....  I suppose he was set up, too?  If you don't let this loser go, you'll both be where you deserve.
 
Focus.

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RE: trust - 1/19/2007 1:17:36 PM   
Siona


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Status: offline 		I  think you know what to do...do it!

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RE: trust - 1/20/2007 12:37:27 AM   
RexLongBeach


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

quote:

ORIGINAL: confused43

hello, i am presently seeking advice concerning a master relationship that has been in the making for 2 yrs.He is younger than i but age is only a number in my mind.He unfortuentately was incarated and sentenced for 2 yrs.During our relationship he would take my money for his experiences and later i discovered he was sleeping around with 3 others, but yet said he cared for me.Since his incartion i have continued to stand by him, he wrote he really wants us to be a couple when he gets out, but i am not sure he can ever be fully trusted, a money slave is not my desire.advise please !


I would encourage you to read your posting again and think about why you feel this relationship is a positive one and why you think his actions show he cares about you.

Yeah, what she said. And if you can't figure it out, get some counseling.

Seriously.

Rex

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RE: trust - 1/20/2007 1:16:59 AM   
cantbebroken


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Status: offline 		i dont need counseling affairs of the heart are tricky in some cases, i have taken care of what needed to he history! Thanks for the responses, like said before it just helps to bounce off others!

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RE: trust - 1/20/2007 8:21:11 AM   
antipode


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Status: offline 		Nothing to be confused about - let me add my voice to the chorus. This is an abusive man, and you are in an abusive relationship. It is probably hard for you to to walk away from it, what you would need to do is simply break off all contact, 100% - you don't owe this man anything. It may even be a good idea for you to move, because I would be concerned for your safety when he gets out. Try and find counseling, in your local area or town, and perhaps talk to other women who have "been this way". Get out, get away, start thinking of yourself as a VICTIM - build an independent life, you're emotionally dependent on an abuser, and that is a receipe for disaster.

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RE: trust - 1/20/2007 8:29:15 AM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		Affairs of the heart are indeed tricky.  We can distort the truth, lie to ourselves, twist reality in order convince ourselves that what we wish were true, is actually true.  When you love someone, have invested time in that relationship, it is hard to accept the reality that the love and emotional investment has been one sided.  It's hard to let go and deal with the heart break.  Congrats on facing the truth and moving on.

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RE: trust - 1/20/2007 8:30:13 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		You have your life on hold for a guy who is incarcerated, whom you gave money to and who sleeps around?  You need more help than we can give you.

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