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chrissyslave -> RE: what do i do about lack of contact (1/19/2007 1:30:27 PM)
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The one thing I expected to hear as a response from the more experienced in this scene and topic so far hasn't been stated and is simply -- why not contact him? Is because you are a woman, or a sub, that you cannot initiate contact after a meeting/date? On a meet of this type, or date in vanilla life, I like to show appreciation of what I did like about him and our discussions, or any event like if was a dinner. At least you can acknowledge if he paid for a dinner or something. In this case, it is a few days later but not so much to throw up a "'don't you love me?" type of response in his face as that just makes you look desperate. Given the nature of your date, you could combined form of thank you, just a follow-up in general note, and have you given XXX any further thought about this or that ?
Be informational gathering rather than emotional, and that way he might be more willing to be more open with you. Focus on the process rather than feeling you must achieve a set objective. Meeting are to see what needs to go forward, stay about the same level, move back..or die. If this guy doesn't at least contact you in a week he has clearly dumped you...2-3 weeks of waiting is too long! What kind of dom/master would he be if that was his level of aggression?!! By week 2 you mmight write him if you can just point out his rudeness shown and write him a good riddence note then good,but if go to name calling and "you hurt me stuff" then don't write him at all.as it makes you look bad, and him glad he did dump you. And if he's rude enough to meet and not write a follow-up note then this guy was not a keeper regardless. And the other responders hit it well when they spotted your "pity me I did something wrong" party so you can look at that pattern in yourself as something to move on from here and deal with constructively ...it's not an attractive attitude. And frankly maybe this guy felt that as well from you in the meet and is why he dumped you, or feels he can delay writing you. After all he knows you will just think it's all your fault....not his. And in that regards it is your fault then!
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