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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:05:11 AM   
SweetSarijane


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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I tend to think that guys I meet just want to get into my panties.
Then, once I picture them in my panties, I don't have that desire to submit.



OMG thank you!!!!!!! That was beautiful!!!! Totally hilarious!

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:09:05 AM   
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Don't they have a cream for that?  Pooferation H?


If only.  Think of the money we could make!  There are always people talking about poofers.


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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:34:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		thanks for all the messages, i guess i need to take it as a lesson learnt, i guess what hurts most is the fact i always said if you decide you dont like me just tell me, dont just leave me wondering and thats exactly what he did.

lesson learnt, - no matter how long you take getting to know a guy online its never the same in rt

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:38:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		men are circumsized....
women need circumspection...
take it easy, go slow and spend a lot more time contemplating before you do the backseat watusi with somebody if it causes heart bruise.

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:44:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		we met online and eventually moved on to real time but i probably met 50 disappearing Doms online before i met him. it's all in the name of progess.  our parents were limited to a specific geographic location...we have access to the world which gives us more access to the good, the bad, and the ugly.  peace and love, sherry

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 11:52:11 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I assume you worked out the prior issues to your mutual satisfaction?

Hope all is well on your end.

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 12:39:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I tend to think that guys I meet just want to get into my panties.


Is there another reason why a bloke would want to date a woman?

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 1:30:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		The one thing I expected to hear as a response from the more experienced in this scene and topic so far hasn't been stated and is simply -- why not contact him?  Is because you are a woman, or a sub, that you cannot initiate contact after a meeting/date?  On a meet of this type, or date in vanilla life, I like to show appreciation of what I did like about him and our discussions, or any event like if was a dinner.  At least you can acknowledge if he paid for a dinner or something.  In this case, it is a few days later but not so much to throw up a "'don't you love me?" type of response in his face as that just makes you look desperate.  Given the nature of your date, you could combined form of thank you, just a follow-up in general note, and have you given XXX any further thought about this or that ? 

Be informational gathering rather than emotional, and that way he might be more willing to be more open with you.  Focus on the process rather than feeling you must achieve a set objective.  Meeting are to see what needs to go forward, stay about the same level,  move back..or die.  If this guy doesn't at least contact you in a week he has clearly dumped you...2-3 weeks of waiting is too long! What kind of dom/master would he be if that was his level of aggression?!! By week 2 you mmight write him if you can just point out his rudeness shown and write him a good riddence note then good,but  if go to name calling and "you hurt me stuff" then don't write him at all.as it makes you look bad, and him glad he did dump you.   And if he's rude enough to meet and not write a follow-up note then this guy was not a keeper regardless.  And the other responders hit it well when they spotted your "pity me I did something wrong" party so you can look at that pattern in yourself as something to move on from here and deal with constructively ...it's not an attractive attitude.  And frankly maybe this guy felt that as well from you in the meet and is why he dumped you, or feels he can delay writing you.  After all he knows you will just think it's all your fault....not his.  And in that regards it is your fault then!

 

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 1:31:17 PM   
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without a narative of some sort as to the interaction, who can say if you did something wrong??

But you did something right / you found out early on that he might be a player.

CP

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 2:51:13 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		LOL.. not in my experience.  However I do meet some that want me for my computer skills.
Still.. picturing them in my panties reminds me that BILLING is a good thing!
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Is there another reason why a bloke would want to date a woman?


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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 3:13:35 PM   
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Huh. Guess that makes me a sucker.

But, if having r/l l/t relationship with an amazing, intelligent, honest, caring, spiritual and creative Dom (whom I just happened to have met and gotten to know intially online) makes me a sucker, well, what the heck, call me Lolly and tattoo the word Dum-Dums across my ass, I'll take being a sucker any day.


LMAO.. okay, I don't want it in a tatoo, but I am going to ask him to carve Dum-Dums across my ass before I give him a blowjob one time.

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RE: what do i do about lack of contact - 1/19/2007 5:43:00 PM   
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		 Men will disappear sometimes whether you fuck them or not...  If you happen to think fucking makes it a connection, than don't do it until you've gotten to know him better. 
 As for the poofing disease, it's only good for one learning experience.  I don't think there is any clear way to tell whether one is going to be a poofer or not...  I don't know what there is to learn about his disappearance than it is a rejection but for what reason, none of us will ever know.  Next time however, don't tell him "if you don't like me, just tell me."   Tell him "let's meet and hope for the best"; knowing you may not like him and he may not like you, but either way, you will be okay.    M 
			
								
			
			 

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 Men will disappear sometimes whether you fuck them or not...  If you happen to think fucking makes it a connection, than don't do it until you've gotten to know him better. 
 As for the poofing disease, it's only good for one learning experience.  I don't think there is any clear way to tell whether one is going to be a poofer or not...  I don't know what there is to learn about his disappearance than it is a rejection but for what reason, none of us will ever know.  Next time however, don't tell him "if you don't like me, just tell me."   Tell him "let's meet and hope for the best"; knowing you may not like him and he may not like you, but either way, you will be okay.    M 
 
 
  
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