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Interest in Mastering - 1/19/2007 10:38:54 PM   
Master4femslaves


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From: wollongong
Status: offline 		For the past couple years i have always been interested in finally bringing my Dom/Mastering side out for good.and am looking for submissive women that like or would like to be controlled (new to it or not)...
people have always said that relationships like that are not right (even though it has and has been going on since forever (even in the bible)..
im really interested in having control over a woman...
I would really like to get involved with a female sub...
are there any people willing to help me with advice/info to help me... thanks for your time
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RE: Interest in Mastering - 1/19/2007 10:41:54 PM   
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RE: Interest in Mastering - 1/20/2007 6:07:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nice list LuckyAlbatross, considering you needed only 3 minutes to respond to it... :)

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 1/20/2007 6:38:28 PM   
NightWindWhisper


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Status: offline 		Are you a librarian LuckyAlbatross?   You need to give us a picture as the prim and proper, bifocal'ed librarian....  I wish I had your orginizational skills.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 1/21/2007 12:16:03 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NightWindWhisper
Are you a librarian LuckyAlbatross?   You need to give us a picture as the prim and proper, bifocal'ed librarian....  I wish I had your orginizational skills.
I have the right mix of traits to be one and have a picture of myself in just such a costume :)  Thanks.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 1/22/2007 12:11:15 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master4femslaves

For the past couple years i have always been interested in finally bringing my Dom/Mastering side out for good.and am looking for submissive women that like or would like to be controlled (new to it or not)...
people have always said that relationships like that are not right (even though it has and has been going on since forever (even in the bible)..
im really interested in having control over a woman...
I would really like to get involved with a female sub...
are there any people willing to help me with advice/info to help me... thanks for your time

First off, shame on you for using your own profile as the opening post!  tut tut
 
However, as with all things, you start slowly and from the beginning....
 
On one hand, finding this site is a good start but given your obvious lack of experience and expertise etc, perhaps your choice of nic is a tad presumptuous to live up to?  Kinda gives the impression you think you have your shit together.  IMO, sounds like a suitable "step # 2" to address....
 
Focus.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 11:44:42 AM   
ShogunSensei


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Status: offline 		LA's posted some great links.  There are many resources.  As a dominant, you need to do your own homework.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 1:16:09 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Be honest, trustworthy and responsible. Let your word be your bond. Use good manners and take the lead. Any woman who responds to that will be interested enough to get to know you a little bit more.

You can call yourself dominant, but you will need to show it in every fiber of your being.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 1:49:29 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43
Be honest, trustworthy and responsible. Let your word be your bond. Use good manners and take the lead. Any woman who responds to that will be interested enough to get to know you a little bit more.

You can call yourself dominant, but you will need to show it in every fiber of your being.

How is showing that different than what a vanilla or slave should show?

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 2:18:18 PM   
puella


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Status: offline 		Hello Master4femslaves,

I read your question, then read your profile and then was wondering if I should even bother posting a reply, given what you had to say.

I do have a question though... if you are unwilling to listen or take advice from a submissive, are you sure you are in the right mindset to master one?  If you can not listen to what she has to say, the likelihood of doing little mastering and a lot of damage is petty high.

What about the idea of listening and taking the advice of a submissive is so repellent to you?  Do you think that a person who is submissive is somehow automatically less intelligent or less knowledgeable then you, or perhaps, just less of a person?

I found it worrisome...

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 2:20:50 PM   
happypervert


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Status: offline 		One piece of advice is tell the truth. For example, your post here makes it sound like this is new for you, yet you state in your profile "I am experienced and love being Dominating in as many situations as I can.", and that statement seems all the more comical given the timid writing we see here.

You can't dominate without respect, and being a phony will only earn you scorn and ridicule.  Try being yourself instead of posing like a caricature of what you think a dom should be, and see how that works.


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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 2:26:35 PM   
BabyNyla


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quote:

ORIGINAL: puella

Hello Master4femslaves,

I read your question, then read your profile and then was wondering if I should even bother posting a reply, given what you had to say.

I do have a question though... if you are unwilling to listen or take advice from a submissive, are you sure you are in the right mindset to master one?  If you can not listen to what she has to say, the likelihood of doing little mastering and a lot of damage is petty high.

What about the idea of listening and taking the advice of a submissive is so repellent to you?  Do you think that a person who is submissive is somehow automatically less intelligent or less knowledgeable then you, or perhaps, just less of a person?

I found it worrisome...


 
amen.  I think that if my husband and I didn't communicate and banter thoughts and opinions back and forth ... we would never have as strong a D/s relationship as we do.  It often makes both of us think and re-think things that can lead to some good scenes, discussions and rules (which I love) ... so I am in agreement with being able to listen to a submissive or slave ... because to me that shows a very mature and open dominant.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 2:35:35 PM   
goodpet


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Hmmmmm
Profile says experienced..... post says looking to bring out the Dom side...  Hmmmm?
Profile says a sub has no advice to offer.. [Guess i am wasting my breath here.. (ok typing fingers here) ]

i cannot see any semi intelligent woman being willing to submit to a man who thinks mastering means being dominating and controlling without respect. you seem to have no clue what a submissive woman is all about. you seem to be looking for a doormat not a woman.



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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 3:07:39 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodpet
HmmmmmProfile says experienced..... post says looking to bring out the Dom side...  Hmmmm?
Profile says a sub has no advice to offer.. [Guess i am wasting my breath here.. (ok typing fingers here)
i cannot see any semi intelligent woman being willing to submit to a man who thinks mastering means being dominating and controlling without respect. you seem to have no clue what a submissive woman is all about. you seem to be looking for a doormat not a woman


i have to agree wholeheartedly here. also, you say age is not a factor, but you list 18-50 as the legal age group and your preferred age group - my dominant's 54 and last i checked, he's legal :P i personally would not be interested in submitting to someone who seems to care very little about what i think, misrepresents their experience to the point that it could be very psychologically and perhaps physically harmful, and seems unwilling to accept advice or instruction. my advice would be to represent yourself as you ARE, not as you'd like to be or would like other people to see you, and perhaps think about the fact that even submissives and slaves have brains - and that would probably save you and your future partners a lot of problems.

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 3:32:28 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Good evening.

No, no, have you not read, it is forbidden for pepole over 50 to have sex no, and definitly doing BDSM or anything related. ;)

Seriously though, yes the OP, and i mean no offense, seam very inexperienced, give him a few years and i am sure he will turn out allright. i to was concerned when he said that a submissive had very little advice to offer, but taken the age thing into consideration, i think that he might have written thing wrong, that what he meant is that he do not want a co ruler, not that he dont want a girl that can think, i am not sure if this is right, but i think we should give the man the benefit of the doubth.

And LA i am truly impressed whit your skill of finding posts.

i wish you all well.




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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 4:47:59 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Whoa .... you say you've always been interested in bringing out your Dom/Master side, but you choose to call yourself ~Master4femslaves~?  I see no reason to even read your profile, you've just admitted to false advertising. 




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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/20/2007 5:05:21 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		As a Dominant I can tell you after reading your profile that you have quite a bit to learn in regards to open communication with your "future girl". Subs/slaves do have opinions and some are very good and sound. To ignore them is  hurting communication and that my friend is  HUGE part of what makes a relationship tick. Should she dictate to you? No but she should feel free to express her limits and her feelings/opinions about things. If not you may find that you will have a very unhappy slave on your hands and she will eventually ask for release.

Learning to be a Mistress/Master is a long, slow process and a big part of that is listening.

Good luck,
~Lashra


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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/21/2007 2:29:06 PM   
SirDraven


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From: Atlanta GA
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Before one can enter Your house you must build it.

Get off the boards and get active in Your community. Get a mentor or a teacher. Hell get more then one.

Having a submissive kneel at Your feet should be a very humbling experience. If not you don't need to be in the lifestyle.

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The previous text is My not so humble opinion and a qoute from one of My mentors.


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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/28/2007 6:16:12 PM   
Master4femslaves


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Joined: 6/30/2006
From: wollongong
Status: offline 		Thank you everyone, I have updated my profile and I hope that it will help you more as I was in a hurry to create one before but hope this new one is better.

Celeste43:
I love your advice and will make sure to use it to the max
 
puella:
I am sorry if My profile made Me look ignorant, I hope it will pass your "test" now that it is changed

SirDraven:
I would Get off the boards and get active in My community.if there was such a thing for Master/dom sub/slaves here

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RE: Interest in Mastering - 2/28/2007 6:58:06 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Here is some head twisting advice.  I wouldn't want a submissive I wouldn't trust to dominate me.  Now wrap your head around that for a bit.

23 is the right age for kinky sex and not much else...

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