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Is there a ritual attached to your application of disci... - 1/20/2007 5:50:38 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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Status: offline 		 Is there a ritual attached to your application of discipline that you find most effective and or erotic either on the giving or recieving end?

What works for you?

Ross
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RE: Is there a ritual attached to your application of d... - 1/20/2007 12:40:03 PM   
BootBlackBlast


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Status: offline 		As a nanny, pro-domme, and a lifestyle domme, I have found that discipline or punishment works best when it is three things.

1. A Known Consequence - Subject knows if they do x, y will happen.
2. Immediate - Subject knows that if they do x, y will happen immediately.
3. Relative to Corollary to Wrongful Action - Minor Infraction = Minor Punishment - Major Infraction = Major Punishment.

A person can not be punished for something they've done wrong unless they know what they are doing is wrong. Number 2 is the place many of our parents went wrong with "Wait until your father gets home!!!" That just meant we'd do more bad things and more often than not our mom, nanny, babysitter, auntie, whomever forgot to tell on us.

My methods do change with adults and unmentionables but there is a consistancy with each. In most cases, there is often a time out period, followed by a short discussion, a resolution, and a mutually agreed upon punishment should it happen again. The time out period happens on the naughty step for unmentionables. Naughty step is the top or bottom stair depending on where we are in the house. For my adults who need discipline they get their own place in the house for their time outs.

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RE: Is there a ritual attached to your application of d... - 1/20/2007 1:12:19 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		For me, discipline means "controlled behavior."

I don't flog someone to make them more adept at cleaning bathrooms or shape their behavior towards me.  And there's nothing ritualized in my disciplining process other than making sure they know what my expectations are and doing what I can to teach them how to go about providing such.

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RE: Is there a ritual attached to your application of d... - 1/20/2007 1:18:49 PM   
Caitriona


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ORIGINAL: BootBlackBlast

As a nanny, pro-domme, and a lifestyle domme, I have found that discipline or punishment works best when it is three things.

1. A Known Consequence - Subject knows if they do x, y will happen.
2. Immediate - Subject knows that if they do x, y will happen immediately.
3. Relative to Corollary to Wrongful Action - Minor Infraction = Minor Punishment - Major Infraction = Major Punishment.


Thank you BoostBlackBlast, this is an excellent post!  I'm very much in agreement.  My Lord and I have set up similar guidelines in terms of punishment.  Since we have only recently started incorporating corporal punishment having known guidelines (ex: 2 swats for protocol violation, ect) helps me not correlate punishment and abuse (which my father did).


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RE: Is there a ritual attached to your application of d... - 2/17/2007 3:27:46 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BootBlackBlast

As a nanny, pro-domme, and a lifestyle domme, I have found that discipline or punishment works best when it is three things.

1. A Known Consequence - Subject knows if they do x, y will happen.
2. Immediate - Subject knows that if they do x, y will happen immediately.
3. Relative to Corollary to Wrongful Action - Minor Infraction = Minor Punishment - Major Infraction = Major Punishment.



Yes that does work

Where is the ritual involved?

Is there a certain proceedure you work out before hand?

What involvement does the sub have?

Ross
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RE: Is there a ritual attached to your application of d... - 2/22/2007 2:43:45 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: Caitriona
we have only recently started incorporating corporal punishment having known guidelines (ex: 2 swats for protocol violation, ect) helps me not correlate punishment and abuse (which my father did).


So what means of protocal do you follow in your servitude?

How important is the presence and observance in your relationship?

Ross
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