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RE: Addressing with respect - 1/21/2007 9:21:53 AM

ADomDoc

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My 2 cents worth: I think any Dom/me who EXPECTS respect is delusional. Nobody is owed respect, esp folks who claim to be Doms or Dommes. [Some might argue that we owe respect to our elders ... but I'd say that we give them the benefit of the doubt & tentatively grant them respect until we can confirm it, or find out they don't deserve it.] We all earn our measure of respect with our actions, integrity, what we stand for & partially due to what we might say. I don't expect any sub, slave, Dom or Domme ... or mundane ... to automatically "respect" me. But I do expect to be treated with common courtesy, just as I treat everyone else w/ common courtesy. If anyone fails to do so, then I cross them off my list & don't bother with them again. I will, however, give a person a 2nd chance if they realize they were a shithead & apologize ... we all have shitty days & sometimes snap at others that we would not have done on 99 of 100 other days. And I respect a person who is able to make an apology & makes an effort to make things right.

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ORIGINAL: livinincincy
This topic has come to mind. Do dominants expect to be addressed with respect and other formalities at the beginning of a conversation ? Isn't this putting the cart in front of the horse ? Whoring your self to any one that selects to be Dominant when they sign up on collar me ? Isn't it more respectful to get to know each other and then show your desire via respect for them by addressing them with all due respect once it is a real feeling inside not just samantics ? Think about it, I respect you by treating you like my last top trained me is not very respectful of your place in my life is it.

Perhaps I am just dealing with text book or canned BDSM wanna be's that think it per some book written by some self proclaimed expert on the topic. Is there no Leadership in Domination ? Should not a Dominat be able to be the Architect to the BDSM lifestyle they wish to build with their submissive ?