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seekstofasn8adom -> When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 3:49:49 AM)
How did it occur and at what age were you when you realised you were a dominant lady please?Me personally i was 17 and i looked at some fetish books when i went into a shop.Well fem dom books actually and i've been hooked ever since,and a very submissive male from that day til now.But how about you what got you hooked into the fetish scene?

LaTigresse -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 6:34:33 AM)
For me being dominant and the fetish scene are two totally seperate issues. I have always been dominant, it is my personality. My exposure to kink came alot later, not that many years ago.

DianeB269 -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 6:45:21 AM)
I became very dominant when I started dating guys in highschool.....It was my way or the highway. Diane

MistressWolfen -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 6:49:55 AM)
Like LaTigresse I have always been dominant by temperament and personality (some would say domineering lol). My intimate relationships became one of domination at approximately 18, but did not develop into a life style choice until I was in my mid to late 20's. I now live exclusively 24/7 in a loving relationship based on total power exchange. Further, I actually have very little interest in fetishes and do not invite submissives that do. I find that a submissive with a strong fetish already has a dominant (his/her fetish).

blmtrsne -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 7:11:16 AM)
When my husband told me he wanted to be my slaveI decided (afther a week) to try it. I did not regret it.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 7:43:19 AM)
I remember when I was about 7 years old, there was a boy in the neighborhood who loved to do My bidding. Whenever we would play house, he always wanted to be My "husband" (more like a slave) and was quite eager to be told what to do. I really enjoyed this small taste of having power over a male. Even though he was ridiculed mercilessly by the other boys in the neighborhood, he preferred to play with the girls, and was especially devoted to Me. Lady Topaz

LeatherBentOne -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 7:58:04 AM)
I've always been Dominant ie. a leader, independent thinker, strong personality with good decision-making skills and sound judgement for the most part. I remember being enthralled during my teenage years with Freud's views on S/m and what "they" considered sexual deviance back then. I remember reading the Story of O during my high school years and re-reading the book just a few month ago. For me, Dominant defines who I am. When and where I exert my Dominance is characterized by my behavior. LBO

lateralist1 -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 8:21:16 AM)
When I was about ten I tied a bigger but younger boy up. Sharpened a stick at both ends. Put it between his legs and pressed them together until they bled. He went home crying. Much later he became a slave, in a way, as he waited for me after school and carried my books home etc. I remember kissing him once as a reward. I was given the story of o to read years ago. It didn't feel the right way around. It wasn't until a few years ago that I found out that people actually did this kind of thing in reality. I spent the years inbetween between trying to fit into a world that had no place for me, trying to understand myself and living in my fantasies.

KaramelGoddess -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 8:23:38 AM)
I was 11 years old...playing house turned into playing Bandit Girl and her hostage...le sigh. I remember those playtimes with great fondness. Learned how to tie knots pretty well too...till we got caught! I have always been Dominant...but similar to LaTigresse, I have been into kink (sexual) only a few years. With kindest regard, ~Kara

LadyEllen -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/21/2007 9:01:55 AM)
I'm weird. But everyone knows that already. HRT and gender change altered everything for me. Until that point, I was submissive towards girls from age 5 and then later Ladies, and totally disinterested in boys. Now, whether its because of the HRT or the change of life view or both, I'm not much interested in Ladies at all, though there is still some of that old submissiveness there I suppose. The main thing is, that boys gradually became more interesting, but not in the same idolised way as previously directed at women. Maybe its because I know too much about males, in that I regard them as (in the main) lost little boys who need love and guidance much more than most of them will admit! And from this side of the fence, theyre actually fun, and love the control and discipline which if it came from a male they'd kick his ass for, but coming from a female they readily submit to. And I see males differently too, in that their love is valuable. E

thetammyjo -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (1/22/2007 7:46:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom How did it occur and at what age were you when you realised you were a dominant lady please?Me personally i was 17 and i looked at some fetish books when i went into a shop.Well fem dom books actually and i've been hooked ever since,and a very submissive male from that day til now.But how about you what got you hooked into the fetish scene? I'm not hooked on the fetish scene. In fact, most fetish stuff leaves me cold. I'm about the authority and hierarchy. I didn't know what to cal it until I was in college and did some reading in the library and online. But now I can see that I've always been this way and it goes back to at least one clear episode when I was four and plotting to make the neighborhood boys obey me.

MissMummy -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/12/2009 6:06:59 PM)
It took meeting my first bi and naturally submissive partner on a contact site similar to this, for me to realise the believe in female supremacy was more than 'mother knows best'. It was when I had a curiosity re D/s, but no real need to explore BDsm that his persuasive 'topping from the bottom' made me realise what was missing from all my previous relationships. Total power exchange, immobility, 24/7 and commitment to his need for chastity, impossible and unworkable realtionships before then, but with him it became the norm and much more intense daily. He woke my dominance easily and naturally, was EXTREMELY kinky and no step was a step too far, no toy too big, no cuff too tight, no task too demanding, no play too painful or too intense. It just felt natural and I wasnt scared to go with it, to the limits and beyond, much further than I'd even considered before and it didnt scare me at all, I wanted to. I was controlling it now and I was LOVING IT!!! .. and so it began. so it wasnt a moment for me, it took time for me to become who I am now, as it continues too with each new person I meet who teaches me something new, you learn more, about them, and yourself too! I dont EVER want to stop learning, it gives you so much more to give after all!

PeonForHer -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/12/2009 6:38:56 PM)
FR This is the most fascinating thread I've read in ages. More stories, please!

LadyPact -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/12/2009 7:38:03 PM)
(Pssst) <Wiggles a finger at peon> C'mere. You might get more fascinating stories if you started a thread on the subject from today, rather than on one that's a year and a half old. <Pats him on the head> Good lad.

PeonForHer -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/13/2009 3:55:47 PM)
Do you think so, LP? Would it help to keep a thread like this on the front page? My earliest subby memory is pre-school. I've only ever told ex-partners because it was so strange.

AAkasha -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/13/2009 6:49:23 PM)
I was interested in tying up boys as soon as I was old enough to date. I did lots of harmless, totally non sexual tie up games as a kid, loved cartoons with male heroes in peril and in bondage, and was glued to the Adam West version of "Batman" on TV daily when I was 8 or 9. When I hit puberty and took an interest in boys, my ideas about them were more about tying them up. My first kisses included hair pulling. I liked to do things to make boys squirm or pretend they were kidnapped or beg me for things. Harmless trips to the ice cream parlor included me taking his spoon away and feeding him myself. Well before my first orgasm, my first sexual intercourse, my first heavy petting, I was dabbling with blindfolds and gags (using scarves, purse straps, magic-shop handcuffs). My fascination was in seeing men helpless for me; vulnerable, scared (in a good way), squirmy, breathing hard. It was more of a draw for me than anything else sexual. Akasha

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/13/2009 7:03:24 PM)
OP: I always organized...led..solved other's probems..mentored and supported I alos matched up ppl's inner fears and desires to get what I needed..very early ..like form age 6. I had high intuition and a loving firmness and at about age 8 knew I could get ppl to do what I wanted. I got boys to dress in my panites and dance on a little stage amidst the dadelions I go them to carry me and play QUEEN and to be my horse and sometimes to be MY wife with an apron. I didn't tie ppl or hurt them(kink) but I knew early I was VERY strong and loved to overpower and feel the squirming beneath me. A period of meekness occured after sex abuse issues in early teens BUT by 18 I married a huge ,wonderful man who surrendered to me and who was with me for 20 years until his death . We had a POLY Home where the QUEEN ruled. During the 20 years I had 3 other men live with us a sub husbands as well. GQ

Steponme73 -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/14/2009 7:07:02 AM)
This is a truly interesting thread...It is amazing to me the many different ways that people have experienced to get to the same station in life

LaTigresse -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/14/2009 7:14:16 AM)
I wonder why the question is asked so often of females and less so, to the males dominants. Is there some perception that men are more naturally dominant from birth than women?

Venatrix -> RE: When did you realise that you were dominant (7/14/2009 7:26:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I wonder why the question is asked so often of females and less so, to the males dominants. Is there some perception that men are more naturally dominant from birth than women? As many know, I am exceedingly cynical about relationships these days, and maybe that is colouring my remarks. I have, however, noticed that most of the threads directed to femdoms are started by submissive men, so perhaps they are looking for wankable material, rather than questioning whether women can truly be dominant.

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