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NoPinkBalloons -> RE: for the Sirs - a question (3/2/2005 8:34:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SirKenin
It's indicative of a certain level of respect in My circles and many online circles, including websites of the likes of http://www.submissiveloving.com/ .
I see....so only people who identify as dominant are deserving of a "certain level of respect" since they're the only ones who are entitled to this funky capitalization acknowledging it?
Sorry, but that just makes no sense to me. In over a decade in the r/l scene, I've met at least as many people who identify as submissive, switch, sadist, masochist, etc that deserve respect as I have people who call themselves dominant. And I've seen a whole lot of people who claim that they're dominant but couldn't buy my respect with a platinum AmEx card.
Basing respect on the role someone assumes rather than their personal qualities makes no sense at all to me.
So, basically, if I say (for example), "Kenin, Sir, You are a bigot and an asshole and i wouldn't cross the street to piss on Your head if Your hair was on fire", then I'm showing respect? Well all the capitals are in the right place, aren't they? So that must be respectful. But if i was to say (for example), "Kenin, I think you have some interesting ideas and I'd be very interested in discussing how you arrived at the conclusions that you have" then I'm not being respectful because I didn't capitalize the correct letters.
Sorry, but that doesn't make any kind of sense.
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This can be absolutely fatal. you have nothing concrete to base your decisions on when you work solely within these parameters. Gut instinct just doesn't cut it without having sufficient data upon which to work with. Remember, gut instinct can very easily be (over)ruled by emotion or the heat of the moment. It is not infallible. Logic would seem to dictate that O/one would gather all the data available to T/them, in the form of good and bad references and the wisdom with which the Dom/me speaks on a continual basis. Then, and only then, can O/one formulate a valid, logical, safe conclusion.
No one else's opinion is going to overrule what my personal judgements tell me. I don't care of someone says that a particular person is highly respected, skilled and admired; if I get a bad vibe from that person then I'm going to listen to my gut. The same goes of people say that Mr.X is a dangerous player - I'm going to form my own opinions and not take someone else's word for it. They could be a jealous ex-partner, or even simply someone whose style was a bad match for Mr.X's.
I've been doing wiitwd for a couple of decades, and my gut hasn't failed me yet. I'm pretty comfortable with trusting my own instincts over those of strangers.
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