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bdsm dreams and their meaning - 1/22/2007 7:15:32 PM

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I had quite the dream when I falled asleep again around Sunday morning 10am to now. I was quite dissapointed that I woke up as, as I was visiting someones home whom I met before in a previous dream in the past and was flirtatious with me. In this one, she was even more and couldn't wait to get rid of everyone else there and when they did due to some emergency or protest... (yes, was running around and protesting in the previous dreams overnight I think), she led me to the house and practically pounce and forced me to a couch bed in the living room, topping me, kissing, clawing my back when she realizes it got a rise. Despite in the back of my mind trying to control that thing in the middle to poke out, I was enjoying myself and the rush I got in the dream...wow. She then talked a bit about going to a see movie together and than going to my place, which I warn her like I usually do with people coming to my place the first time that it is messy. Kissed again and then she got up to get ready and couldn't wait for what she would do to me later....and then I woke. Gahh, darn you for teasing me dream!

I had other dreams following similar themes, some I liked and some I didn't like the one several days before that one where the husband or boyfriend of the woman I was with mastered me and tried to force me to do oral and to masterbate at same time, but I just kicked him and ran out of the house, not caring that I was nude and then I climbed and jumped everywhere like spiderman, just getting away. I woke up from that one disgusted, yet enjoyed the domination aspect despite hating the actually unconsentually forced to please a guy. ewww.

Couple years back, had several dreams of being in prison or in an asylum for one reason or the other, straight jacket and padded rooms, big nurse guys tackling me down when I try to get away and so on. I was quite fond of those fantasies, but yet was during period when I was unemployed and somewhat depressed due to my life situation at the time which help precipated it as I kept thinking of doing something to get arrested, or do something weird to point where my mental state is being questioned. Self-destructive thoughts of my life, like suicide-lite. Yet, despite that, still fond of such fantasies and the dreams then.

Others occasionally still have is of protesting, help lead and being part of big protest, running around causing trouble or/and achieving certaint tasks as the police goes after me, getting arrested and tackled. Sometimes they do not stop me, but the rush is still there, on the run and semi-fugitive because of my protesting. Did some before, but protesting not really fitting in my life right now and the current issues is not enough for more radical protesting, even if I didn't have schedule conflicts to attend some of them liked I wanted too.

While some of latest dreams may not be full fledge D/s or bdsm, still creates that D/s feel, along with bit of primal and agressive feel as I enjoyed wrestling with another women, goofing, them pinning me and me struggling to get out as I push them away. It was fun, but unfortunatly haven't had such since my good friendship ended year and the half ago, partially thanks to my ex with her interference.

Since I haven't proper relationship in general, never truely have much experience in intimacy and in physical contact with another, some of dreams like the one I started this post with reflects that I missing that, and probably will not achieving D/s past that until I experience it and actually subconsciously feel comfortable. Hate when I tense up when another touch in such ways in real life, even with the few times with my ex before. Would be nice to be able to relax and give in, offer my body to one I trust and like to do what they wish.

So yes, this post is out of the blue and random somewhat, but just thoughts needed to be expressed.

-mellian

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RE: bdsm dreams and their meaning - 1/22/2007 7:28:23 PM

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Wow, you have really lively dreams.

My first memories of this stuff came by way of dreams when I was preschool aged. They were about spanking. My current dreams haven't involved any action really ... just collar and leather cuffs. They are barely under dreams when I'm in a light sleep. They are always nice and feel comforting to me.

I wouldn't attempt to interpret someone else's dreams. I went to a Jungian psychiatrist for a few sessions many years ago, more out of curiousity than treatment. If you want some truly wild and wierd dreams, see a Jungian. In the alternative, play with lucid dreaming ... it can be mind-blowing stuff.

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RE: bdsm dreams and their meaning - 1/22/2007 7:51:19 PM

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Really rare that I have any lucid experiences with dreams and hard to get the patience/discipline to make it happen, also not enough sleep during the work week, to achieve it. Two obvious lucid dreams is this one dream still not sure what it was about, but remember willingly changing my appearnace, trying to get the time and asked my mother, but she kept saying it was for me to find out and then a stargate opens which I went through. The other is Freddy Krueger daring to enter my dreams again, actually rewinded the dream a bit and proceeded to kick his ass. It was amusing.

Remember one dream causing some endorphine or whatever to kicked off in my body which is the night after the relationship ended with my ex in negative manner. I had so much trouble sleeping that night and my dreams initially hunted me still until turned to something positive where things was still going well with the ex and some point semi-awaked and felt this wonderful rush, putting me in happy happy land and allowed me to go back to sleep properlly any turmoil. Would be nice to figure out to get my body to do that again and achieve natural highs. :p

I have gone in the habit of writing anygood and relevant dreams in my livejournal, while leaving out the ones that do not seem to have a "story" nor remember what it was about exactly apart form seeing images. Many of them I wrote down are quite fun. Like that one vampiric one where I had this strong actual urge to drink blood spilled by others in the dream, but tried resisting but others encouraged me to let go and let it take over. One moths before that one was like some vampire slash die hard movie in dream form, where I jumped in to different bodies and characters to see what went on, how the vampires terrorists took over the hotel, how they were defeated and being the leader boss hiding from the sun when it rose. Yes, I get vampire aspect of me as well. :p

Wacky dreams, but mucxh prefer more D/s ones...

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RE: bdsm dreams and their meaning - 1/22/2007 8:03:53 PM

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Yikes! They really are wacky.

But journaling is good. The most helpful exercise I found while playing with lucid dreaming was also the easiest. Just ask yourself throughout the day: "Am I dreaming? How do I know for sure?" IME, if you do that enough, you'll do it in your sleep too. The first question: "Am I dreaming?" If there's any doubt at all, you are.

I never got really good at controlling my dreams. Sometimes I could initiate a flying dream or something, but what I got really good at was recognizing dreams. It got to the point where if I was in a bad dream, I would recognize it as a dream and think, "I've got to wake Kevin (my husband at that time) up so he can wake me up. And I would get his attention by talking or kicking or something ... and it worked.

Interesting stuff.

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Really rare that I have any lucid experiences with dreams and hard to get the patience/discipline to make it happen, also not enough sleep during the work week, to achieve it. Two obvious lucid dreams is this one dream still not sure what it was about, but remember willingly changing my appearnace, trying to get the time and asked my mother, but she kept saying it was for me to find out and then a stargate opens which I went through. The other is Freddy Krueger daring to enter my dreams again, actually rewinded the dream a bit and proceeded to kick his ass. It was amusing.

Remember one dream causing some endorphine or whatever to kicked off in my body which is the night after the relationship ended with my ex in negative manner. I had so much trouble sleeping that night and my dreams initially hunted me still until turned to something positive where things was still going well with the ex and some point semi-awaked and felt this wonderful rush, putting me in happy happy land and allowed me to go back to sleep properlly any turmoil. Would be nice to figure out to get my body to do that again and achieve natural highs. :p

I have gone in the habit of writing anygood and relevant dreams in my livejournal, while leaving out the ones that do not seem to have a "story" nor remember what it was about exactly apart form seeing images. Many of them I wrote down are quite fun. Like that one vampiric one where I had this strong actual urge to drink blood spilled by others in the dream, but tried resisting but others encouraged me to let go and let it take over. One moths before that one was like some vampire slash die hard movie in dream form, where I jumped in to different bodies and characters to see what went on, how the vampires terrorists took over the hotel, how they were defeated and being the leader boss hiding from the sun when it rose. Yes, I get vampire aspect of me as well. :p

Wacky dreams, but mucxh prefer more D/s ones...

-mellian

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RE: bdsm dreams and their meaning - 1/22/2007 8:20:39 PM

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I haven't had any nightmares in years, mainly because I think I scared them off in some ways and probably the dreamcatchers helped as i have it on the wall as long as I remember not having nightmares. Probably because since I started discovered and accepted more of who I am, I have gone against life and the world that dare to bring me down with stubborness. Fear only cause anger now, which I turn into strength and coolness. That and I question any fears I experience and challenge it, and treated just another illusion of life. So probably with such an attitude and dark mindset, it translated into my dream and nightmares just went poof.

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