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Mercnbeth -> RE: Accepting Authority? (3/2/2005 3:14:15 PM)
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why a Master/Mistress would want to accept full responsibility, authority and control over a submissive/slave?
willing,
Damn GOOD question! Why the hell did I?!
Not hard to understand why after an hour of you posting this, no ones yet responded. It requires thought, self awareness, and ultimately self assessment. Wow, lets see, soul searching at 3:00 PM on a "hump-day".
The flippant response.....because I can, but there is truth in that answer.
First, I think it's the ultimate selfish pursuit. You know what you want. In life, in lust, and dare I say, in love. You don't trust anyone else to know you well enough to give it to you on their own. You've thought it through, had relationship experiences under someone else's definitions of what's "right" and found "right" - WRONG. Then you were lucky enough to become aware of another way.
You discovered an alternative "lifestyle". Of course that's today's word. Back in my formative years - you just met 'kinky' folk. Within that group though there was a different level. A level where the 'kink' didn't end at the end of the night. A level that the relationship between the two (or more) people that transcended the physical or the sensation of kinky play.
You were lucky enough and, being from NYC, aggressive enough to go to those people and ask; "what is it you guys do?" After talking, hanging around, and absorbing you realize that they have an all encompassing relationship, based on discipline, rules, rituals, and protocol. Where there was no doubt on how to act and how to live. There was a simple choice for the participants, live or leave. You then found out that this was achieved with a very simple tool - TRUST. It was the simplest form of trust. Represent who you are, allow another person to be a part of what you need, have a common goal, and work on that goal every day.
I knew that's what I wanted. About the time what I was doing evolved into be called a "lifestyle", the person that I sought was labeled a slave, very different from the people I 'played' with hence called submissives. The difference is as clear now as it was then. You partied as a sub, you lived it as a slave.
I wanted a slave because I knew it was the person who best represented the goal I had for a relationship. I "can" and do have one now, because I found someone who shared those ideas. I can afford it, because in my "customized" slave definition accessory, MY slave's one job is serving me, meaning no other Masters - business or personal are allowed in her life. And I don't lend her out on a temp basis either.
Ultimately though it comes back to being selfish, self indulgent, and most important confident. Confident that what you wish you had is really what you want. Because you also get a responsibility. You get a commitment. With a slave you also have consistency. You know the ultimate responsibly for your happiness resides in you. I wanted that as a goal for living my life. It's a GREAT way to live!
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