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mixielicous -> looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 8:14:12 AM)

Well, i have been with Mine for 13 months, collared almost 9. i moved in with Him right before xmas. all the *fun* has faded. And while i am not looking for ways to get spanked or tied up [altho i miss it so] i feel He may grow a bit weary of me [He works long hard days] and i am just looking for ways to

[for example] remind Him why He wanted to be my Master, make His life easier [i dont know how though i already do all the cleaning laundry], make myself appear more appealing, just something to put a smile on His face because i feel He grows tired of me....

if You can understand what I am trying to say i would appreciate advice [&:]



mixielicous -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 8:17:49 AM)

someone suggested to me....

maybe he needs the big 3 for a little while:

1. Food

2. Sex

3. Silence



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 8:19:15 AM)

I think you both need the Big One:

Talking to eachother directly about expectations, changes, frustrations and solutions.



LordVelvet -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 8:49:57 AM)

Sex won't fix a problem and will most likely only mask it. Silence really won't help. I would suggest trying to talk to Him.
Lord Velvet



RedSavageSlave -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 8:54:02 AM)

Let  him come home to a wonderfully clean house, a special meal that can be served to just one as you stand behind him and rub his shoulders while he enjoys the meal (and perhaps feeds you by hand little tidbits as he wishes). Light candles (and the fireplace if you have one) and leave all the lights off. Lay out his favorite toys next to the bed with the covers turned down. Make it clear that the night is simply his to relax and do as he wishes and you are simply available to serve him however he needs. Be a foot stool if he prefers to sit in a chair and watch tv or read.

That kind of stuff always worked to put a smile on the face of my previous Master.
Good luck to you~



RavenMuse -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 9:02:54 AM)

I can't speak for Him, but only two of your list would work well for Me.

Good food is always appreciated, good sex even more so. Whilst I will take what I want, sometimes it is nice when My girl shows Me how much she needs Me even if I haven't indicated I am in that mood... I maybe thinking of other things but if the subject is raised in a pleasing fashion... begging is a good start *g* then I might find I AM in the mood after all :)

But silence? If I want her silence I will tell her not to disturb Me. Communicate, if you have problems, concerns or needs then bring them.... Make it easier for Me to do MY job as Master, fullfill MY responcibilitys. Yes it is something that takes effort but what many girls fail to understand is that Masters ENJOY fullfilling those responcibilitys over all. We certainly enjoy the benifits of the strong stable relationship that exists when those responcibilitys are fullfilled and we have a happy doteing girl who is eager to please us rather than an unhappy wench who is so wrapped up in her own problems that it is getting in the way of her submitting from the heart!



Bearlee -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 9:33:08 AM)

Raven!!!   How are you, Sir?  And...how good to see you again!  I hope all is well. 
 
Lovely response here...I knew there was a reason I liked you.
 
LOL... for some odd reason mine calls me his little beggar!
 
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<edited cuz I can't spell>



OedipusRexIt -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 9:42:17 AM)

This is so altogether obvious that no doubt you've already tried it:

**** Talk to him about it ****

Maybe he knows the answer, why not go right to the source?

So many people never take the basic step of communicating... did you?



ToGiveDivine -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 9:49:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

Raven!!!   How are you, Sir?  And...how good to see you again!  I hope all is well. 
 
Lovely response here...I knew there was a reason I liked you.
 
LOL... for some odd reason mine calls me his little begger!
 
b


Does this mean you've finally found a Master?  Is this why your MsBearlee persona has vanished?



KatyLied -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 9:55:11 AM)

You've been living together for less than one month and the "fun" has faded?  I think you need to dig deep and ask him if there are any issues in the relationship.  Perhaps he's under stress at work or has personal problems.  It doesn't matter, if they affect your relationship, they are your problems too.



mixielicous -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 10:15:25 AM)

a few things - when i referred to "fun" i should have been clear i meant in a bdsm manner... yea theres been no *fun* since the job started[august], but this is a sacrifice i am willing to make until things settle down.

and yes we have talked about this matter, theres nothing specific we've been argueing [sp?] over, i am just His first live in gf and i think He is just adapting slowly.

thanks for the tips, while He doesnt like back rubs there are some good ideas to make the evening about Him.



OedipusRexIt -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 10:39:23 AM)

If you have indeed talked about it, then the next question might be:  What die HE say about whatever the problem is?  Did he provide any feedback at all? 

If you talked and got no further direction, is that the problem itself?

Not at all sure if this is an issue about the bdsm relationship or about just spicing up a little.

Good luck either way.



Aubre -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 11:12:19 AM)

-kneel by his side as he sits holding his drink
-offer yourself up as his footstool (be agressive, slide yourself under his feet)
-fix him a nice dinner, just for him (eat for yourself while you cook) and then give him a bj between his legs while he enjoys his meal
-greet him naked with just your collar on, on your knees with just your collar on and a favorite discipline implement in your mouth

Good luck to you.



Bearlee -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 11:34:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

Raven!!!   How are you, Sir?  And...how good to see you again!  I hope all is well. 
 
Lovely response here...I knew there was a reason I liked you.
 
LOL... for some odd reason mine calls me his little beggar!


Does this mean you've finally found a Master?  Is this why your MsBearlee persona has vanished? 


mmmmmmmmmmm... maaaaaaaaaabe  [:)]     We're getting along famously; now if the weather would only cooperate here in Colorado so we could actually MEET!!!   (such a concept, I know...)   Let's just say I'm not feeling very Toppy these days!  LOL
 
b





Celeste43 -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 12:03:16 PM)

Have you looked up Seasonal Affectiveness Disorder? Because here in the northeast, we don't get enough sunshine from fall through April and it has a huge toll on the emotions. Ask if he always feels better in the summer and has a pattern of being down during the winter. If so, get him a light box alarm.

If this is the problem, then it's a physiological thing and no matter how wonderful you are, it won't help. If what he needs is sunshine, replace all the bulbs with full spectrum ones, get him a gift to a tanning salon, try a light box. Of course there's always a vacation in Florida. Could you folks get a week off and drive down?



amuzingtoyou -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 12:11:24 PM)

all relationships change. After 13 months you are no longer in the "honeymoon" period. Now is when the real work comes into play. If you truly feel he is growing weary of you, apart from speaking with him about this outright..there really isn't much you can do about it. You can do special things for him, to show him how much you care about him, or appreciate him. There are times in my own relationship that i miss some of the things that occured during the courting phase. At the same time, i understand his work has increased, his stress has increased, and it might not be a direct reflection of his feelings towards me. The best thing to do is to talk to him about how you are feelings. Otherwise he may not know, and he will assume everything is just fine.



angaothsi -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 12:52:31 PM)

Reminds of a quote my friend uses as her tag line:
Men have two emotions, hungry and horny.
If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich



angaothsi -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 12:55:54 PM)

In your profile you state "nillia" man, I was wondering if you are speaking in both places of the same man, somehow I would think that had something to do with the BDSM issue



OedipusRexIt -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 1:31:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: angaothsi

Reminds of a quote my friend uses as her tag line:
Men have two emotions, hungry and horny.
If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich


You forgot the other two emotions:  bored and annoyed...

What's the reverse of mysogynistic...?



PAsextoy4u -> RE: looking for ways to make Him smile (1/23/2007 3:15:18 PM)

Ummmm can a man really eat a meal, without choking, if a submissive is between his legs giving him oral pleasure???  Inquiring minds want to know



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