in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness

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thaimeeuppppp -> in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/23/2007 9:01:27 PM)
many speak of what turns them on about someone or what they look for. I am curious about what turns you OFF, personality wise about a sub

Totalmaster4you -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/23/2007 11:16:43 PM)
[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m21.gif[/image]To answer your question you need to define your parameters better for example did you meet at the grocery store or a BDSM exhibition? How long have you known the person? You understand what I mean. But maybe I can partly answer you. many people think of mental bondage as a separate subset. I think that there is a mental aspect to every part of BDSM. So the critical part that makes a good slave/sub good or a bad slave/sub bad is their attitude. Looks generally don't change so what is it that changes a relationship? It's the attitude.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m27.gif[/image]

GentlehandSTL -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 2:10:16 PM)
Voice... Several women I got to 'phone call' stage, I got turned off by their voice. Oh well.

tade -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 2:34:33 PM)
Had to kind of chuckle at the "level of attractivness" part. I have topped more than a few women that probably would be passed over by alot of men because of that reason that were all Hellfire and Brimstone once you got them worked up. Then again attractive can mean different things to different people. Attitude goes a very long way with me., both for the better and for worse. I can work through just about anything except for anything done half-assed. That and punctuality... ;)

MadRabbit -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 3:09:06 PM)
Too much talking. I am generally a quiet person in RL and find silence to be enjoyable. Not that I want someone who cant carry on a conversation, but someone who talks twice as much as I do or takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story is extremely, extremely irritable to me. Of course, this is behavior I have no problem at all striving to correct =P, but it can easily be a deal breaker for me.

LaTigresse -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 3:17:28 PM)
For me it is everything that I would consider in any sort of relationship, compatibility, maturity, health issues, ability to function like a responsible adult. I don't see that is has to be, or even should be, any different.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 3:21:27 PM)
Wow, this one is easy. I will not dom anyone who has no personality. Anyone who cannot make an independant decision if they are told to do so. I cannot dom someone I do not trust, and I prefer not to dom someone who cannot hold up a conversation before or after we play. Attractiveness aside, I wil also steer clear of anyone who has a major ego about what a wonderful submissive they are, or who seems to think that the best way to get my attention is to badmouth someone else to make themselves look better. DV

kyraofMists -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 4:02:56 PM)
Disobedience would turn my Lord off, so would manipulation, lying, being close-minded and having an overall negative attitude. Knight's kyra

hisannabelle -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 4:52:30 PM)
in terms of attractiveness, for me, it either is or isn't. there are awesome people that i've gone out with and even moved to the bedroom stage with, but i just couldn't get into them for whatever reason. for Him, i know that lying, especially, as well as disobedience and closemindedness are huge turnoffs. He is also very interested in sex and spirituality, dominance and the body/mind/spirit connection, so someone whose spirituality was dogmatic and rigid would probably not click well with Him. He definitely doesn't care for attitude, brattiness, or immaturity.

mstrjx -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 5:36:09 PM)
The inherent quick answer is to say 'nothing' outside of unattractiveness, but that's not quite true. I've seen some other answers include attitude/brattiness/the like. Sure, that's annoying at first, but part of the process of the power exchange can be behavior modification. But there are some other traits that are not quick to change and much more of an obstacle. Being someone you cannot trust. Someone who steals. Liars. These people come with a different set of issues that a relationship of this sort isn't going to make go away. Anything else seems like gravy. You like it? You make it want to go away? Simple. Jeff

RumpusParable -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 5:51:26 PM)
Writing or speaking poorly in a way not due to English being their second language or other understandable issues. Attitude and maturity. Being focused on a physical kink or looking for sex from me. Inability to follow directions. Rudeness to myself or others. Lack of proper hygeine. Homophobia/anti-LGBT.

angaothsi -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 6:44:13 PM)
Good answers, but if I may ask, what does LGBT stand for?

MaryT -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 7:51:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angaothsi Good answers, but if I may ask, what does LGBT stand for? Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transsexual.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 7:53:45 PM)
You know, Rumpus, I have to agree with the poor english part as well. Someone who cannot communicate well becasue they are not trying, or not intelligent enough to. DV

NightWindWhisper -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 8:01:02 PM)
A substance abuse problem; inability to define appropriate boundaries, and meanness. These are the kiss of death.

RumpusParable -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 8:21:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angaothsi Good answers, but if I may ask, what does LGBT stand for? As MaryT said, with a slight correction: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 11:10:27 PM)
Whinning and begging way beyond what is called for pisses Me off. I have hung up on them mid-sentence when they have that crap going on. If they dont follow instructions,a 1st time visit is one thing,but continous misbehaving is grounds for dismissal. I want to be Respected/Adored but there is a point where its a little too extreme.

angaothsi -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/24/2007 11:38:27 PM)
Ahh thank you, both RumpusParable and MaryT, I had correctly guessed the first two, I guess comman sense should have filled in the other two. But,I like to be able to keep up with what everyone is talking about and I would rather ask then make an ass of myself grins

smirkingsheep -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/25/2007 7:13:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit Too much talking. I am generally a quiet person in RL and find silence to be enjoyable. Not that I want someone who cant carry on a conversation, but someone who talks twice as much as I do or takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story is extremely, extremely irritable to me. Of course, this is behavior I have no problem at all striving to correct =P, but it can easily be a deal breaker for me. What if someone doesn't talk a lot but still takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story, because they're pausing for 10 minutes between each phrase? [;)]

mnottertail -> RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to Dom a sub beyond level of attractiveness (1/25/2007 7:24:16 AM)
That nick is fuckin' gangbusters!!!!! LOLOLOL, Ron

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