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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:51:08 AM

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Then why start a thread on it if you already know?

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:52:12 AM

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Oh, I hesitate to involve myself in this imbriglio.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:53:27 AM

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You made it very clear to me, I suppose perhaps I was not clear enough to you. If someone sends me an unsolicited email I would feel no obligation or need to email them back. I would then ask you, are you only emailing submissives that explicitly are looking to be the beta in a poly home? From my cursory experience in reading female profiles I have not seen an abundance of them looking to be added as a second, although some do. It seems that if you are sending out gobs of emails, perhaps it is that you are sending them to people that are not interested in you, you are indeed spamming them, you are no different than the credit card offer in my opinion.

I have had many emails from couples, and yes it is slightly rude that they did not bother to see what i was looking for. Rudeness goes both ways after all.

I have only mailed those who are looking for couples and are interested in experience and/or more. I know from experience, getting e-mails from Dominants on another site who want to play with me, and don't read my profile. I have done my homework!

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:57:59 AM

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Then why start a thread on it if you already know?

Because I am not the only one who needs the information. Just getting information for myself and seeing what can come out of it, new people need to know what games go on and seeing the responses here I am sure will inform them that there are many playing games.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:58:09 AM

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Oh, I hesitate to involve myself in this imbriglio.

We begin by coveting what we see every day. Don't you feel eyes moving over your body, Clarice? And don't your eyes move over the things you want?

I thought it was time for that, don't ask me why.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 9:58:58 AM

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New people will learn all on their own, just like adults do.
And then they won't be new anymore.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:00:02 AM

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And then they won't be new anymore.

And they will then become *real*.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:00:34 AM

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Amen! Amen! Where is Bill Engvall when you need him??? You make the judgement of "so called submissives" because they do not answer your email? That makes them wannabes? How so? I have received some emails that generated a courteous reply to say "thanks but no thanks" and others where either the profile was too ludicrous to consider or the email was so completely idiotic, it didn't deme a reply, in fact resented the few seconds it took to read it, it was that worthless. This is advertising at its best....what you are stating in your ad is for a submissive playmate who gets nothing but play, no committment, no relationship, just "experiences" and "training." Training for what? For an owner who has no intent of owning, in a position that has no future? If you desire serious submissives, you need a serious ad with something to offer.
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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:03:14 AM

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New people will learn all on their own, just like adults do.
And then they won't be new anymore.

When I started out in this lifestyle I was scared and confused, as most slaves are from my contacts. They should have someone to whom they can learn from. I wish I would have had someone to guide me in my journey. That is why I enjoy being part of the community, just to give any guidance that may be needed or desired. I have helped many in my years and that is why I am here also, to give my advice when needed and not to play with others heads. JMO!

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:05:15 AM

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If someone is not capable of navigating their life without assistance I doubt they'd be a good match for a partner.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:08:49 AM

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That's all well and good and very sweet, but not everyone is looking for a protector. I was new too at one time. We all were. Guess what. I used common sense, my OWN gut instincts and even more common sense. I survived. You're talking about how people respond and don't respond to your emails. And the games they play. We've all dealt with it. The difference is, most just let it go and don't come running to this side to whine under the false pretext of concern for others who are new.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:09:11 AM

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Oh, I hesitate to involve myself in this imbriglio.

Pussy.

He'd just rather be involved with Natalie Imbruglia.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:09:45 AM

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Amen! Amen! Where is Bill Engvall when you need him??? You make the judgement of "so called submissives" because they do not answer your email? That makes them wannabes? How so? I have received some emails that generated a courteous reply to say "thanks but no thanks" and others where either the profile was too ludicrous to consider or the email was so completely idiotic, it didn't deme a reply, in fact resented the few seconds it took to read it, it was that worthless. This is advertising at its best....what you are stating in your ad is for a submissive playmate who gets nothing but play, no committment, no relationship, just "experiences" and "training." Training for what? For an owner who has no intent of owning, in a position that has no future? If you desire serious submissives, you need a serious ad with something to offer.
best regards,
jadia

In my near 7 years I have never had to deal with disrespect because i am a very respectful person myself. There are many submissives out there who are in search of a mentor or Trainer so as they have something to offer a Master in the future. But then those are the ones who are serious about this lifestyle I am guessing. I have had the experience with those types of people and have moved since then and am trying to get myself involved with the serious lifestyle community. I assume the internet just isn't the place to find serious minded people nowadays. In the beginning there were many who were interested in this kind of relationship but there are just too many who play online only now.

There is a word called discretion where one would prefer to give their information privately then for all to see. Mine is short but if or when someone does contact me they will be given more information once we are comfortable with them as we wouldn't expect anything until they themselves are comfortable with us....there are alot of wackos out their and one needs to be secure!

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:12:31 AM

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There are many submissives out there who are in search of a mentor or Trainer so as they have something to offer a Master in the future. But then those are the ones who are serious about this lifestyle I am guessing.

Call me crazy, but I prefer to skip right over the old mentor and trainer bullshit and get right to spending time with the master. Guess I'm fake.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:12:49 AM

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If someone is not capable of navigating their life without assistance I doubt they'd be a good match for a partner.

I agree wholeheartedly, but if they need some type of guidance in whether they are in the right lifestyle or not, if they are confused then they should have someone to go to. Even if it just to ask questions.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:13:40 AM

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Are you kidding? People aren't serious unless they want to be mentored or training? How can you "train" someone for another Master? That makes no sense.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:15:09 AM

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Call me crazy, but I prefer to skip right over the old mentor and trainer bullshit and get right to spending time with the master. Guess I'm fake.

No I did not say that....but there are those who want to enter this life but need reassurance that they are not making a mistake...and need to know if they really desire this or not.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:16:27 AM

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Just wondering because I have sent many out, which have been months since, and have not received an answer to any even though i see that they have read them or they are online.

It's odd to me that not a single answer has come back out of many emails sent out. Alot of people have problems on this site with either sending or receiving email. Maybe it's a technical difficulty. Dont know. Just a thought.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:17:08 AM

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Call me crazy, but I prefer to skip right over the old mentor and trainer bullshit and get right to spending time with the master. Guess I'm fake.

No I did not say that....but there are those who want to enter this life but need reassurance that they are not making a mistake...and need to know if they really desire this or not.

And you have that ability to answer those questions for them? You must be amazingly talented.

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RE: Hesitation? - 1/25/2007 10:17:33 AM

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Maybe they aren't looking for a female dominant, which is what you are saying you would be to them in your profile.

When I was brand-new and in the midst of sub-frenzy I had people to go to who had no interest in "training" me. They were perfectly willing to be good friends while I got my feet wet and went under a time or two. But they knew that any training I received needed to be from my master, not them.

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