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Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 10:16:01 AM   
onestandingstill


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I have something I don't understand about my butt and breast sensitivity.
I love breast and nipple torture like pinchy things on my breasts and nipples, breast bondage and I love needle play there too but the stinging impact of a small breast flogger is way chronically painful and causes me anxiety.
I love impact play on my butt pretty hard, but clothes pins or needles are horribly painful and it again makes me anxious.

I'm not sure why in some things in these areas I enjoy at levels considered extreme and other things I'm such a light weight I embarrass myself.

Is this common?
Have you found certain types of stimulus in areas you enjoy or at least don't mind that certain body parts do?
suzanne
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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 10:34:49 AM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		I don't think it would be at all unusual that something you enjoy on one part of your body, you'd find very distressing on another. Many men enjoy a nice hard slam across the butt with a wooden paddle, but if you did it to their balls......not. Int the same way, individuals vary as to sensitivity of different parts of their body. That is why communicatlon, and knowing your partner, is so important during play.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 10:36:11 AM   
amuzingtoyou


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Oh its very common to have different areas of the body respond differently to differnt stimuli. I can take anything on my arse for a long long time. (well almost anything lol). But start dragging that knife across my back, and I'll be screaming for mercy. Same with nipple pain. It will drive me over the edge faster than anything. To where i am yellowing, redding, crying uncle. So don't think you are a lightweight, thats just how your body is. You can take things alot of people can't. And in some areas you are more sensitive. The key is finding a dominant who understands your body and works that to your or his/her advantage.
Just enjoy your body....and discovering all its wonders.
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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 10:50:16 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		suzanne,

I don't think it's uncommon to be able to handle, or even like, certain kinds of pain in certain areas. Each area of our bodies has different nerve bundles and such. Thus, we'll react differently to different stimuli. I mean, given the choice of stubbing my toe or sticking a needle in it to any depth beyond skin level, I'd choose to stub it!

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 11:19:42 AM   
PookBaccus


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Status: offline 		Mutually defining " Hard Limits " and having those determinations respected is absolutely neccessary to safe and enjoyable play. If a Dom wont Honor your limitations and wont acquiesce that little bit of control, it fails to set a solid foundation for the relationship. (In MY implacable opinion) 

Ones reaction to intensity can flux. Going mild at first can be utilized in acclimating you to more intense sensations. Again the Dom needs to be able to ( I dare to say ) Respect you, enough to take you on this ramping up journey by being mindful unto your, what I've labeled, reaction sets.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 4:33:27 PM   
beltainefaerie


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Status: offline 		I completely understand.  I can take far more of the cane or crop on my butt than on my back.  I adore being flogged on my back and butt, I can hardly take anything on my breasts or inner thighs.  Also, what my nipples can take varies widely with my moon cycles.  There are variations, not only from person to person, and on any person from area to area, but even on any area at different times.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 4:39:19 PM   
BabyNyla


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My body reacts to different things.  Some days I can take a good flogging, other days I can't.  It all depends on my body, the time, etc.  If I haven't had caffine my skin is not as sensitive and I can take a lot more pain.  If it's close to my period I can stand anything on or around my breasts.  So it's normal for each person to have different *limits* or reactions.


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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 6:54:51 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Heavy wooden hairbrush on my butt = bliss. Try it on my inner thighs and you'll be scraping me off the ceiling. There are days he could take a two by four to my butt and I'll just purr. Other days and I'll be screaming holy hell.

Between headspace, different physical reactions and changing hormones I never know what my reactions will be. One good reason to start slow and find out when you're approaching overload instead of making assumptions and hitting red first swat out.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 9:50:27 PM   
PAsextoy4u


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Status: offline 		Im not saying that this applies to you, but I wanted to add these conditions that will also affect our sensitivity levels and tolerances.  Some have mentioned hormonal changes with their periods, but its also as women shift into peri-menopause, sometime in their 30s usually.  Hormones are slowly shifting in even different ways, and it affects our skin, our nerves, and other body functions.   And being diabetic or having low thyroid can affect our nervous system and our skin, which could affect how we feel or interpret different kinds of stimuli.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/25/2007 10:12:21 PM   
VerySpankable1


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Status: offline 		Everyone has their own level of pain tolerance and you shouldn't worry about what others may feel with the same type of play.
i have limits too and even at times do have problems with certain activities at certain times.
Whether it be hormones or that period of the month, their are emotions that will bring you more sensitivity during play.
EXAMPLE:  i had been upset over a family member and the stress was more then i had expected, or felt.  i didn't think that it would interfere with our session that W/we were going to have.  i can handle alot of pain, thigh torture is His favorite.  As the session progressed and He was leading me into a more harsher/painfilled play i began to feel aggitated and couldn't get into it any farther.  He ended up giving me a sensual session instead and i still cried at the end.  W/we then realized that even though we don't consider somethings a stressor we will talk things out more thoroughly before W/we get involved in a deeper session.  i am a bit of a painslut so W/we do get involved with the heavier duty toys at times.  So the need to express our feeling more openly is an important part of the relationship, even if it is just a small thing, it must be considered as a stressor at times.  It may not happen often but when/if it does W/we talk it out.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 1/26/2007 3:48:12 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Again, everyone is different of course.  i like thuddy and pinchy but not stingy.  i love hot wax but not violet wand etc.  i was amazed how sensitive the skin around the armpit is...who knew? 

i think sometimes we go to demos or dungeons and are amazed at how much someone else can do and wonder if we can ever be the same.  i don't know that i need to aspire to be like anyone else, just to be me and enjoy it. 


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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 2/2/2007 10:04:00 AM   
readyrider53


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Status: offline 		I find that it sometimes is according to how long I have been without release. If I had just come it would not be as much pleasure having my ass whacked. But if I haven't been allowed any release for some time you could make my ass red no problem I would be cheering you on. It seems that way with me with regard to any pain I take it a lot better when I need release. I chanel the pain to where I need the release and when I get it oh brother it is great. See if it doesn't make a difference for you . No harm in trying except maybe going without for a little while.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 2/3/2007 8:42:46 PM   
JackM1


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Status: offline 		perhaps its like the difference between being punched or slapped in the face, and having someone pluck/wax your eyebrows?  ive had male friends who regularly get struck in the face from the sports they play, but cant handle me plucking their eyebrws at all. sometimes having the pain spread over a larger area on certain parts of your body is better then having a pinpointed center of pain. i myself can handle being wacked open handed on most parts of my body, but really find clothes pins painful, visa versa on my face; pins are fine, but being slapped or backhanded puts me in agony.

just a thought.<3

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 2/5/2007 3:43:11 PM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		Hi suzanne,
 
Pain tolerances and the types of pain that can be tolerated differ
from person to person and can change due to stress, hormones,
other illness or accidents.
 
This is normal and to be expected.

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RE: Breast play/ butt play levels of pain - 2/6/2007 7:48:33 PM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		I can understand suzanne, i have body parts that can take much more than other parts of me.  My nipples are my weakness, i can take a flogger/crop/cane on my breasts.......it does depend on the mood i am in though.  My less sensitive body part are my shoulder blades and middle of the back.  On some days, i feel i could take all of what Master could give me.........but some other days......just him mentioning his evil flogger, makes me wanna crawl in a bunker. 

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