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MadameBette -> RE: inexperienced subby,with alot of ideas..how far can i go first time round? (3/3/2005 2:23:10 PM)
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ORIGINAL: scarletribbon
...hes so very new, never done it, but is interested in loads of stuff.
so can you give me a rough idea of how far i should go on first sessions, do i keep them short and concentrate on just a few things, and slowly introduce stuff. I'm getting an idea of what hes interested in, but no idea how he's gonna deal with it in reality.
I'm only concerned and voicing this here cos he's not just my friend, he's someone new and I dont wanna spoil it, or hurt him, or make a fool of him or whatever.
I applaud you for your caution and concern for your friend.
Whenever I’ve played with someone ‘brand new’, I usually do a light session, using a ‘smorgasbord’ if you will, approach.
I never use real bondage for the first time.
Instead, I prefer ‘mental’ bondage. I make him lie down and give him two positions that he must keep his arms in, - either out to his sides, or above his head. This is not as threatening as being tied up.
I do like a blindfold.
You say you have an idea of what piques his interest. Use those ‘toys’ first.
If he has expressed an interest in floggers, make sure you ‘warm him up’ first. A light spanking, etc.
Make sure he knows he has a ‘safeword’. I use ‘red’ to stop the play, but ‘yellow’ means ‘pause’. Ask him frequently if he’s ‘okay’.
I like to use a combination of sensation and percussion.
In addition to floggers et al, use fur, feathers, ice, and depending on the person, maybe a few drips of candle wax. Scratch, tickle, spank, pinch his nipples.
Don’t make the play go on too long. My first mentor said, “Always leaving them wanting more, and you won’t go wrong.”
Don’t forget the aftercare, and when he’s ready, do a ‘show and tell’. Let him see what you’ve used and let him tell you what he liked, …felt good, or he could do without...
Have fun! Play safe!
~ Bette
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