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RE: Where's the line - 3/18/2007 5:19:15 AM

Elorin

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Regardless of whether someone is an occasional play partner, a sub, a slave, or anything in between, there is a relationship for me. If there is nothing more than "beat me" then I ask for cash and call it a client.

The longer the association, the more likely my relationship involves vanilla outings, hanging out with family, and love. While I have not up till now had any male subs as lovers, I would consider it with a sub who I felt attraction to who had also proved compatible lin D/s.

The closest I've ever come to BDSM w/out a relationship was professional clients and someone who approached me at a party that I played with once and never saw again.

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RE: Where's the line - 3/20/2007 7:01:34 PM

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I've been in a relationship with my boy for a while. I've met his family, he's met mine, his family doesn't have a clue, mine doesn't care...

We do "normal" relationship stuff. But if I start playing with him in a restraunt he knows better than to object. Albeit the relationship is a little less D/s structured some times, but niether of us mind. We both know who is in charge. ;)

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RE: Where's the line - 3/21/2007 11:08:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MakeItTight

It's a relief to hear that there is more to the BDSM scene than just lust.

Thanks all-

Who are you talking to? Where are you finding these Dominas you contact?
I only ask as I note (and I tried hard!) that I cannot find your profile on this site. It's hard to find you, if you are not there to be found!
I also ask because your screen name (MakeItTight...hmmm), as well as your very sensual picture, seems to be in direct contrast to your relief regarding the lust factor.
BTW, welcome to the boards! *Smile*

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RE: Where's the line - 3/21/2007 11:21:05 AM

MsKatHouston

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It is all over the board. For me, I have to have some connection with the person even if it is more casual. Even if I were to have a strictly service submissive, such as a sissy maid where we engage in no sexual activity, it would be nice to have a rapport, friendship, be able to carry on a conversation.

So, I would suggest making sure you know what it is you seek and being clear on that to prospective dominants, including communicating that in your profile.

I was able to easily find your profile btw...after reading it you have some good points in it but I am not really sure what exactly you are after. Also the line about "If you want to get to know me then get ahold of me however you can." comes across as if you are unwilling to make any effort. I don't think you mean it that way though and maybe that's just my perception.

There are many women looking for a relationship. If you are having a hard time finding it, try some different approaches. I think you are a good looking guy so that's a bonus...maybe just try to be a bit more clear on what you are looking for as well as what you will bring to the table. Good luck :)

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RE: Where's the line - 3/21/2007 11:22:31 AM

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quote:

I only ask as I note (and I tried hard!) that I cannot find your profile on this site.

Hmmm...I found it simply by clicking his name on his forum nic. Maybe a lil glitch of some sort?

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RE: Where's the line - 3/21/2007 5:08:49 PM

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**Waving to Ms.Kat** I am getting it now, so it probably was a temporary glitch.

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RE: Where's the line - 3/22/2007 10:01:50 AM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: MakeItTight

From what I've heard there is a line between a dom/sub and an actual relationship. Maybe I'm being naive, but is there anyone else who wants a relationship with their dom/sub, instead of keeping them as a 2nd life.

I all ready replied but these other thoughts popped up in my head.

My slave lives with me. We are all part of the same family of choice -- anyone joining my household would also be joining my family.

This does not change the fact that I have the authority in our relationship simply that for some people (usually those living in fantasy) they might see it as mundane.

In short, there are multiple ways to do Ds or M/s or any type of human relationship. You just have to be willing to do the work to make it work.

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 3/22/2007 10:02:53 AM >

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