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LadyAlexa -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/27/2007 7:06:44 AM)
Meet when you feel comfortable also taking into consideration traveling expenses/time. But I wouldn't wait more then three months. I've waited months to meet some only to NOT have them meet me. Talk on the phone at least once, more is best. Sometimes the persons voice can just turn you off. I always do a very vanilla meeting usually for lunch or dinner or dessert/coffee. I check out how they respond to waitstaff, others around us. If they can talk about something other then when we will session! There have been a few I've met who I would love to have developed a LTR but apparently, although they said they loved being with me, never followed up on our meeting. On a side note: one good thing for a sub to do is send a thank you note to the Dom/me after meeting. Be honest, if you feel it's not going to work out, say so. If you want to continue make sure you are clear about that; tell the Dom/me your availability timeline; and pay attention to what she says.

orfunboi -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/27/2007 8:09:58 AM)
About a week depending on speed of email replies. I like to meet at a munch or coffee shop.

orfunboi -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/27/2007 8:12:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCece2u I have to agree with as soon as possible. In my own opinion waiting two months is waiting too long. Why exert the time and energy over the next two months only to meet and find out things are not as they should be. Been there done that and have tshirt, cap and tote bag. There's a tote bag....geesh, i been robbed [:(]

pixelslave -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/28/2007 12:01:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAlexa On a side note: one good thing for a sub to do is send a thank you note to the Dom/me after meeting. Be honest, if you feel it's not going to work out, say so. If you want to continue make sure you are clear about that; tell the Dom/me your availability timeline; and pay attention to what she says. Excellent idea! Thank you for sharing that! [:D] - pixel

Denny17 -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/28/2007 6:57:19 AM)
I like to meet as soon as they tell me okay i can. Hell if I as much get someone interesetd in me im good!

asubmissiveheart -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/28/2007 9:01:36 AM)
I meet her when she states she wants to meet me. It is her decision to make as she is the Dominant one.

GirlyDevil -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/29/2007 9:17:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia I am happy to say, I have been talking to a delightful submissive for about a week. I know its early, BUT I wanted to ask this question. How long do you wait to meet someone that seems promising? It is so rare that I even want to meet someone, I am very picky. So far so good with my little pup. Personally, I am thinking if it continues to go well.....maybe in about 2 months. Of course, it will be a totally "vanilla" meeting, probably for dinner and conversation. I wait until I feel comfortable with the person and than wait at least 1-2 months before acutally setting up to meet. He lives about 4 hours away so.................we will see. [:D] How long do you wait to meet someone you have been chatting with online AND where and what do you do when you first meet them?

sarbonn -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/29/2007 9:17:11 PM)
I usually meet people within the first month of speaking online. But I don't meet a lot of people. The latest person I'm seeing I met after a few months, but just because I was really busy and unable to meet. I sometimes get really concerned because the distance often means a rare visit because my life hasn't gotten any less hectic. But she has been okay with that, although it leaves me feeling like I'm not being all I can for her, and unfortunately, I really don't have more time than I am able to give at this time.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/29/2007 9:22:37 PM)
For me it depends on two things. What I expect to come from our meeting, and where they are located. With Angel, we waited about 3 months, and even then we met more by happy accident than actual planning. I have waited longer for a few long distance people, making sure that what we had in common would warrant the expense and time investment. Other local people I have met in as little as a week or so. Then agian, I have met quite a few people offline who were not being considered as submissives for me. I have made a few good friends offline (here and elsewhere) and when it felt right platonically, we have just said to hell with it lets meet. DV

mellian -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/30/2007 6:37:52 PM)
I have yet met anyone after meeting them on collarme, the other site main bdsm personals site, or some other online location for potential D/s relations. Few times that could have happened usually they kept pushing the date with no return, cancel the meeting twice in the row and then now hearing from them, and so on. Apart from that, yes I met people whom I met online first before in person, bu that is usually because of munches, parties, and other things that as nothing to do with bdsm. -mellian

Lorelei115 -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/30/2007 7:14:42 PM)
I wait about as much time as it takes for me to be comfortable. I definitely have at least one phone conversation beforehand, but I think while you can learn the "nitty gritty" of someone online, you can't learn much about themselves and their actual personalities. Usually I like to meet within a week to a month, depending on schedules/ distances, etc. I always like to meet for breakfast, I think its a good chance to get to know somone in their "unguarded" time before they build up their facade for the day. If things don't go so well you can always claim an early appointment somewhere. On the other hand, if they go well you have the rest of the day... [;)]

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/30/2007 8:58:16 PM)
I have to go with the sooner the better. It's been my experience that no matter how much chemistry there may seem to be between two people communicating by E-mail and IM, there is no guarantee that the chemistry will exist face to face.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/30/2007 9:00:12 PM)
still waiting[sm=banghead.gif]

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (1/31/2007 3:26:19 AM)
Inertia never got anyone anywhere.

QuixoticOtaku -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (2/4/2007 9:13:34 AM)
Maybe it's just me, but I really would like to meet someone. I think that a few email exchanges are enough to see if there's potential. Online chatting seems to go nowhere after a couple weeks. I think one has to meet in person, go on some dates--like vanilla people do-- to see if it's worth going further. See, doing a scene--much less thinking about 24/7 takes trust. It takes knowing someone. I find on going online chatting is often done by people who just want to talk about BDSM--whether that's cyber or just discussing fantasies or just hoping to hook-up for NSA thrills. I love BDSM. That's why I'm here... but I don't like talking about such intimate things very much with someone I've never met. If someone is too cowardly or too selfish to go on a date, I'm not very interested.

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: How long do you wait to meet someone realtime? (2/4/2007 9:23:23 AM)
After emails and a few phone calls then you should be able to know if a meeting is worth your time..quick phone calls tend to seprate the wheat from the trash..

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