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agirlinDC -> sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 4:31:50 AM)
i have a question for the list. i am a self described masochist, and love serving my Dom in this way. i was wondering if there are other slaves/subs/bottoms who are wired the same way? See, many that i talk with in the lifestyle also equate masochism with sexuality. For me, play and submitting to pain is not always about sex. Now..on the other hand, if He gets turned on by hurting me, then that is a huge turn on for me. i guess what i am trying to say is that it doesnt HAVE to be sexual, but it CAN be. Every scene, every taste of pain and pleasure is one of the most purest ways i can express my submission and love for Him. i so do not want anyone to think i am "holier than thou" What i wonder is if i am alone in feeling this way? Or am i in a mindset that is the exception to the rule? There are quite a few i talk with who discuss how much they love being exhibited and played with in public. For me, playing in public, having others watch my scene is a way of serving and submitting to my Sir, but i get no rush or turn on other than to know i have pleased Him in this way. Make sense?

LeatherBentOne -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 4:56:08 AM)
I think the biggest sex organ we have is the brain. You can't get to my private parts without foreplay by stroking mymind. Sex is the icing on the cake for me.

ownedgirlie -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 6:41:28 AM)
I agree that it is all in the mind. However, my sexuality was my biggest place of vulnerability, and a path he sometimes uses to get to my mind. Some of the deepest adventures I have had into my spirit have been through experiences in subspace, brought about by sexual activity. The two work together for me. The more vulnerable I am to him, the deeper my submission seems to grow.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 7:17:40 AM)
The answer to any question that begins "Does anyone...?" Is always Yes. I am not a masochist, so I don't enjoy pain, even in service to someone. I do enjoy being used sexually, whether for service or just being used. Oh and you seem to be talking of a few very different things- service, masochism, exhibitionism and sexuality. Those can all turn people on in very different ways and in very different combinations. You're never going to find another person who feels and reacts to ALL of those EXACTLY the same way as you do. But we all have our triggers and we all have things that make us bored. http://www.collarchat.com/m_701599/mpage_1/key_sadist/tm.htm#701905 sadism and masochism http://www.collarchat.com/m_525044/mpage_1/key_fluffy%252Csadist/tm.htm#525222 sadist http://www.collarchat.com/m_583606/mpage_1/key_masochists/tm.htm#583687 Extreme sensation play, what's hot about that for you? http://www.collarchat.com/m_204732/mpage_1/key_except%252Cpain/tm.htm#204762 why experience pain and what motivates a sub to enjoy it? http://www.collarchat.com/m_284469/mpage_1/key_except%252Cpain/tm.htm#284905 masochistic vs non masochistic http://www.collarchat.com/m_428681/mpage_1/key_except%252Cpain/tm.htm#428697 masochism http://www.collarchat.com/m_514097/mpage_1/key_except%252Cpain/tm.htm#514099 is it the pain or the act of submission? http://www.collarchat.com/m_99877/mpage_1/key_masochism/tm.htm#99877 ds vs s&m http://www.collarchat.com/m_319334/mpage_1/key_masochism/tm.htm#319334 question on masochism #1 http://www.collarchat.com/m_319343/mpage_1/key_masochism/tm.htm#319343 question on masochism #2 http://www.collarchat.com/m_475218/mpage_1/key_masochism/tm.htm#475218 masochism and submission, is there a conflict? http://www.collarchat.com/m_344784/mpage_1/key_masochist/tm.htm#344784 good pain/bad pain...blurred lines? http://www.collarchat.com/m_221596/mpage_1/key_masochist/tm.htm#221596 sensation slut

mbes -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 7:23:58 AM)
I think I know what you mean, because my sole motivating factor to any kind of play in public is knowing that it pleases him. I have no exhibitionist in me. But it has become a huge motivation. However good the physical act feels, it is vastly overshadowed by the mental joy of surrendering to something I wouldn't do on my own. There aren't many things he asks of me that fall into that category, most things he likes are high on my list as well. Pain, however, just gets me off! [:D]

MasterFireMaam -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 7:54:46 AM)
The technical definition of SM says that a person gets aroused by pain, whether giving or receiving. However, there are those who find it to be a more spiritual experience or physical sensation endurance thing. The answer to the question, "Am I the only one?" is, invaribly, "No." If you want to seperate the two, find someone, like me, who is comfortable with that. So, no, you're not the only one. Master Fire

popeye1250 -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 2:53:47 PM)
agirlin DC, you're a masochist and you have a "Mean People Suck" logo? Too funny!

Noah -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/26/2007 5:53:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirlinDC ... i was wondering if there are other slaves/subs/bottoms who are wired the same way? ... Most of the slaves/subs/bottoms I have gotten to know over the years gave accounts of themselves which were very much like yours.

agirlinDC -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 8:02:31 AM)
Thanks so much everyone for all your input. It does help and i loved that there were so many different views of this topic. Helps a lot!

LeatherBentOne -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 10:21:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I agree that it is all in the mind. However, my sexuality was my biggest place of vulnerability, and a path he sometimes uses to get to my mind. Some of the deepest adventures I have had into my spirit have been through experiences in subspace, brought about by sexual activity. The two work together for me. The more vulnerable I am to him, the deeper my submission seems to grow. Thanks for expounding my quote by using your experiences as an example. I can understand your point, and it makes great sense to use your most vulnerable part in doing so. Very wise. Compliments, LBO

LeatherBentOne -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 10:29:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam The technical definition of SM says that a person gets aroused by pain, whether giving or receiving. However, there are those who find it to be a more spiritual experience or physical sensation endurance thing. The answer to the question, "Am I the only one?" is, invaribly, "No." If you want to seperate the two, find someone, like me, who is comfortable with that. So, no, you're not the only one. Master Fire Great post. Like yourself I'm comfy with both too, depending on whether or not I'm in an exceptionally sadist mood. LBO [image]http://www.collarchat.com/upfiles/smiley/crop.gif[/image]

thetammyjo -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 10:37:16 AM)
This is pretty much how it is for Fox though he would not call himself a masochist because pain =/= sexual pleasure for him. He suffers for me because I desire it; he gets turned on or he feels happy because he sees how his suffering affects me in such a positive fashion.

simplyangelic1 -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 12:17:54 PM)
My favorite quote is "Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and I'm yours forever". Think that says it all.

MasterWilliam55 -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 1:14:19 PM)
simply angelic...that kinda does say it all. I say it this way...."Capture your mind and I'll steal your heart. Steal your heart I'll have your body. Get all three and you will offer me your soul"

brightspot -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 1:15:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I agree that it is all in the mind. However, my sexuality was my biggest place of vulnerability, and a path he sometimes uses to get to my mind. Some of the deepest adventures I have had into my spirit have been through experiences in subspace, brought about by sexual activity. The two work together for me. The more vulnerable I am to him, the deeper my submission seems to grow. I agree with the feelings of ownedgirlie in the above quotation that my sexuality is a vulnerable place for me. Only my experience is with a Domina's. I will add that the more I am vulnerable and that it is proven to be a safe space the deeper my submission grows and the deeper I am willing to go risk in trust. Huggz, Missy.

Noah -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 6:15:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterWilliam55 simply angelic...that kinda does say it all. I say it this way...."Capture your mind and I'll steal your heart. Steal your heart I'll have your body. Get all three and you will offer me your soul" And then there's that age-old credo of cyber romance: "Capture her mouse and her pussy will follow."

cloudboy -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 6:16:53 PM)
quote: i am a self described masochist This description doesn't comport too well with your avatar.

BabyNyla -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 6:48:31 PM)
I love pain and it turns me on to no end ... whether it's giving and/or receiving ... as I am both a sadist and a maso. My dom loves to inflict pain on me and he loves to feel and see how wet and aroused i am from it ... even though I physically hate pain and beg him to stop ... mentally it's so arousing ... go figure. But is this a sexual thing for me? Only in the way that it gets me wet. I actually didn't have sex until a few months ago, when I lost my virginity at 28 ... so for me, the pain is about control and it's all a mental thing.

MaryT -> RE: sexuality in submission (1/27/2007 7:08:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirlinDC Make sense? It makes sense to me. Sometimes the physical pain isn't the turn-on. It's the fact that he's doing it. Often it's sexy just after the fact, not during, but sometimes it's really hot during too. And then there are the memories. [;)] I asked him, "When you spank me, is it because I like it or because you do?" His answer was, "Yes." [:)] I do have some exhibitionist in me (people who post to boards generally do to some extent, IMO) but not enough to want it for myself. I would happily play in a public space if he wanted. It might not turn me on, but it would tickle me pink.

lilbrattie -> RE: sexuality in submission (2/9/2007 5:29:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterWilliam55 simply angelic...that kinda does say it all. I say it this way...."Capture your mind and I'll steal your heart. Steal your heart I'll have your body. Get all three and you will offer me your soul" i have to agree with Sir on this one. - giggle - (not that i'm agreeing to save my butt either - laughs -) ~brattie~

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