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Exalaskan -> A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:38:20 PM)

What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.



makemeDaddy -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:42:20 PM)

I don't think it's a matter of Dom or not. I think it's a personal prefrence.  There are many men who are 'exit only'.  Some men I have been with enjoy a tongue or a finger.  I don't know of many who enjoy anything more then that.  

I think everyone should try it though.  If you don't like it, then don't do it.  But don't say you dislike it if you've never tried it.



Exalaskan -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:44:01 PM)

well I'm one for " don't do anything to a sub unless you've tried it" mentality, but the idea makes me shudder.... so I don't know



juliaoceania -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:45:57 PM)

Being anal has nothing to do with power exchange. The anal canal is filled with nerve endings and some people find it an irresistible form of stimulation. It does not matter what a person's orientation, gay or straight, dom or sub, when it comes to enjoyment of being stimulated this way. It is like asking whether or not someone prefers a blow job or to be reamed... it is just a physical preference. Unfortunately our society is so homophobic that this is seen as being "gay" or "feminine" or "submissive" and people do not feel like they can just relax and enjoy.



yessir07 -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:46:17 PM)

I know men who like to have a strap on inside them and they are as dom as you can get :-)



JohnWarren -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:47:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Exalaskan

What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.


Depends on the circumstances and what's coming in.  For example, a tongue is delightful.



windchymes -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:49:14 PM)

If the "Dom" finds it pleasurable, as many do, then I'm sure it's not an "undomly" thing to do.



DianeB269 -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:51:33 PM)

I've trained a few so-called doms with strapons many times. Infact, when I was a
Pro, I had 2 male dom clients.


Diane



makemeDaddy -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:52:15 PM)

If your not comfortable with the idea of even trying it, good chance you won't enjoy it when you do.  You will be tense, over thinking it, etc.  But if you can get yourself to relax, try it.  I have heard comments from others about how they wished they tried it long ago and now they are addicted.  Not saying you WILL enjoy it, but you never know til you try it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Exalaskan

well I'm one for " don't do anything to a sub unless you've tried it" mentality, but the idea makes me shudder.... so I don't know



velvetears -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:52:33 PM)

Enjoying anal penetration has nothing to do with being sub or dom.  A sub friend of mine had a dom who had her use a strap on with him.  Many sub males i know in no way want any anal penetration.  It has more to do with preconceived notions about what liking anal play means, one's experience with it, being open to new experiences (not close minded), and not plugged (no pun intended here) in to what society conditions us about male/female gender preferences then it has to do with being dominant or submissive.



ShiftedJewel -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:53:46 PM)

I know a lot of men... most of the dominant personality... that enjoy it a great deal. I'm afraid you're gonna loose that one... lol
 
Jewel



MasterFireMaam -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:54:39 PM)

Enjoying anal sex has nothing to do with lifestyle or sexual orientation. Some people like penetrating, some like being penetrated, some like both and some like neither.

As far as the "don't do to the sub..." thing: One of the biggest social things I've had to overcome is the "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" rule. Some people do NOT want to be treated the way I want to be treated. It's been hard for me to wrap my head around and I'm still working on that conditioning.

Master Fire



Quivver -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 1:57:21 PM)

Surprised the Hell out of me too when I realized how many do request it.  >shrug< 



innatedesire -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:01:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I know a lot of men... most of the dominant personality... that enjoy it a great deal. I'm afraid you're gonna loose that one... lol
 
Jewel


i agree with Jewel on this one....i think you are going to see that there are a lot of open minded men out there both Dom and nilla.



BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:02:22 PM)

a strapon no way but a nice wet tongue sure thing...A finger maybe while receiving a bj....WILLIAM



NorthernGent -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:07:35 PM)

It depends what the "stuff" is.

If the stuff is finger, tongue then I'll take a wild stab in the dark that your argument won't get off the ground.

If the stuff is a whacking great dildo then it's worth a punt. Personally, that is not for me but to each their own.

It's not necessarily undomly, it depends on the context. Being taken with a strap-on is different to sexual service with a dildo - they are not one and the same.



Exalaskan -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:07:51 PM)

this is fascinating. I hope to hear more :)



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:22:23 PM)

In my experience, about 85% of males who allow me to penetrate their ass with my tongue or finger love it.



NorthernGent -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:30:52 PM)

Out of interest, why are you surprised that straight, dominant men like anal stimulation?



Exalaskan -> RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... (1/27/2007 2:42:46 PM)

In many animal cultures, for lack of a better word, standing over or " mounting " them is a sign of domination in fact, in training dogs, it is a sign of domination to stand over top of them. The point is, that in my mind it is tantamount to the same kind of thing, and I was just curious how other people felt about it. now that I over-anylized it I feel kinda dumb. Maybe I'm comparing apples and oranges



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