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sting516 -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 5:28:28 AM)

how nice...a psychological analysis with skipping the actual analysis...feel free to keep the intolerance here to yourselves...and this thread...thanks for the 'we're better than you' attitude from all

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ORIGINAL: DigitBox

Sting.

You fit the description of an Autogynophile.

Given that, the medical community will really be hesitant to help you, and will make you wait longer to get what you want.

Without reputable medical support who are keeping your health as primary concern you could end up really messing your self up and/or having regrets.





MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 5:46:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: boytoyroy

all respect  ladyellen , but i have read your profile several times ( and agian now)  THERE IS NO INDICATION of you being a transexual at all.. perhaps if you were a bit more forthcoming ,  perhaps you might get a differemt reaction from potential suitors! 


Yet to be fair, being a TS is something Ellen discusses eloquently and extensively on the boards, and those posts are easy enough to look up by just clicking one little button on the profile.

It's kind of like looking at the pictures, but not reading the profile....or reading the profile, but not reading the journal or the interests area....if you're talking to someone on a personals site, read ALL of the information.




LadyEllen -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 5:50:45 AM)

Boytoyroy, lets sort you first 'cause you're a little 'un!

I think if its read closely by the sort I wish to attract, then its clear enough. In fact, I know its clear enough as several have contacted me out of the blue and worked it out, with no problem at all. Cant work it out? Unsuitable then I'm afraid.

But thanks for your comment anyway. As for that particular guy, well from my point of view its something of a miracle if he didnt know already as I'd been busily posting on the subject for a while, and he spends a lot of time here.

E




NikkiAnn -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 6:01:28 AM)

Thank you all for the encouragement and your enlightened view of all this. At one time in my life I was very much into the idea of forced feminization and of being forced to be a girl, I worked this out in therapy and after much thought and inflection I now realize I wanted to be forced to be a woman because then it would take the decision away from me, a decision that I was unable to make at the time. I think this is the reason there are so many story sites on the web dealing with forced feminization. There are a lot of people unable or unwilling to make such a decision themselves.

My main goal with transition is to finally live the life I have always know it should be,  to finally be myself. SRS/GRS is not necessarry for me to be happy. It would certainly be great to experience sex as a woman, and I hope to have the surgerey eventually. Even if I am unable to have SRS for financial or medical reasons I will still be happy with my new life.

{Hi NA

Sounds like youre going to do well.

The best of luck with it all, and dont hesitate to ask advice if you need anything more, or just need someone to talk to OK? Even with all the advantages you have in terms of appearance and blending in, there will bad days as well as good; life goes on.}

One thought; I take it you have done some voice training to achieve a female voice? Have you also given thought to those little ouches, sneezes and so on that come out involuntarily?

E }

Thank you again, its nice to hear from otheres that they believe I have a good chance of passing. I have been told by some of my family that I will always look like a man in a dress, when I look in the mirror I don't see a man, I see only Nikki so it is nice to have someone else say they think I will do fine. I am lucky with my voice too as it is in the lower end of the female range. When I am out shopping, going to resteraunts, waiting romms at the doctor's, or doing other things I am able to talk to people and carry conversations with them and I get no funny reactions or looks or stares, so I feel I am going to be OK with my voice but I am getting some coaching on adding the proper inflection and learning what words are man words to avoid and which female words to use. I hadn't giveen the other sounds that you mentioned (ouches, sneezes and coughs) any thought before now. I need to work on those, especially since they are involuntary, I think they will be harder to learn. I appreciate your advice so much. The ouches will be easier to work on than the rest of the sounds. I can work on those ouches when I am tied to a bench and getting my punishments.

Some of the mannerism's I seem to pick up instinctively, perhaps they were always there and I just had them supressed, and now I am free to express them. One thing I've found I have is this great natural ability for flirting and I love doing it. It must have been one of those things I had kept suppressed. I know it must sound funny, but I don't even realize I am flirting at the time its happening. I realized later that I had been flirting hard and heavy. I have to be careful with that because it could get me into a lot of trouble before I know it.

Nikki Anne




LadyEllen -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 6:09:06 AM)

Now the, Sting;

I'm sorry if I personally came across as judgmental, for that was certainly not my intention. Rather I saw in your posts some potentially very harmful desires that you seem to be harbouring, which I, and I believe the rest of the TS army posting on this thread, believed warranted pointing out as such. Honestly Sting, you do not want to go messing with this stuff, unless you want also to seriously mess up your head.

Also, in your last post in reply to Digit, you seemed to be saying that we think we're better than crossdressers et al? Not so, Sting - we're different, and its like comparing apples and oranges to compare TS with TV. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, wrong with anyone who wants to crossdress because they get a thrill/ escape or whatever out of it, is that clear enough? Equally, there is no hierarchy at work in this, with TV at the bottom and TS at the top as something for crossdressers to aspire to. Its different.

How is it different? Well, in my case whilst I have nothing against men crossdressing if thats what they like, I dont get it. I dont understand the mindset that gets a thrill or an escape or whatever out of it. Even the most reluctant crossdresser does get it, and has some understanding of what he gets out of it. To me, its just clothes, and more than that, the right clothes for people to treat me for who I am. If we were in Iran, I'd wear a burkha. At the same time, most crossdressers would be horrified if not by the thought of being "en femme" 24/7 but definitely by the actuality of it. Crossdressers are normal men, in the main heterosexual, who like to wear women's clothes - transsexuals are physically men but use women's clothes to help overcome an identity disorder which is looking more and more to be genetic in origin.

Now dont get me wrong, I love to dress up for a night out. But you know, I'm living a life which to the average crossdresser would provide him with 24/7 opportunity to dress up and have fun. Wanna know what I'm wearing right now? (no, its not like that!); some old slippers, a jumper and jeans. I somehow dont think that would do it for most crossdressers? But thats because its two different things (again).

Now, are you going to take up the challenge I set, and put us in the picture as to your motivations for what you wrote please? We'd all be pleased to help, advise and refer on what we think is best - for you, given the dangers in all this and given that we each have more than significant knowledge and experience.

E




LadyEllen -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 8:42:30 AM)

This really isnt the way to make friends and influence people you know!

Missy Rane made a point about those she's met...... specifically saying she hadnt met many such from here and that if they act normal (whatever that is) she's cool with it. She just has a problem with the uber femininity thing, and thats annoying enough in a genetic female I find, let alone in anyone else!

E




Willowmourne -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 9:25:56 AM)

Sigh, fun's over.

The Moderator found My weakness.

She said "please".

I guess I'll go binge on waffles and columbian bam-bam and field strip My AK until My fingers get numb.

Tom Cruise bless us all.

-W

PS. I'm hiding in your closet. *cackle*




ToGiveDivine -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 12:07:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

TGD - as ever, thank you.

Ladies, if youre ever up in Illinois or live there, then please check out TGD OK? He's a wonderful, wonderful guy. Not just because of his post here, but because of so many instances when he's shown that he's intelligent, educated, well mannered, sensitive and sensible. Well worth the time!

E


EGAD!  It's going to be a long fall for me from that high pedestal you've put me on :-D

Just remember ... I'm a guy and we come with inherent flaws. LOL

Someday My Princess Will Come ...  (Think Disney)




DigitBox -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 12:30:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sting516

how nice...a psychological analysis with skipping the actual analysis...feel free to keep the intolerance here to yourselves...and this thread...thanks for the 'we're better than you' attitude from all




Sorry Sting but I was only trying to point out what kinds of potential obstacles and pitfalls you could face in trying to do what you want to do.

If you really want to do it then I can't stop you.  It's ultimately your choice what you do.




NikkiAnn -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 12:59:06 PM)

Wow TGD you have made quite an impression on E for sure, I would like to see for myself someday if all those great things she says about you are true.

Nikki Anne 




demistress -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 1:12:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mellian

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Just as an FYI if someone with a dick identifies themselves as female on a profile, I consider that a lie.


That is just one of the stupid bullshit nonsense transsexuals have to deal with. The human mind and brain is up here, not down there between the legs. :rolleyes:

-mellian



Mellian: Interesting commentary (if totally rude, self righteous and ignorant, and unfortunately EXACTLY the attitudes that I'm so used to with your community) , but I wonder, if you had a brain scan and analysis done, and a nuerologist was asked to identify the gender of your brain, what would they say?  You are aware that there are differences in the brain that do directly correlate to the growth of whatever you ended up with between your legs, and GENERALLY (not always) TS actually does have a brain that matches their BIRTH gender. 





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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

And furthermore, that being TS means that one can be treated like shit, and deserves to be treated like shit.

Thus endeth the lesson

E


Lady Ellen,

I'm sorry that happened to you, and he was a coward, but frankly, you set yourself up for it.  Your profile is not very clear about it at all for those of us NOT TS or TS-experienced, and expecting someone to read through all your (or my, or any other regular poster's posts) and actually remember ALL that they read is silly.  Personally, if I thought I was meeting with a natural born unaltered female woman, and it turned out they had hidden their birth gender from me, I would have been extremely pissed at being misled, and I would have gotten up and left as well, but of course I would have been clear about why.  Not because the person was TS but because they couldn't be open and up front about it.  I have met with a # of TS (pre and post) and CDs, but I do expect to be told clearly and concisely that they are TS, just like I expect to be told clearly and concisely what age, what marital status, what family status, what limits, etc. etc.  So that I can make an informed decision about our likely comptibility.




DigitBox -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 7:04:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Mellian: Interesting commentary (if totally rude, self righteous and ignorant, and unfortunately EXACTLY the attitudes that I'm so used to with your community) , but I wonder, if you had a brain scan and analysis done, and a nuerologist was asked to identify the gender of your brain, what would they say?  You are aware that there are differences in the brain that do directly correlate to the growth of whatever you ended up with between your legs, and GENERALLY (not always) TS actually does have a brain that matches their BIRTH gender. 


It depends which brain structures one is refering too and also which studies one puts faith in.  Some studies show that there are very real brain structure differences between natal average males and females, gay men, and trans women.  There is one study that tries to prove the other studies wrong, citing that the hormones change the brain structure that is being studied.  More specifically the studies are all looking at a region of the brain known as the BSTc region of the hypothalamus.  It's believed by some that it is responsible for a persons sexual and gender identity.  The BSTc of transsexual corpses that were studied  were shown to be more like natal females, so it was assumed that this accounted for the "Woman trapped in a mans body" phenomenon.  Partial masculination might also account for a crossdressing impulse.

As well as this there is a researcher who published an article in Nature.  Her research centered around the inhibition of a prostaglandin that enabled testosterone to be absorbed by the fetal brain during development.  She used a very powerful blocker for this prostaglandin, however she felt that something as simple as aspirin taken during pregnancy at just the right time might cause the development of femminized males.  On the flip side if the prosteglandin allowed too much testostene into the brain of a developing female fetus, their brain could become masculinized.  This was all done with experiments on rats.  When the right conditions were created she could get male rats to behave in more female typical ways (typical for female rats), and females to behave in more typicaly male ways.

Both of these theories have been based on natal development while the child is in utero.  It has to do with a window of tine during development in which certain chemicals are released to masculize the brain of the male child.  If that window of opportunity is missed then that aspect of the brain is left unmasculinized.

Now there is some other more distinct parts of the brain that differ between the sexes.  For instance the corpus callosum is denser and shorter in females than in males.  This is assumed to account for a higher efficiency in thought processes in women compared with men.  It's assumed this might account for why many women are much more intuitive about the feelings of others since there is a faster recognition of what is going on.  More nerve fibers better data transmission at a faster rate.  Estrogen also helps augment the thought process.

If I remember correctly women have a greater neuron density than males as well.

Anyhow that only covers the realm of neurobiology.  It's not accounting for social conditioning, individual psychology, upbringing, and personal experiences as co-factors in whether a trans woman is a femminine person, an average female, or just a man in a dress.

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Lady Ellen,

I'm sorry that happened to you, and he was a coward, but frankly, you set yourself up for it.  Your profile is not very clear about it at all for those of us NOT TS or TS-experienced, and expecting someone to read through all your (or my, or any other regular poster's posts) and actually remember ALL that they read is silly.  Personally, if I thought I was meeting with a natural born unaltered female woman, and it turned out they had hidden their birth gender from me, I would have been extremely pissed at being misled, and I would have gotten up and left as well, but of course I would have been clear about why.  Not because the person was TS but because they couldn't be open and up front about it.  I have met with a # of TS (pre and post) and CDs, but I do expect to be told clearly and concisely that they are TS, just like I expect to be told clearly and concisely what age, what marital status, what family status, what limits, etc. etc.  So that I can make an informed decision about our likely comptibility.


In some ways though not being too forthright helps keep the tranny chasers at bay.

Also this is a very public web space.  It can be very easily googled, listing as female reduces the ease of somone finding us from outside of CM. 

People who are not signed up members can browse without joining first.  So the amount of traffic that comes in from tranny fans looking for another tranny girl to have a quickie with before the guy runs back to his wife and children is considerably higher.

Hence listing ourselves as female can reduce the number of those guys cruising for a pre-op/non-op girl.

It's not neccessarily about misleading people.  It's about protecting ourselves sometimes.

Also there are guys that the minute they see the trans lable they come running looking for easy sex.  They don't read the profile, they don't need to, their only intention is to get a quickie so he won't have to get to know her enough anyway.

By leaving the details about being trans until the last it forces the individual to read and understand something about the lady he's interested in.

Disclosure is actually a really hot potato in the trans world.  Some girls won't, some are totally out, some discretely wait for the right time to bring it up.  Usually if he's showing more than a desire for a quickie.




CalliopePurple -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/2/2007 11:58:46 PM)

Digit, I am again filing note of my adoration for you to be oodles more eloquent and polite than I can be when faced with people who can't or don't want to learn.

On a personal note - my profile will list trans as the gender until I get on T. Then I will switch it to male.




jamesthehumanrug -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/3/2007 2:03:58 PM)

i would imagine it is no different than being w/ a legally described female sub ;if you treated her any different you re at a handicap so why do any different ;a female  sub is a female sub legally described and no different,unless you want to casue an uproar or a riot on this subject
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ORIGINAL: NikkiAnn

I would like to know if there are Dommes or Mistresses that are interested in  MTF transsexual submissives? I have had some experience but not a lot and really would like to know if someone like myself has any hope of finding more of a relationship other than occasional scenes. Your input on this would be very welcome. Also any input on my profile or changes I could make to improve it would be appreciated. Thanks

Nikki Anne




mellian -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/4/2007 8:59:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sting516
At no point did i say i felt like a woman trapped in a mans body...no, i was just giving a slightly different perspective on the issue...my point with Mellian, and now with you is that if you wish to preach tolerance, you should also practice it.




Actually, what you said and base on your profile, I was pretty accurate and still am it seems. Not a judgement call, just stating that SRS and Hormones are not for crossdressers, sissies, and those seeking "forced" feminization through BDSM. Preaching tolerance doesn't mean one as to agree with the other, and within the context of what we are discussing, tolerance doesn't mean we have to agree with or allow fetishists get SRS. There is way more to it than just the surgery itself and in turn not something that should be taken lightly.

-mellian




mellian -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/4/2007 9:01:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: boytoyroy

all respect  ladyellen , but i have read your profile several times ( and agian now)  THERE IS NO INDICATION of you being a transexual at all.. perhaps if you were a bit more forthcoming ,  perhaps you might get a differemt reaction from potential suitors! 


Why should we have to at all?  If one is a women, they should be treated as such. What you are suggesting is like one should identify they are disabled in some way and should be treated as such instead treating them as any other person.

-mellian




mellian -> RE: Is there a place for TS MTF subs? (2/4/2007 9:21:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: demistress
Mellian: Interesting commentary (if totally rude, self righteous and ignorant, and unfortunately EXACTLY the attitudes that I'm so used to with your community) , but I wonder, if you had a brain scan and analysis done, and a nuerologist was asked to identify the gender of your brain, what would they say?  You are aware that there are differences in the brain that do directly correlate to the growth of whatever you ended up with between your legs, and GENERALLY (not always) TS actually does have a brain that matches their BIRTH gender. 


As Digitbox already pointed out, there already been enough research on how transsexuals came to be and studying of TS brains after death that suggest otherwise, in turn there is definitly a biological reason. Another lesson you should look up is that gender and sex are two different things, and not always the same, and again there enough research done to back that up.

As for attitudes you get from the trans community, maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror first as to why you are getting such responses and reactions. When someone says a transsexual is lying if say they are female yet still have a "dick" in they way you said it, it is good sign that they are transphobic, along with being ignorant, and in turn considering the wording, they are being rude. So if you do not want anyone to be rude to you, then I suggest you are not rude to them and make ignorant comments about them.

-mellian




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