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Relocating a TPE slave - 3/4/2005 9:30:41 PM

Morghan

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I'm looking for stories from Dommes who have relocated or attempted to relocate a TPE slave to serve them. I don't care if this was a male or female or even if it worked out or not. I'd like to hear both sides. But basically, did you have a timetable? What requirements did you set? For thos that didnt' work out, what were the deal-breakers for you? For the raving successes, what was the key?

At this point I have had some fabulous conversations wtih boys who would have to relocate across at least two states to be with me. They are quite eager, but after one failed attempt several months ago, I feel it best to do some more talking to other experienced folks in this area. Without a doubt, local is easier, but it just doesn't seem to be in the cards.

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RE: Relocating a TPE slave - 3/5/2005 1:09:19 AM

MsSilvie

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Morghan, you may not like this answer, but to me, nothing screams "fantasy" like offers to relocate. Especially without a long relationship and a number of meetings behind it. My suggestion is to tell the person to move to your area first, get themselves established independantly, and after that, you can work on deepening the tpe relationship.

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RE: Relocating a TPE slave - 3/6/2005 1:00:44 PM

ShiftedJewel

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We've done it three times (ok, so maybe we're slow learners) The first time was a nightmare. I have no idea how old those pics were that she sent us, but they most sincerely weren't recent, plus she had a daughter (older teen) and we would never ask a mom to leave her kids, so we paid for her to come as well. First warning was that she was twice the size in real life as she was in the pics, next came the realization that she only put her teeth in for pics (eeeeewwwwww), then there was the "I had problems with my hormones as a kid and now I have to shave daily" announcement (yes, HER face) and after that we found out just how big her appetite was after she/they ate us out of house and home. Then came the two month old kitchen table that her daughter (the older teen) used as a cutting board. Yes, it is ruined. As was the computer we let her use, as was the chair she lived in at the computer along with many other things.... We learned a lot from that experience.

Second time was a lot better. She is still with us, as a friend, not a slave. She was never given the opportunity to "find" herself, we gave her that and she has given us several months of wonderful memories. She has been a great help to us, a teacher at times, and a student at other times, she has grown so much and we are very proud of her.

And the third time, well, if you chat at all then you have probably met him, Jewels_gentle_giant.... another blessing for us.

Sometimes you just have to take the good with the bad and learn from it. No, we didn't meet any of them face to face before we moved them to the house. We did talk a lot thought first and were very open about what it was we expected.

And yes, they relocated from decent distances, the first was from the west coast, about 1200 miles away, the second was from the south, and gg was from up north. We're thinking about importing from other countries next....... lol

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RE: Relocating a TPE slave - 3/6/2005 1:37:25 PM

SecretDomme

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

No, we didn't meet any of them face to face before we moved them to the house. We did talk a lot thought first and were very open about what it was we expected.

And yes, they relocated from decent distances, the first was from the west coast, about 1200 miles away, the second was from the south, and gg was from up north. We're thinking about importing from other countries next....... lol

Jewel

I just can't even fathom this, but at least you have learned from the experience, which is the most important piece I believe. Best of luck in your future searches.

Julie

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RE: Relocating a TPE slave - 3/7/2005 12:40:27 AM

GingerleeDREAD

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Morghan,
Silvies words do not use TPE in My opinion
and sound nothing more then a setup D/s
where half responsibility is being left in the
hands of the slave or submissive to tend to.
Total Power Exchange is just that.
A persons power given to You to control.
Ive relocated many slaves and those whom
thought their self slaves over the years.
Ive relocated two Dominant Men whom
desired to experience TPE as well in My past
both from outside of the country and within.
Every experience has carried a positive side
to it for Me. Basically it has if anything shown
those whom profess to be TPE slaves if
they are such or simply desiring to be and
learn that this is Not what they desired after
the experience. Ive taught many submissives
just what TPE is and helped them to discover
such and know the differences in their thinking
they were slave. Ive discovered wonderful
slaves whom have enjoyed TPE through contract
with Me and it is these slaves which make all the
effort worth wild. At any point that a TPE slave is
desired in My opinion it is the Dominants position to
direct how and when and why and what way the
slave is to relocate and take total responsibility
in such actions. It is the Dominants position to
secure such a move and planning out such and
gaining information of the slave before such a move.
This means that You as the Dominant MUST know
all that there is about the TPE slave in order to
control their life's and lifestyle and livelihood and
action. This can take a day or a year depending
on how comfortable You are within Your self in
dealing with strangers. I request of any slave whom
desires to come and serve Me in a TPE relationship
a 6 month training contract that must be followed
and fulfilled before anything longer can ensue. Or at
this point I can release them if they are not what I
seek or they can opt out if this is not what they seek
and I send them back to where they were before the
contract began. I find out their obligations and
request identification of the slave, a resume equal
to a employment application with all pertinent
information of the person in general on it. I request
a recent medical report of the slaves health and
last communicable infection tests. I get a contact
of next of kin and gain all this info and do a
background check to see what their status is before
bringing them to Me from afar so I know what type
of person it is I will be dealing with. Those whom
desire this type of Lifestyle situation will not take
any issue in providing such things and it is up to
You to secure that which You as the Dominant
seek and to be sure that both You and Yours are
secure and at the same time do so for the TPE
slave and being truthful upfront in what You also
seek, for the true slave looking for TPE will
expect all this of You. Assign a safe word before the
slave arrives and know before hand what their kinks
and dislikes are. What their hard and soft limits are
if they are known and if not be ready to explore to
teach them such keeping in mind that this at any time
could be something that is not desired and a request
for release could be invoked at which point if the
contract is being broken it is at this point that the
TPE is also and Your obligation to the person is also
and they are responsible for their removal and cost.
Ive had One experience where a Switch whom thought
himself a slave wanted to experience TPE and discovered
his true persona with Me and at that point thanked Me
but at that point decided that he no longer wanted to act
as slave and desired to pursue his Switching persona
which I would not do. I don't Switch. At this point he
broke his contract and I deposited him at the local
mission till he could decide what his next move in his
life would be. Its always good to add in Your contracts
what would happen in such a situation and that this is
what would happen to the slave if the contract were
broken for any reason and have in the contract what
actions You as the Dominant will take. Ive experienced
hundreds of short term TPE slave contracts over the
years and this was the only experience that I took as
any way negative and it was still a learning experience
in how I would actually react to the situation when it
was presented to My self. We as Dominants are never
to Old to learn from Our experiences either.......JMPO

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