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orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 5:52:29 AM

LadyMarmalade1

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I'm sure there have been threads on this already and maybe this isn't even the right place to put it, but every time I try to post a new thread it takes about an hour to figure out how, which doesn't say much for my computer abilities.

My sub is begining his orgasm denial training and we are increasing the time between orgasms. He's up to 8 days now, and when he gets even slightly turned on he has a lot of pain, even to the point that just walking hurts when he isn't even turned on. When he does finally cum, there is no orgasm because it's so painful. Afterwards everything seems to go back to normal and there's no pain.

My concern though is that being denied and having this pain could cause long term problems in the future. Does anyone know anything about this? Is it normal? As we will be apart for a couple more months, I won't be able to milk him to relieve the pressure, but we plan to do this when we are together again.

As always, thanks for your help!
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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 7:47:42 AM

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I am clipped---too big a stud, I guess....the body produces this material kinda like a woman produces milk in response to the correct stimuli. What your boy has there is a case of the 'Blue Balls'.... now if you are talking painful as in uncomfortable, that is one thing---- something an aspirin relieves----
but if you are talking more than that---- get your fuckin' cur to a chanker mechanic, post haste---- something wrong there.

In my uneducated opinion, blue balls has never killed anyone, and people are constantly being denied orgasms at their will and not too many dropping like flies.

Look at catholic priests----well.......errrrrrrrrmmmmmm...never mind.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 8:11:17 AM

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Hi LadyMarmalade1, I have also experienced this also, but it was only because I was so turned on for so long that I feel it was because of having a constant erection or restrained froming having an erection, that actually caused a build up of blood and pressure. I think this is possibily what your sub is feeling. It could also be that he is so stimulated that the tissues are adjusting to the change ,ie; he's not being relieved for long periods of time . Why not see a Doctor or try the Health and safety area of Collar me. Bye

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 8:26:55 AM

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If it is real pain, I would suggest seeking medical attention to make sure there are not any underlying issues contributing to it. If it is frustration and discomfort, that is to be expected. Is he wearing a chastity device? Is the pain on erection? 8 days is not a long amount of time to be denied orgasm so this should typically not be a real issue. However, if the pain seems unusual I would check with a doctor.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 8:48:12 AM

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Thanks for your advice everyone. I think I was expecting every one to say that it was nothing and then coca could relax that he was normal (or at least some what normal), I was a little surprised that it could be something more serious, so we will watch it.

However, like MsKatHouston says, 8 days really isn't very long, and I think it is just his body getting used to not being so free anymore. He says after he cums there is no pain when he gets turned on again, so I'm sure it's all build up, plus his level of pain tolerance is very low, so I'm sure it's not much compared to what others think is serious pain.

We both did learn some thing new though, and I'm wondering if anyone can explain to me what "Blue Balls" is exactly. While English is his second language I'm not surprised he hasn't heard of it, but this is my first time. What is it?

Thanks again.

Lady Marmalade

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/30/2007 8:53:09 AM

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http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/blueballs.html

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/31/2007 11:43:17 AM

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Does you tease him often? If you get him hard, then soft, then hard a lot that causes blue balls to happen, even if he's having orgasms every day.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 1/31/2007 12:59:18 PM

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Often time is the about the best way for this type of training. Like with me, I've been training to need orgasm over longer periods of time. Right now, I've worked myself up to the time it takes to finish writing a post on Collarme, and...um...I'll be right back...................okay, I'm still working on that one.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 2/1/2007 9:19:31 AM

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Thanks everyone, and MsKatHouston for the website. coca and I have really only just begun this type of training. I agree, it takes time and I think the more we do this, the more he will get used to it.

Thanks again,
Lady Marmalade

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 2/1/2007 9:46:03 AM

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Just a bit of advise to ALL dom/mes.. study the physiology of your submissive type before you start to play around with it. Gad it maskes me cringe when I read.."if their balls are extremely painful, is this a bad thing?" or "can you mace a vagina??" "Can I squirt hot sauce down his urethra??"

Different tissues response differently. Educate yourself first.

Duh.. pain the body's universal signal that something is wrong. The dominant needs to know what is safe and practical from what the sub's fantasy desire is. You are the one responsible.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 2/1/2007 11:33:43 AM

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I agree with LotusSong and thank you for posting. My sub and I have very good communication, but you're right, ultimately I (as the domme) am responsible, and I need to be careful.

Unfortunately, so many subs like to feel pain that it can be hard to really understand if it's a "good" pain or a "bad" pain.

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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 2/1/2007 12:00:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMarmalade1

I agree with LotusSong and thank you for posting. My sub and I have very good communication, but you're right, ultimately I (as the domme) am responsible, and I need to be careful.

Unfortunately, so many subs like to feel pain that it can be hard to really understand if it's a "good" pain or a "bad" pain.

Lady Marmalade

Thank you for taking that in the spirit I intended :)
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RE: orgasm denial and pain - 2/1/2007 12:50:04 PM

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I have been into selfbondage for a long time and one of the things I do is deny myself release. I have gone two weeks and yes my balls ache from not being alowed to relieve myself but it has not caused any harm. When I do get release it is in a large amount. When I was young we called it blue balls when you dry humped your girl in the back of the car and never got off. On the other hand like taking viagra you can only have a hard on for so long and then you are in trouble. As for the pain I have been pushing myself for a long time and gaining a little at a time I have tried more than I can stand at once and found it ok sometimes but I remember it for days. You have to consider your own circumstances also I have to keep mine under wraps so when I inject alcohol into my cock it burns for hours and I have to control myself when out in public and at home. tolerance is the key and as a Dom you need to be able to asses your subs.

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