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Missokyst -> ...between kinky and bossy (1/30/2007 9:08:06 PM)
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Ya never know where you might find someone mention S/M
http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20070126/en_dm/margo_howard20070126
DEAR MARGO: I have never seen this issue in any of the advice columns, and I need advice. More than 20 years ago, I did sex work of a kind where I did not have intercourse with the clients. (It was S&M.) I only did it for a few months, and felt very lost at that time, but I got into recovery and managed to turn my life around.
I am now a librarian, and recently divorced (not because of this issue; he found out about that by accident early in our relationship and didn't hold it against me). I am now dating, and this is what I'm not sure about: I think honesty is necessary for a stable relationship, but do I have to tell a boyfriend I used to do this kind of work?
I learned the hard way not to blab this too soon in a relationship. When is the right time to reveal this, if ever?
--- MISS X DEAR MISS: I perhaps do not know the fine points of being a dominatrix, but it has never seemed to me to be prostitution. I always thought of it as somewhere between being kinky and bossy.
In any case, because you didn't stick around for very long, and it was 20 years ago, I don't think relating that period is necessary, and would suggest that you let your current status speak for you: that of a divorced librarian.
There might come a time when you are in a romance where you might feel like revealing this long-ago bit of history. These days, the dog collars, boots and whips seem like a mere bagatelle.
--- MARGO, SUBMISSIVELY
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