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new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 4:30:18 PM   
mygoldilocks


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Status: offline 		I'm in a quandary with my new Master.  He reads Collarme.com and I need someone to answer a question off-site.  Is it possible? I'm a new sub and would appreciate the advice.

Thanks,
G
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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 4:32:36 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		i'm a submissive, not a dominant, but my cmail box is always open if you want to talk...also, i know many of the regular posters here (many of whom -are- dominants), don't mind fielding private questions every now and then :)

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 4:34:39 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I could, though it may or may not help your situation necessarily.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 4:42:06 PM   
mygoldilocks


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Status: offline 		Thank you so much for your reply.  It makes me feel less alone out here.

I am a newbie and had my first session with my Dom a few days ago.  I was disappointed to find out he is very small in the penis and I could barely feel him when he was in me.  He also lost his erection repeatedly and demanded that I suck him, which I did because I love to.

He did not make me cum and focused on himself, which was not in the nature of our agreement prior to the session.  He was very gentle and did respect my limits, but his smallness may be a deal breaker for me.  I told him today in an email that I need a larger internal stimulator to orgasm and he suggested that we process everything for a couple of days and then talk.  I am looking for a LTR and like him a great deal, but I simply didn't feel him inside of me and he was there or trying to be there for over an hour.  He is in his 50's and his age might be a factor.

Any wisdom you care to share would be so generous.  Thank you and I wish for you all the pleasure you seek.

Goldilocks

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:06:42 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		i'm going to message you on the other side simply because i'm not sure i feel comfortable writing all of what i want to say on the boards :)

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:11:41 PM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		i thought you wanted this discussed off the message boards?
If he does see this, i am pretty sure you won't have to worry about his small penis anymore. ..

< Message edited by dawntreader -- 1/31/2007 5:13:49 PM >

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:27:14 PM   
yoursnatch


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Status: offline 		Strange i always thought that there was more to this lifestyle than sex. But just in case you come to learn that i do have some sayings for you like " it is not the size of the ship it is the motion of the ocean" "dynomite comes in small packages" and there are numorus other ones

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:30:34 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I think there is more to the lifestyle but part she wants a part of her dynamic to include sex...nothing wrong with that.  However, I'm with dawntreader...not sure how you post something you don't want him to see.  Guess she must have changed her mind about that. 

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:36:18 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		It sounds like he doesn't have other talents.  I once dated a guy who was "small" in that department.  But he more than compensated for it with his tongue and lips.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 5:37:49 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Yes, the problem is more that he  did a bait and switch and instead of honestly discussing it, he's pushing it (gently) away.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 6:34:59 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		There are many things that make people not-so-hot matches. Sometimes it's mental, sometimes it's emotional and sometimes it's physical. If having that component to the sex is important in your mind, then it's important. Do talk about it to him and explain. If he thrills you in every other way, maybe it's worth thinking about the solutions he's wlling to try.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 8:19:52 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		This whole thread smacks of bullshit to me.  Our dear goldilocks joined on the 10th, is ivy league educated but has proven to be pretty bush league about everything else.

Sounds perhaps like one of those guys who gets off on humiliation or something, sad.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 8:24:18 PM   
MaryT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

This whole thread smacks of bullshit to me. 


This and many other threads smack of the same stuff.  Sometimes I wonder why I come here.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 9:01:04 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I come here because there are frequently threads that are just amazing, this one aint one.

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 9:03:05 PM   
Wulfchyld


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Status: offline 		Aw Crappy, you just have to download the OP's cookies, slip in a spider and you can read the real good stuff with me! *evil chuckle*

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 9:07:01 PM   
lighthearted


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Our dear goldilocks joined on the 10th, is ivy league educated but has proven to be pretty bush league about everything else.


well, quandary is a pretty big word...

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RE: new sub w/question - 1/31/2007 10:02:00 PM   
hisannabelle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Our dear goldilocks joined on the 10th, is ivy league educated but has proven to be pretty bush league about everything else.


and you know this because of two (fairly short) posts?

christ, give the woman at least one or two more chances to post before you start judging her...you don't know how she -feels- about anything else. you don't even know if the relationship was meant to be entirely sexual, and if it was, then her concerns are pretty damn valid, especially if she discussed it with him beforehand. i just think you're jumping to some pretty big conclusions from two posts and an incredibly short profile.

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RE: new sub w/question - 2/1/2007 7:23:11 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		At 19 you have less than a 1/3 of the life experience I do, no offense but being old has some advantages, one of which is being able to see things that 19 year olds do not.

Of course I could be wrong but I seriously doubt it or I wouldn't have posted what I did.

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RE: new sub w/question - 2/1/2007 7:49:39 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
At 19 you have less than a 1/3 of the life experience I do, no offense but being old has some advantages, one of which is being able to see things that 19 year olds do not.

Of course I could be wrong but I seriously doubt it or I wouldn't have posted what I did.

I cry foul at the age card.

There's plenty of meat to pick on for that post.  Choosing an irrelevant point as age serves nothing.

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RE: new sub w/question - 2/1/2007 7:55:12 AM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		I know how you feel. Met two potential doms who were very lacking down there. It was a deal breaker for me since both wanted a sexual relationship. I only practice safe sex and there was no way a condom would've stayed on these guys. I've found that men who are a bit on the small side actually give more pleasure since they hit the g-spot.  But the condom has to fit and stay on for it to be safe. Also, men who are extremely small probably have a hard time getting off without anal. I'm not sure what the percentages are on erectile dysfunction with older men, but I do know it's fairly common. Have you considered going for a younger man?

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