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slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 10:17:04 AM

Vinnislilone

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when i first met Master i was a sub and a newbie, which i still am a newbie. the other day we talked on the phone and He told me that He felt He was not ready to own a slave and would like for me to go back to being a sub. He also told me that i did nothing wrong and did not fail Him in anyway. Does this happen? is it me or is it strange that this happened?

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 10:25:31 AM

MasterFireMaam

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People change thier minds or get cold feet. It doesn't matter if they're Dom or not. So, yes, it happens.

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 10:32:21 AM

mstrjx

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It is quite often thought of as increased responsibility.

Being in control of portions of another's life and being in control with the entirety of another are two different things. In truth, it is something that should be contemplated slowly, from both sides.

Some might never feel comfortable with full ownership, and that's really all right.

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 11:31:14 AM

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Thats the problem with people who are new to the scene, They many times do not really know what they want and who they are.
No its no reflection on you, Consider it part of your growth

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 12:11:29 PM

adaddysgirl

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Your ad says you were collared in 11/06. You live in PA, and he in TN, and you are looking for another to join your family. Maybe he does feel like he's taken on a bit too much at this point. In any event, his honesty about it is commendable. At least he told you this before bigger plans were made.

Best wishes, wherever it leads.

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 12:21:51 PM

PookBaccus

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*It's a good thing if HE realizes how much responsibility HIS life can afford HIM to take concerning you.

As an example of relationship change I have a person with whom We have agreed to change /augment/ alter / develope / reclassify /

the label of Our relationship a couple times. The relationship's label has changed from:
Vanilla aquaintences to
Dom /sub to
Master /slave (contracted)
Dom /sub
Pedagogue / protoge

This was done in her case because as she developed psychologically , emotionally, utilitarianistically... into the specific-unto-herself type of person I deemed necessary; it was and is necessary to have the type of relationship clearly defined. So as to make it clear to all parties involved, what responsibilities are to be accepted, expected, and respected.

Back to you: It is better to have someone in your life that is willing to honestly share with you and define for you exactly what is to and needs to be. That is better then someone that takes someone under the title and guise of slave, then doesn't maintain their well being and up keep.

Sounds to ME as though honesty is being shared by HIM to you.

Instead of HIM offering you a position that would involve certain expectations *when at this time HE knows the Master / slave relationship would be improper.

* = words chosen carefully

enjoy,
PookBaccus

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RE: slave going back to being a sub - 2/1/2007 12:25:47 PM

KatyLied