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Not Scening - 2/1/2007 3:06:39 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		iIwas just thinking now i know many don't scene all the time, but i am having surgery and i won't be able to scene for 4 weeks (will make me crazy).  My Master said he is fine with it he loves holding me talking with me and just being with me even if we don't play.

So my question how would your Master/Mistress handle it if you could not play for 4 weeks?

Matt's littleone
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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 3:11:51 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		From one who couldnt play at all for months, you manage. Angel and I were separated. When we finaly got back togehter, the first time in 4 months we had seen one another... we couldnt play. Phsycially, he wasnt up to it becasue of a medical procedure. So, after 4 months of being apart, we spent the entire day snuggled up talking and touching and just catching up on being together.
If your relationship revolves arount playtime, then you wil have problems.  AS long as you have that realistic side to the relationship where you have your vanilla attributes as well, you should be fine. Just think of all the fun youll have making up for lost time later *grin*

DV

Good luck on your surgery, and let us know how it went by the way

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 3:14:14 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It would be irksome to know we COULDN'T ahead of time, but we'd deal and enjoy what we could together and have lots of time to make scene plans after.

It also might depend on how much of your time together is spent scening?  I live with my partner so, while we scene maybe once a week, it's only perhaps 5% of our actual time together.  If scenes are more like 70% of more of time together, I can see how it would cause a serious change in dynamic and need a lot more adjusting.

But, on the long term scale of things, it's not so bad.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 3:16:25 PM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		In the past year, I had surgery 3 times, and was in pain for months. During that time, any play "below the waist" was severely curtailed. We still went to play parties, where luckily we were friends with quite a few people, so I was sort of petted by the subs a bit, and He and I watched others play, and learned quite a few things, and we participated in the things that I was able to do. For instance, this was when I first experienced liquid latex, and had a very pretty outfit painted on my body. I also was introduced to breast bondage, which I found out I loved, and felt a violet wand for the first time. There was also an introduction to cupping, and wax play.

During the time we watched others, he held and stroked me, and he enjoyed focusing on my health and wellbeing. It gave him a chance to be "Daddy", something we'd never touched on before. Although he is glad I am well now, he remembers this as being a special time for us.

I hope your surgery and recovery goes well, and I hope this will be a time for you both to learn new things, and to learn more about each other. *smiles*

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 4:29:42 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I have went without seeing my Daddy for over 4 weeks at a time for whatever reason. I handle that pretty well, although I miss him quite a bit when we are apart.

I would remember gratitude for the fact you have someone to hold you when you have surgery. Not everyone has that. Not everyone has a master to scene with or hold them ... you are a very fortunate person. I think about that when I miss my Daddy, how appreciative I am of him in my life at all.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 4:49:22 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		My Master is wonderful about it  he just wants me to be well.  LA scenes are only about 10% of what we do.  You are right julia  i never siad i was not greatful to have him in my life know how l;ucky i am to belong to him  It would be good to learn new things.  And DV you are right it will be fun to make up for lost time.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 4:52:07 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		can't say for certain, but this slave would hazard a guess that He would drop by the hospital and/or call the nurse on duty occasionally to see if this slave was conscious yet.
 
every touch is a mini-"scene" for this slave.  recently we spent 8 excruciating days apart, no internet or other contact other than occasional phone due to the remote location of this slave.  this slave got through it by focusing on the reason for the absence(mainly health related, in lieu of surgery) and the long-term improvement in this slave's ability to serve Master that it would bring, after we were able to touch(scene) again.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 4:54:23 PM   
BabyNyla


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Status: offline 		I got mono last year in May and was so ill for about 2 months that I was afraid he would not stick around and deal with me since we had only been together since April.  However, he was so awesome.  We spent a lot of time cuddling, talking, and having lots of sex (my doc had said no no no to D/s but go go go to sex, as long as it wasn't oral).  He cleaned, cooked, and did laundry and it was so wonderful.  I think the time made up focus more on each other as people, rather then a Dom and a sub.  And lemme tell ya, when i got the ok to play again, lord was it freaking wonderful!!  So much built up excitment from the 2 months of waiting.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 8:35:07 PM   
petdave


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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 9:02:54 PM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		There have been many times when Master has not been well enough to play, and a couple times when I have been unwell (a broken toe, a bad throat infection - plays havoc with the ability to deep throat!)

We keep the dynamic alive with little things - cuddles, back rubs, hair pulls and the occasional slap on the butt We know it will not be forever and we do look forward to the times when He is well enough to play.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 9:13:02 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		i think we would handle it fine. i really don't care for the word "scene" because pretty much every physical act we have together falls into that realm for us...every time we have sex some kink aspect is involved, the dynamic is inherent in our relationship, etc. but we are both not in the best of health, me especially (my chronic pain issues can often make certain acts difficult, like sexual positions, kneeling, etc., or even doing much more than lying still and maybe cuddling), so when one of us isn't feeling up to it, we make the best of it. because the dynamic is natural to us even without the physical reinforcement of it, that part being temporarily absent doesn't really shake our relationship.    

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RE: Not Scening - 2/1/2007 11:34:00 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		In the first year of Master and I being together, ok I admit it, I am a sensation slut and i LOVE intensity, I can't get enough intensity and when I get it I want more(very needy needy tsk tsk I guess..but I call it passion.) Anyways one day I was complaining to Master that he hadn't done anything intense with me for awhile......(god knows what my "awhile" is)..anyways...he said "The problem with you Jali is that you miss the little things...I'm always scening with you". After he said that, I started to take notice of all the little interactions we had during the day, like really take notice...scening and playing doesn't have to be all dramatic all of the time...and its in those little everyday interactions that really add to the foundation of your relationship...so maybe this time you are going to have when you can't play intensely will be a really good thing for your relationship itself on a really subtle level if you make the most of it.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/2/2007 2:18:08 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		That was last April I believe. I had the flu, serves me right for not getting a shot and followed that with two weeks of a botched root canal. He basically put me to bed and fed me soup and took over.

Sometimes I'm up for stuff and he isn't, sometimes it's the other way around.

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RE: Not Scening - 2/2/2007 2:43:22 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		I'm having a total hysterectomy in 2 1/2 weeks.   We don't get to see each other enough for my liking already, so I'm feeling a lot of anxiety over this, on top of the anxiety over the surgery!   6 weeks of no sex and I would assume that would include spankings, floggings, etc.....!   Don't wanna mess up my healing.  Bah!



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