DragonNphoenix
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ORIGINAL: Stephann Howdy, Ok, I'm going to say some unpopular things. I'll couch them best I can, I don't mean to rain on anyone or minimize any religious feelings. I'll state for the record, I consider myself Wiccan. I believe there is a strong pull to alternative lifestyles often because they are just that - alternative. As societal norms become more unified from mass media, the desire to break these norms increases. Thus, I think many people begin that escape at a younger age through fantasy books, video games, roleplaying games, and other activities that enable an escape from an everyday, mundane life. The drawback to these escapes, is that the more often one engages in them, the less often they socialize with other individuals who don't make use of these escapes. Round about 12 to 19 years old, people who spend most of their time escaping into fantasy (and interfacing with others who make similar escapes) are less likely to be active in non-fantasy activities such as sports, music, or other extra-curricular activities (as I'm drawing generalizations, naturally most individuals will defy this generalization mind you.) This isn't to say these activities are unhealthy, but I certainly believe there would be a relationship between a child or teen who spends 100 hours a week playing World of Warcraft and their lack of interest in volleyball or dating. If one grows up with limited social skills as a child or teen, it stands to reason that they would continue that pattern through their adult life, and prefer the company of others with similar experiences. Alternative religion, lifestyles, and activities become the 'norm.' It leads me to question if those who are engaging in pagan spirituality (in general) do so because they have a genuine desire to embrace their religion, or if it's the result of a lifetime of 'naturally' rebelling against the predominant religion (usually Christianity.) Most Wiccans tend to have a very low opinion of the 15 year old who abandons their Christian faith, in order to have the power to cast spells to spite people they hate. So, these are some of my thoughts. I'm not attempting to suggest people shouldn't believe what they believe, feel what the feel, or love what they love. I'm saying that people who embrace their lives and their places in this world often will find more love and happiness; constantly escaping from this world because it 'sucks' is a lonely and fruitless path. I'm happy to consider opposing viewpoints; I'm genuinely concerned that my position probably makes me look like a judgmental asshole. I'm willing to concede I might be wrong. Any suggestions? Stephan Okay, I CAN SEE what you are saying... but for me, I do not fit into your description. My family was Pagan (they are Gypsy on my Moms side), my mother was the one that 'rebelled' against the family and became Catholic. I, however embraced my families spiritual thought process. I started on my own spiritual path when I was 9, saw my first ghost and realized that I was different. My brother took me to a Wiccan Priestess, who became my first Mentor, but also took me to Grandma, who told me about 'the family'. (my mother had made my Grandma promise to interfere with my moms children, that we had to find our own way.) I have been a devote Wiccan ever since. I loved to read as a kid (and still do), liked fanasty and sci-fi, but also horror. BUT... I also was a member of the track team, very active member of S.A.D.D., extremely social... ect. I have a wide range of friends, but my closest ones are on the same spiritual path as me, I think that is because I am more comfortable discussing my beliefs with people that 'get' it. Just so you know... my Coven is a family one. We have members of all ages... but we are against the 'fluffy bunny' teenagers that think that we are "The Craft" or "Charmed". We also do not condone spells put on others out of hatred or such. We believe whole heartedly in the 'Rule of 3', and the laws of Karma. My children have been raised Wiccan, though they have all gone to church with their Grandparents to be exposed to different paths. Just one more statement. I did not come into BDSM because of paganism or anything. My brother was into it, I saw things in his room and asked questions. He directed me to books to read. I started 'playing' with idea when I was about 15, I was involved in mostly D/s relationships at that time until my first real M/s relationship at 22. But, to me, I dont think that being pagan 'made' me want to be part of other alternative lifesyles. Though... I do think that being pagan helped get me involved with the Ren Faire crowd. (active in the Renn Faires and SCA since I was 16) 1st girl Phoenix
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