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Queening - 2/3/2007 8:22:31 AM

made2comply

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hello ..how does one find a Mistress thats interest in Queening whats the best way to ask ...

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 8:26:38 AM

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I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest you forget all about the act itself and concentrate on finding a mistress to love and serve. The actual acts of service will probably follow.

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 8:29:58 AM

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I would agree with that as well

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 8:48:57 AM

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Put it in your profile. However, if you're all about getting a woman to cater to your fetish and nothing else, you'll be looking for a long time, I'm betting. It's easier to find a woman to do 69. Put her on top, then pull her down on your face. Saves everyone some time.

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 9:20:23 AM

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hello ..how does one find a Mistress thats interest in Queening whats the best way to ask ...

You could always do a search by interests to find a Woman who is interested in queening. You do this by clicking the "Interest Search Off" button, which turns the interest search on. On the next screen, click the "BDSM 3" button. Next, check the Queening box (2nd from top in 3rd column), then save your changes. You will now be able to search for profiles where the Woman checked queening as something she is interested in.

However, I do agree with the others about finding a Mistress to love and serve, as opposed to focusing on a specific activity. There is so much more to a successful bdsm relationship than a common interest in one specific activity (though that could be a start). Having a profile visible also helps. Some Women won't even respond to replies from subs or slaves without a profile.

Good luck.

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 10:55:34 AM

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Probably one of the better ways to send a potential Domme running is to obsess over whether or not she'll engage in a specific act with you.

Typical scenario: male sees profile online of Domme reasonably close to him. male contacts her, barely introducing himself. male immediately asks if she's into sex act he obsesses over. If Domme indicates it's either not an interest or she doesn't feel it's yet appropriate to discuss her sex interests, male immediately ends contact. If Domme indicates it's an interest, male will ask questions about how she does it, how often she does it, will she do it with him immediately, wanting to know every exact detail, until Domme is thoroughly annoyed and ends contact.

Got the point?

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 11:43:12 AM

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Look pal ....if you are that hung up on a particular fetish ... why not just do the honorable thing ... go to a professional and pay for it ... instead of wandering the forums with your thumb in your jacksie !!

That's my advice ... and stop fafffing around.

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RE: Queening - 2/3/2007 11:47:45 AM

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quote:

Look pal ....if you are that hung up on a particular fetish ... why not just do the honorable thing ... go to a professional and pay for it ... instead of wandering the forums with your thumb in your jacksie !!

That's my advice ... and stop fafffing around.

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RE: Queening - 2/5/2007 10:24:33 AM

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well it is a long story, but;your clothes ,or outside secondary skin is known as sexual non verbal communication;so the texture pattern and material clothes you wear plays a big part in attracting the rite mate;i married a person, when i was the couch, but, the marriage was annulled automatically ,when the lawyer asked if we had sex yet ,to consummate the marriage? ;i said no; he said then :it's annulled, nothing needs to be done, put, an ad in the paper saying 'due to lack of compliance the marriage was never conumated in sacred-union and is hereby annulled'.now: everyone knows, in science a relationship spins ,or it's central -axis spins ,and, grows from actual sexual activity ,w/ out it; the relationship grows static ,and, never grows ;goes no where!now ,although, you can't prove we had sex at all ,cause, you can't prove a couch even has sex,(and she wouldnt do it either;seh was totally doggy style vanilla ....) ,so our marriage was annulled automatically;you have, to dress; feel ;and ,remind the other person scouting for a mate ,w/ the ques, that you are comfortable;soft; can be described ,by all the same variables of a nice sitting-apparatus;use your clothes ,and, place yourself, behind her ,and, feel her vibes ;let her feel you're electricity, from there, and ,reward no ,other position in bed,that's science.i had the best sex ,when i smelled like, and, dressed like a leather car seat ,and ,simply asked:" wanna sit on a new soft beige leather car seat?;I'll be your limo tonite...."etc.; etc.she still may hold out thinking you have others and it may take a while for her to grant herself the face location but its just a matter of inches to the left,and,remember : its OK ,to be romantic ,and ,picturesque once in a while, cause, a full moon helps!(everyone has potential if they are top)

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hello ..how does one find a Mistress that's interest in Queening whats the best way to ask ...

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RE: Queening - 2/7/2007 1:51:27 PM

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Probably one of the better ways to send a potential Domme running is to obsess over whether or not she'll engage in a specific act with you.

Typical scenario: male sees profile online of Domme reasonably close to him. male contacts her, barely introducing himself. male immediately asks if she's into sex act he obsesses over. If Domme indicates it's either not an interest or she doesn't feel it's yet appropriate to discuss her sex interests, male immediately ends contact. If Domme indicates it's an interest, male will ask questions about how she does it, how often she does it, will she do it with him immediately, wanting to know every exact detail, until Domme is thoroughly annoyed and ends contact.

There are a couple of other factors affecting that process.

The male probably contacts 100 females for every email response he gets from a female. The female probably receives 100 emails for every email she responds to. The result is that the male is way too desperate and over-reacts when he finally gets a response; and the female is cynical and jaded from all of the emails she gets and over-reacts the second she detects something she does not care for.

The end result: a munch like Fetish Mama is a much better place to contact people than through collar me, alt, or any other relationship site.

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RE: Queening - 6/21/2007 1:58:58 AM

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My guess is LaTigresse, MasterFireMaam, and MysticFireTopaz are most accurate in their responses. I would also state that there is much more emotionally and mentally to "making things happen" then just one physical avenue. Just the same, real responses in the forum are a good place to learn.
Good luck.

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