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valeca -> What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 10:48:23 AM)
For Dominants and submissives alike What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now? Any skills you're currently trying to improve/learn that might benefit you or your other half/third/quarter/partner (or future other half/third/quarter/partner if there isn't a current one)? I was thinking along the lines of BDSM related ( ie. postures, massage, skill with specific toys, traits, etc.), but the question obviously can't be confined to it. --I'll start it off by saying I'm working on improving and maintaining my submissive mindset. After 7 years, I still find I come up against old conventions that just don't jive with the M/s aspect of my relationship. I'm finding ways to let them go. Oh, and not shaking my head when I see Loraith making a new toy that I know is going hurt like hell. Although, I think He rather likes that reaction...

slave2Bruce -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:05:50 AM)
Since B and i are so new to this as a 24/7 M/s relationship i am working on a lot! Since we are creating our "slave contract/ protocol" right now, i am working on being very open to Him about: what would satisfy my needs, what i would like to do for Him on a daily or regular basis, how certain things make me feel, etc. It's quite hard to open up in that way, since it makes me feel so vulnerable, so it is not just helping Him to learn more about me, it is also helping me to grow and learn about myself. Other things i am working on is focusing more on how i can satisfy His needs before He may even know what they are, & learning how to show Him worship.

sublizzie -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:12:17 AM)
I am working on learning more about proper table etiquette/settings for dinner parties. I continually work on improving my knowledge of food and food preparation.

blmtrsne -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:13:05 AM)
On improving my slave/husband: his tongue is being trained regulary now, and he learns how to iron.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:18:18 AM)
My typing. for obvious reasons and it isnt going all that well sigh I knew i should have taken typing instead of shop in HS and incase anyone doesnt understand why this is BDSM related, Angel and I were long distance and almost completely on the phone and online, hence the typing difficulties.

RavenMuse -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:29:38 AM)
Given I should be picking up a violet wand tomorrow then obviously, with it meaning I finaly get to play in private with it.... that is going to get explored and much more familiar very very shortly [:D]

mymasterssub69 -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:38:16 AM)
a few things i'm working to imporve: my stubbornness and my strive to be perfect all the time to stop being hard on myself when things don't go according to plans accepting that mistakes do happen as long as i learn from them building my self confidence and esteem allowing myself to fall in love again

Devilslilsister -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:42:31 AM)
DV - the way i taught myself typing was to make sure my fingers were positioned properly and allow myself to "look" at the keys (making sure i used the appropriate finger with each key). Eventually i started to memorize which finger went where and once i had partial memory - if i made a typo i would rewrite the whole sentence. Eventually i stopped allowing myself to look at all, still using my typo clause. Lets see...... what i'm working on more.... hmmmmm? Everything? Any way i improve myself, improves things for my Master... so its all in a sense bdsm related. Trying to not let my bad moods over run me, my insecurities over run, my trust issues over run me, trying not to jump to conclusions if things seem funny, trying not to be overly negative, trying not to let my doubts over run me, trying to keep my attitude in check if things do over run me, trying to stay respectful if things over run me, working on my issue with weight, working on keeping active when all i want to do is be lazy, working on keeping up todate with school, working on obeying better no matter how i feel, working on not argueing, working on not shutting down communications with Master when i'm feeling miserable or low and being open and letting him know whats going on with me, em.... i thought about working on my pride (as Master seems to agree i have alot of it... but i've other things currently) Thats about all i can think of atm Master is currently trying to get me to learn to have a routine and my sleep schedule. Its hard, i like to be a night owl and i hate routines. i think i'm doing crap at it, but he told me i was doing well and he's proud. i suppose he doesnt expect me to be perfect and that i'll have a few slip ups. But honestly, i have issues with not being perfect so i dun think i'm doing that well. i'll get over it = )

MistressDiane -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 11:48:36 AM)
I'm working very hard on finding more patience and to be more forgiving. I tend to stew on things and have a hard time just letting it go.

Wildfleurs -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:06:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: valeca For Dominants and submissives alike What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now? Any skills you're currently trying to improve/learn that might benefit you or your other half/third/quarter/partner (or future other half/third/quarter/partner if there isn't a current one)? I was thinking along the lines of BDSM related ( ie. postures, massage, skill with specific toys, traits, etc.), but the question obviously can't be confined to it. --I'll start it off by saying I'm working on improving and maintaining my submissive mindset. After 7 years, I still find I come up against old conventions that just don't jive with the M/s aspect of my relationship. I'm finding ways to let them go. Oh, and not shaking my head when I see Loraith making a new toy that I know is going hurt like hell. Although, I think He rather likes that reaction... I used to be a very good violinist (it was my career path) and I haven't really played recently. But this year I'd like to go back to it again since my owner has never heard me play live. I definitely always like to refine my ability to obey and submit (sometimes I hem and haw a bit much or I get a little self concious) so thats always an area of improvement even thought I've been with my owner for several years. I also want to take a cooking class at the CIA - I love cooking and I want to improve my knife skills since I bought myself some Henckl knives last year. Thats about it off the top of my head, C~

junecleaver -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:14:05 PM)
Honestly? Letting go. And it's taking a whole bunch of practice.

mefisto69 -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:14:13 PM)
currently working on accuracy with a 9' whip

Mustardseed -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:19:15 PM)
Being straight-forward about what I want, rather than accepting what I'm offered. Trying not to make waves, trying to keep everyone else happy, hasn't worked for years ... and my Daddy isn't having any of it. He's not my wish-granting genie, but he does want to know what's on my mind, and he wants to watch me strive for what I want in life.

Donnalee -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:20:13 PM)
I'm working on learning the appropriate levels of loyalty. I've always thought it was better to err on the 'too loyal too long', but I think my perspective is skewed.

softcoresicko -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:21:08 PM)
I'd say everything, but that's already been taken. I am trying to be happier person overall; I have the sad tendency to be rather depressed in life, particularly since I just got in a car accident. As for BDSM related stuff, I've been trying to find out where I fit in the spectrum of subs/switches/doms; both to understand myself better, and figure out how I can relate to others who share my interests.

kyraofMists -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:27:38 PM)
I am working on learning how to protect my boundaries in constuctive ways and controlling my negative thinking. Those are the top two, but there are many other things that feed out of those as well. Knight's kyra

angelic -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:32:20 PM)
i am working on forgiveness. It is a daunting task.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:41:33 PM)
I am working on being more easy going about certain things, like his not being able to be here much. We both know I get absoliutely bat shit unhappy about it, sometimes angry, it don't do any good to keep getting so unhappy. He's working extreamly hard to become finacially stable and have money for an apartment, or a move to me. Fussing and pissing and crying isn't going to help things go faster.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:46:38 PM)
Mostly working on my weight, remaining on a steady workout schedule and becoming more financially secure with a good plan for retirement.

SmokingGun82 -> RE: What are you working on improving? (2/3/2007 1:55:41 PM)
There are three main things I'm working on. First, I'm (still) working on improving my mindset, trying to stop the old habits that refuse to completely die. This includes letting myself accept that there are people who are attracted to me. Second, I'm working on controlling emotions- I have pretty solid control over them, but I know that if I back down, that could change. And third, I'm trying to be a little more open, and a little less funny. I read something recently that mentioned the two main uses of jokes are to bring people closer and to keep them at arms length. I've been using it for the latter too much, and it's something I want to change. In a lot of ways, these are all maintenance, but that's what I'm working on now.

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