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all4yourplsr -> A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 2:49:31 PM)
I know this has been brought up countless times but I'm bringing it up from a slightly different angle. What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. And, no. I'm not bitter. I just think it brings up an interesting situation.

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DiurnalVampire -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 3:04:25 PM)
Its sort of like telemarketing. They are contacting hopeingto make a sale. I am sure it is occasionally successful as well. I wouldnt take it too personally. DV

DominaSmartass -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 3:48:04 PM)
I've met men who say that they have been the personal sub or slave of a pro and as such never paid. Of course, they did all the usual stuff like paying for dinner and movies but the kink was included for free. So sure, it can be done (having your dom and eating her too, hehe) but I wouldn't assume that just because a pro contacts you that she's automatically looking to take you on as a personal non-client in this way.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 4:00:17 PM)
The only responsibilities a person has when it comes to their personal relationships are the ones they agree to. As long as these people are not representing themselves as anything other than what they are and are not rude in their acceptance of your rejection of their services, I think it's a normal way of trying to get new business.

RavenMuse -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 4:04:20 PM)
Fishing for business, nothing more, nothing new. You play or you don't... if you don't they fish elsewhere.

MistressDiane -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/3/2007 4:31:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr I know this has been brought up countless times but I'm bringing it up from a slightly different angle. What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. And, no. I'm not bitter. I just think it brings up an interesting situation. Unless they've come to some agreement I don't feel he'd be under any financial obligation at all regardless of who contacted who.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 8:29:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr I know this has been brought up countless times but I'm bringing it up from a slightly different angle. What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. And, no. I'm not bitter. I just think it brings up an interesting situation. If I were to buy a product that was advertized by direct solicitation, I'd still be expected to pay for the merchandise. Pro Doms are selling fantasy fulfillment, a valid thing to do. Should you choose to pursue this service from them, you are most certainly financially obligated. If you don't want the service, simply say, "No thanks," move on. Master Fire

sub4hire -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 9:53:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. Happen's all of the time. However they still want to be paid. Have to advertise don't you? How else does a business get more business? Personally I think all money dominants are submissives in disguise. They have to do as ordered or they don't have a job. Though, that is merely my opinion.

SimplyMichael -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 10:11:21 AM)
There is a sucker born every minute, pro-dommes and BDSM chat rooms are proof of that.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 10:16:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub4hire Personally I think all money dominants are submissives in disguise. They have to do as ordered or they don't have a job. Though, that is merely my opinion. That pretty much makes anyone who earns a living a submissive in disguise.

Adrenochrome -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 4:38:27 PM)
Personally, I'd find it pretty tacky to get contacted by somebody saying "hey, want to fuck?" and when I respond in the affirmative, they say "sure, that'll be fifty bucks." But, then, I don't care much for relationships predicated on business, or pro-Dominating itself.

CreativeDominant -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 4:51:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr I know this has been brought up countless times but I'm bringing it up from a slightly different angle. What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. And, no. I'm not bitter. I just think it brings up an interesting situation. I go with the idea that they are soliciting business. As someone else noted, unless they state otherwise they are most likely looking to make a sale through direct contact. Tell them that you are not interested in paying for dominance and, unless they tell you they want to dominate you for free, move on.

LTRsubNW -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 5:23:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr I know this has been brought up countless times but I'm bringing it up from a slightly different angle. What if a Pro Dom/me contacts a sub/slave? I, for one, think that act alone absolves the sub/slave of any financial responsibility to the Dom/me. I have had 2 so called Pro Dommes initiate conversation with me only to blow me off when I said I could(and would) not pay for them. And, no. I'm not bitter. I just think it brings up an interesting situation. I'm sorry...would you care to say this all over again...but with some nominal level of grammatical accuracy or syntax?

littlesarbonn -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 6:14:36 PM)
When you're in a hurry to find what you're seeking, they will come out of the woodwork, "promising" to give you what you seek, but of course for a price. If you really want to be successful, stop trying so hard and just integrate yourself into the bdsm community. Over time, people start to see you for what you are, and you begin to find yourself attractive to the right people. In the past, when I was in a hurry, I got exactly what I deserved for being in a hurry. I'm a lot more selective and careful these days, but I'm not dismissive either.

slavejali -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 6:20:22 PM)
People try and sell me stuff all the time, initiating the contact with me, doesn't mean I'm gonna get it for free. Example: I got a recent email from someone offering me a violet wand, I shouldn't expect it will be free hey?

DominaSmartass -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 7:20:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali People try and sell me stuff all the time, initiating the contact with me, doesn't mean I'm gonna get it for free. Example: I got a recent email from someone offering me a violet wand, I shouldn't expect it will be free hey? I think the difference (and hence the conflict here) comes from the fact that this is primarily a personals site for people looking for similar types of relationships to meet. Wouldn't you think it odd if you were on Match.com or Eharmony.com and someone asked you out on a date and then said it would cost you a certain amount per hour when you accepted? If this were a site that was strictly based on offering and accepting professional services or goods, like ebay, this would not be an issue. But the pros on this site often have normal profiles and only start asking for money later. That is, other than that majority of them that demand a "tribute" before you can even chat with them. All in all, I am not happy with the way that a search for dominant women returns relatively few who are not looking for money in one way or another but until CM changes its TOS to make soliciting or advertising against policy, my opinion doesn't count.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: A Twist on an Old Favorite (2/5/2007 7:26:46 PM)
Yes, but those sites have pay features and screen a lot more than collarme. I'm willing to be able to just hit ignore and screen myself in exchange for a free site that's really decent. Believe me, even when you pay on a sex/kink site, you still get adverts thrown at you. I was a member of AFF for a year...plenty of adverts coming through for my male counterparts. All I got, mostly, were cock shots yawn Master Fire

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