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aurora31 -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 7:24:30 AM)
denika I understand fully the jumping in with both feet thing I do it too. Sir is putting an end to that, now things are done when he thinks I am ready not when I think I am ready. God how I hate this which given the fact that Sir is also a sadist just makes it all that much more fun for him...errrrrr. aurora

sleazybutterfly -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 7:30:40 AM)
It was learning that I didn't have to fit what others thought was a slave. I was always told I couldn't ask questions, I couldn't want my Master to only be with me, I couldn't think for myself, I had to have sex with others, and I couldn't have any standards or choices in how I lived my life. I know now that I am the ideal slave, for him..though maybe not for someone else. That works fine for me, I prefer to be with someone that respects me as I am and has the same goals in this life as I do. The ones that didn't think I was a slave are missing out, I am very much a slave, but only to Master...to everyone else, I am probably a biatch..and thats okay with me.

wideeyes -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 10:00:02 AM)
For me its been admitting to myself and my dom that i'm not ready for everything i might someday be able to do. The implulse is so strong to simply endure that it overwelms the need for total honesty. Working on only going as far as i actually can and not as far as i wish i could.

denika -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 12:06:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aurora31 denika I understand fully the jumping in with both feet thing I do it too. Sir is putting an end to that, now things are done when he thinks I am ready not when I think I am ready. God how I hate this which given the fact that Sir is also a sadist just makes it all that much more fun for him...errrrrr. aurora That is definatly sadistic s When I first started taking a serious look at BDSM the advise was pretty much all over the place. Start slow, test the water, a toe at a time. Which is very smart advise. Letting someone you don't know tie you up just goes without saying. But there is little in life that I don't just jump in. lol I check around for the sharks first but I've always prefered the deep end. Not always the smartest thing, I'll even be the first to admit that. I have a hard time following instructions. s If you are anything like me in that aspect, your frustration level is probably going to escalate from time to time. sleazybutterfly: Good for you! So many try to define themselves by others definitions especially in the begining. Terms are so subjective, when really we make them what they are. Hmm but I like sex with others, S but I understand what you mean, the feeling that if you call yourself a slave your personal boundries won't be respected or even recognized. A good slave protects what her Master owns and that includes herself. denika

hot1 -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 1:07:22 PM)
I guess I am really different. I am me, cannot be anyone else, I do not think my nature has changed at all, all my life I had to please...parents, teachers, boyfriends...husbands. I remember one day...I was maybe 30 at the time...and I had stopped in at a high school friends place...she was home visiting.....there was 3 of us girls that were inseperatable during high school. We was talking to my friends mother...and saying is really strange that we were still close..like a year or so could go by...we would get in touch with the other....spend a bit of time catching up on what was new...and then it was right back into the friends that we have been for many years. But it was so different with the 3rd one in the trio....she was someone we really didn't want to be around. My friends mother said...well the big difference is you two are basically the same person you were, the way you were both brought up let you be who you were, you were not forced to be someone else...the other...well she was in an abusive home, deathly afraid of her parents and of being beat if she stepped out of line...so when she got out on her own, she became who she really was...and that is just someone you two do not like. But you two...will be friends for life. Because you are the same people and will never change. Did that make sense?

Tslaveboy -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 2:11:44 PM)
It helps to have a good mistress who knows how to help you ease into the lifestyle.

sexyone4you -> RE: When you were new... (2/10/2007 2:49:26 PM)
Ah, but weeding out the fakes and the psychos can be quite a challenge when you are new

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