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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 3:58:36 PM

Vendaval

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Well, I am also poly and tend to have different submissives
for different tasks, how many are in service at any one time
varies depending on mutual scheduling availability -

1 for computer repairs and geek issues
1 for graphic design and artwork
1 for house cleaning and laundry
1 for car repairs and long distance driving
2 - 10 for Sex and/or Scenes of varying types and intensity

So far, I remain the head cook, since non of them have my
level of skill in the kitchen and I actually enjoy cooking.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:48:04 PM

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Gents, I'm curious about what you deem to be good quality service.

In terms of areas of service, how and why do you rank them in order of priorities (e.g. cleaning, cooking, sex etc).

Ahem. I'm obviously neither a gent or a dominant, however...

Several months ago I began a thread with my own musings On Service... . Although that discussion deliberately steered away from the types of service that you appear to mention, I thought I'd offer my views on those here. Besides... FirmHandKY is busy with work right now and hasn't much time to spend in the forums.

In my service to FirmHandKY, I have a variety of duties and responsibilities... some of which relate to the here and now, and some which will come into play in the future. Although he has never expressed it in so many words, I will be so bold as to say that my primary service to him at all times is the fealty that I describe in the above referenced thread. And my responsibilities revolve around those services that support him, support our relationship, and support myself.

As we've yet to be located close enough to engage in anything resembling what others might view as D/s, my duties right now might seem limited, but I assure you that I take them most seriously. Of course, these aren't "orders" from him but are more understood expectations. I have a responsibility to take care of me, my health and well-being for him; I also have the duty to wisely manage my affairs... to be financially responsible and to take no actions that might endanger or hinder our goals; I continue to remain vigilant in seeking the opportunity to relocate myself to him; and as much as is possible, I am available to him when he needs me or desires me... to share with him, to learn from him, to allow him to learn of me, to comfort him, to keep him company, to make him laugh, to listen to him, or to simply be there.

When I am finally able to relocate to him (hopefully in the next month or two), those duties will remain and many more added. To be of service to him means to provide for him whatever I am able to fulfill his needs and desires... whether those are ensuring a comfortable home, creating sumptuous meals, providing intellectual stimulation, or being of use for his sexual satisfaction, that will be up to him. It is my job to make every effort to be prepared to accommodate him and to give my all in serving him.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/6/2007 12:26:14 AM

NorthernGent

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Thanks very much for the post and link. The entire thread was an interesting read and there is loads of sound advice to take on board.

It has certainly helped me to fine tune a few priorities. I fully appreciate your point that respect for the person drives the need to serve as opposed to vice versa. I also take the point that religiously shaping a submissive according to the dominants service priorities is defeating the object of a fulfilling relationship. I don't mind admitting that one or two changes to my profile is in order as it doesn't reflect who I am. Thanks for the prompt :-)

Having said this, a great cook will always warm my heart!

edited for a typo

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RE: Service ranking - 2/6/2007 3:27:04 AM

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quote:

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Having said this, a great cook will always warm my heart!

Always a good skill for her to have, one that brings pleasure but not high on My prioritys list.

Which is a good job

However, over the next few years I will teach Mine how to cook 'properly'... she has a Master who cooks rarely but when He does is quite capable of putting the best of resteraunts to shame. Gordon Ramsey eat yer ****ing heart out

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RE: Service ranking - 2/6/2007 4:50:47 AM

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You are very welcome, NG.

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Having said this, a great cook will always warm my heart!

For a submissive who pledges fealty to you, anything that warms your heart becomes a priority. For you, she will become a great cook... and, you will find that you needn't command her. Simply let her know what pleases you and what brings you joy, and she will move heaven and earth to serve you.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/6/2007 1:30:16 PM

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I think that whatever is most important to you with regards to service is the proper order for any relationship in which you will be involved.

We each have our personal preferences and differences.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/8/2007 8:21:03 PM

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I read this thread with interest. speaking from a slave point of view, i don't think i could list a priority or ranking of services. i do everything it seems, sometime when i think of it feels, or sounds, overwhelming. but in reality it is only one (ok, sometimes 2 or 3) thing at a time. When He wakes my priority is the morning routine, when He bathes my service in bathing and valet is the priority. When i get paid, paying the bills is a big priority. on an on going basis when not in direct service to Him it is to keep the house clean, His clothes ready and His tools in order. When He wants to go somewhere it is chauffeur service..

And as BitaTruble said so well - If he's horny, then it's sex. *grins*

my priority is what ever serves His needs and wants the best. In other words, doing the next right thing to serve and please Him.

...edited because spelling is obviously NOT a priority...

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RE: Service ranking - 2/8/2007 9:09:55 PM

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I hate cleaning. I enjoy cooking. I love sex. You figure it out ;)

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RE: Service ranking - 2/9/2007 3:53:58 AM

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Just taking care of him in general is a high priority. What I mean is, keeping the house clean, cooking, laundry, bills being paid...then our personal time together where we just cuddle on the couch and watch tv, or when we have sex.

He never leaves me a list, we discuss things sometimes and I take care of it, but thats about it. The most important thing I have found with Daddy is just making sure he knows that I care and love him. His ex-wife treated him like dirt, so I just make sure that he knows how valuable he is to me, and how very much he means in my life.

Me taking care of the home, animals, etc.. along with pampering him when I can seems to cover things quite well.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/9/2007 7:14:19 AM

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good attitude,eager to please,curious to learn new things......perfection is not my thing,eager to please is key

.My new boy has a tendency to be MUCH more critical of himself than I am of him.I understand Rome was not built in a day. So it makes me smile...and then I reassure him that in due time he will be much more fluid and skilled in caring for me.It is the "trying hard" that shows me who he is as a person.

Good boy.....

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