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dougieboy -> sharing your toys... (2/6/2007 9:15:35 PM)
i'm new to this forum so first of all hi [:)] since Dominant Women have fascinated me since childhood i just couldnt resist but start out in the "ask a Mistress" forum. anyway, my question is related to a recent experience with a Domme. we had been seeing eachother for a couple years, casually but on a fairly regular basis. she enjoyed smacking me around and humiliating me and in return i was a good little bitch [:)] the only thing i ever really craved aside from our normal activities was having her use and humiliate me in front of her female friends. i had always fantasized about her having some girlfriends over, me serving them, performing for them, that sort of thing. i gently brought it up to her one time. i made sure to emphasize that i didnt want to do anything with them, but that i just wanted to be her bitch in front of them. it think it would heighten the feelings of humilation and submissiveness alot to be submissive to her in front of other people. it would feel much safer to me with Women as opposed to men. well, she wasn't into it, and of course that was fine. she said that she didn't like "sharing her toys" with other girls. well, being a good sub i didn't push the issue and i accepted her word as final. subsequently, she did do things to me in front of her gay male friends. nothing really wild, but just casual bossing me around and stuff. of course this was humiliating but closer to a bad humiliation than the good kind i was seeking with her female friends. but i was happy for the abuse nonetheless. anyway, i just thought i would pose the question to the Women of this site. are you reluctant to "share your toys"? and if so why? i will humbly await your responses or being completely ignored [:)]

MzMia -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/6/2007 9:21:00 PM)
Well dougie, I can't wait to read the answers to your post. I personally, do not as a rule share well. I would enjoy having my submissive serve drinks, food, cleaning up, etc. at a gathering. No kink involved, pure and simple service. Sort of like being a maid or playing the role of the "good wife". I am all for that, as I sit with my feet up. Can you bring me another cup of fresh coffee, before you get back to preparing us dinner?[:D]

MistressDolly -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/6/2007 9:32:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dougieboy i'm new to this forum so first of all hi [:)] since Dominant Women have fascinated me since childhood i just couldnt resist but start out in the "ask a Mistress" forum. anyway, my question is related to a recent experience with a Domme. we had been seeing eachother for a couple years, casually but on a fairly regular basis. she enjoyed smacking me around and humiliating me and in return i was a good little bitch [:)] the only thing i ever really craved aside from our normal activities was having her use and humiliate me in front of her female friends. i had always fantasized about her having some girlfriends over, me serving them, performing for them, that sort of thing. i gently brought it up to her one time. i made sure to emphasize that i didnt want to do anything with them, but that i just wanted to be her bitch in front of them. it think it would heighten the feelings of humilation and submissiveness alot to be submissive to her in front of other people. it would feel much safer to me with Women as opposed to men. well, she wasn't into it, and of course that was fine. she said that she didn't like "sharing her toys" with other girls. well, being a good sub i didn't push the issue and i accepted her word as final. subsequently, she did do things to me in front of her gay male friends. nothing really wild, but just casual bossing me around and stuff. of course this was humiliating but closer to a bad humiliation than the good kind i was seeking with her female friends. but i was happy for the abuse nonetheless. anyway, i just thought i would pose the question to the Women of this site. are you reluctant to "share your toys"? and if so why? i will humbly await your responses or being completely ignored [:)] Mmm, sounds like fun. As for me, it depends: I can be territorial, and conversely, I can be pretty generous too. ;)

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 6:21:40 AM)
I've recently discussed setting up an experience with another Domme for my sub, but I would never bring a vanilla friend into the mix. I am also very particular about whom I would allow to interact with my boy and would have to really know and trust the Domme. It would not involve any sexual contact and would focus on humiliation and service. Be well, Julie

Lorelei115 -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 6:28:26 AM)
<--- Does not play well with others. laugh No, honestly I've never had an issue sharing a submissive with my dominant friends. As long as I am kept as the center of their attention, of course. It's fun to gang up on a poor, helpless little subbie. [:D]

thetammyjo -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 6:34:34 AM)
I don't see being myself in front of others as "sharing". Perhaps your dominant feels more comfortable being her dominant self around gay men. It might seem like less competition or less sexually provocative to her. After other female dominants she might feel like it was a contest; around straight men, well, sadly there are some who think any woman shouldn't be dom or that any woman who is is just really a slut. (by the way, I've seen this sort of thing from female doms around straight men too, treating them all as subs, etc; I find both attitudes unacceptable) I have no problem with Fox doing his job in front of anyone as long as it is appropriate. At our home we are very out to anyone who comes into it. He will fetch whatever I wish with simply a look from me or a gesture as a command. He doesn't consider it humiliation because he knows his service is good and valued. I honestly do not get the humiliation thing at all.

LadyEllen -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 6:41:54 AM)
isnt it time for your "afternoon nap", Dougie? E

MistressTaboo -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 6:58:44 AM)
It's a pretty common fantasy. And it really depends on what you mean by serve. If you meant serve them drinks while in nothing but shorts and a bow tie...there are parties for that. If you meant sexually...I don't know of any Domme's that share their toys that way. It's only in men's fiction are they made to service multiple Domme's with their tongue. But it's it's just service or talents I've been known to loan mine out. For example many Dom/me's in the local scene call my slave Dratt for tech support. And last summer when we were on vacation I loaned our house pet out to a friend that was moving. He didn't have anything to do while we were gone and she was semi laid up and needed the help. When we host a dinner, my slave and the house boy are expected to cook and clean and serve. Ms Taboo

MzMia -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 7:45:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressTaboo It's a pretty common fantasy. And it really depends on what you mean by serve. If you meant serve them drinks while in nothing but shorts and a bow tie...there are parties for that. If you meant sexually...I don't know of any Domme's that share their toys that way. It's only in men's fiction are they made to service multiple Domme's with their tongue. But it's it's just service or talents I've been known to loan mine out. For example many Dom/me's in the local scene call my slave Dratt for tech support. And last summer when we were on vacation I loaned our house pet out to a friend that was moving. He didn't have anything to do while we were gone and she was semi laid up and needed the help. When we host a dinner, my slave and the house boy are expected to cook and clean and serve. Ms Taboo Well stated MsTaboo, fantasy land.....next stop Oz. I am very willing to "share" him--as I stated he will cook, serve, clean for a large group of people! How is that for "sharing"? Oops I forgot! He will also buy the food.

SCDommie -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 8:16:53 AM)
I think one can feel comfortable sharing their toys if they are for certain that the toys care for no other than their own Mistress. That is what I have learned in my time so far. Yes, I would share, but it would be only for someone I knew and trusted and wanted to help learn things in the lifestyle. SCD

MasterFireMaam -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 12:16:13 PM)
I share my girl with her husband, her lover and her Dominant. I am her Master. Although, this might not be exactly what you're thinking about. I've shared my submissive with others, for specific things. But... Honestly, your fantasy of being the only man in a room full of Fem Doms is a common one...so common that I find it hard to even think of indulging it...just like strap on play...simpy because those that I've met (and there's been a lot) who really want this fantasy, want it without giving anything in return. I know that doesn't necessarily apply to you...nor are generalizations a good thing. It's just my knee-jerk reaction to roll my eyes at this one. It's not you, it's me. Master Fire

dougieboy -> RE: sharing your toys... (2/7/2007 12:41:34 PM)
yes, Lady E. it is time for my nap now. ahhhh...i'm feeling so relaxed [:)]

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