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slaveharryM -> a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 1:12:53 AM)

Greetings Mistresses
Greetings subs and slaves
Greetings other people

i am a new owned male slave from Shanghai, China. Both my Mistress and i are native Chinese.

As you all know, the subculture of BDSM developed later than the Western countries so Chinese BDSMers want to learn a lot of things from the Western BDSMer. If you can help me, i will be very grateful.

First of all, i wants to know what is the most important thing of a slave in the eyes of Mistress? Royal? Intelligent? Masculine? or something else.

Please allow me to thank you for your reading. [:)]



Nikolette -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 1:20:15 AM)

I recommend typing "bdsm information" into google. Its a wide world out there.



LotusSong -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 5:10:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveharryM


First of all, i wants to know what is the most important thing of a slave in the eyes of Mistress? Royal? Intelligent? Masculine? or something else.

Please allow me to thank you for your reading. [:)]



The most important thing is what YOUR Mistress tells you it is.



thetammyjo -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 6:05:50 AM)

The most important thing is that which makes your dynamic work beneficially for both of you.

You are an individual, she is an individual. What works for you will not necessarily work for anyone else. What works in my house may not work in hers.

While I can understand that some feel that finding external examples, models, structures, and arrangements to be reassuring, I have yet to know a successful M/s relationship what was built on someone else's model without serious adjustments for the individuals in that dynamic. In fact, most of those M/s couples and families I know and respect most are unique except for one fact: everyone supports the dynamics and does their share of the work to maintain it.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 8:03:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveharryM


First of all, i wants to know what is the most important thing of a slave in the eyes of Mistress? Royal? Intelligent? Masculine? or something else.

Please allow me to thank you for your reading. [:)]



The most important thing is what YOUR Mistress tells you it is.


I agree with this, but with an additional thing: If your Mistress tells you the most important thing is something you have a problem with enmotionally or psychologically, she's not the Mistress for you.

Master Fire



LadyMarmalade1 -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 9:23:02 AM)

I agree with MasterFireMaam,  I think that it one of the most important things to remember.  Something else that I think is important is that there is communication, honest communication.

Lady M



orfunboi -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 4:35:24 PM)

i think the most important thing for me is trust and communication.



MistressDolly -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 7:01:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveharryM

Greetings Mistresses
Greetings subs and slaves
Greetings other people

i am a new owned male slave from Shanghai, China. Both my Mistress and i are native Chinese.

As you all know, the subculture of BDSM developed later than the Western countries so Chinese BDSMers want to learn a lot of things from the Western BDSMer. If you can help me, i will be very grateful.

First of all, i wants to know what is the most important thing of a slave in the eyes of Mistress? Royal? Intelligent? Masculine? or something else.

Please allow me to thank you for your reading. [:)]



Humility is an honorable trait.

yw [:)]



ineedotk -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/8/2007 8:50:46 PM)

Would love to visit Shanghai one day.



MstrssPassion -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/9/2007 3:50:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveharryM

Greetings Mistresses
Greetings subs and slaves
Greetings other people

i am a new owned male slave from Shanghai, China. Both my Mistress and i are native Chinese.

As you all know, the subculture of BDSM developed later than the Western countries so Chinese BDSMers want to learn a lot of things from the Western BDSMer. If you can help me, i will be very grateful.

First of all, i wants to know what is the most important thing of a slave in the eyes of Mistress? Royal? Intelligent? Masculine? or something else.

Please allow me to thank you for your reading. [:)]





sincerity



Celeste43 -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/9/2007 8:12:54 AM)

Varies person to person. I have read posts by a woman who said the only thing that mattered in her relationship was obedience. Service was unnecessary, he wasn't interested at all in her emotions and didn't want to know about her life, all she had to do was obey when he gave an order. He didn't give a damn if she thought it was lame and performed it while rolling her eyes and thinking what a dork.

There are others who want service more than anything. Everything from housecleaning and bootblacking to secretarial service.

Some are more interested in sexual use.

Mine, he wants emotional transparency out of me. I'm to tell him of moods, good and bad. I'm to ask for sex if I feel horny, cry on his shoulder if lonely, turn my problems over to him to see if he can help, poke him and start a wrestling match if I feel silly. I'm to give him the authentic me and it's not an easy thing.



goodpet -> RE: a Chinese slave wonders what is the most important thing of a slave? (2/11/2007 5:01:19 AM)

focus
doing the next right thing.

most of the time you will know what the right thing would be to do right then, right now. You only have "now" and if you consisitently do the right thing with your NOW time, things usually work out. 

maybe serving her, or at work, or even how you deal with a slow driver in the fast lane; it is doing the right thing for where ever you are at the time, with the focus on her and asking "will this help and benefit the relationship or hinder it?"

if you don't what it is to do, ask.

good luck and welcome



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