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mixielicous -> good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:07:09 PM)

origional thread can be found here

here is a list of "how to be a good wife"

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.



Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.



Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.



Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.



During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.



Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.



Be happy to see him.



Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.



Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.



Don't greet him with complaints and problems.



Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.



Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.



Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.



Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.



A good wife always knows her place.


so i can understand why women who are pro-feminist can easily be upset by this, [because back in '55 -true- this was NOT a choice]
... or why woman who grew up watching their mothers behave as such while all the while bored to tears - also shun the idea

meanwhile i grew up watching the opposite and my mother being unable to keep a man around. connection?

but i am honestly surprised at the lack of women/subs/slaves/etc, who agree that this makes .... not nesc a good wife, but a good sub/slave. i feel any who identify as such and have the opportunity to be live in/long term should strive to meet these standards.

this is how i live my life, and i could easily use this article as my daily routine


[[puts on flame retardant clothing]]



MasterFireMaam -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:11:02 PM)

All I can say is....I need a wife.

Master Fire



nyrisa -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:16:50 PM)

My husband and I both agree.... WE need a wife.



subsa -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:17:27 PM)

i wish it could be mine....i do try but i have to work outside the home so i don't always get home before Him.  when i do though , i try very hard to do those sorts of thing..  well i try all the time but it's hard to have a drink waiting or a fire when He gets home first or we arrive together.  i grew up watching my mom do just this sort of thing and being very happy and fullfilled for the most part.  i caved to societal pressure though and went to college and have a 'career' even  though i was never sure this was what i really wanted, just what was expected. 



onestandingstill -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:17:30 PM)

LOL I read the book of Etiquette that caption came out of just two years ago.
I'm not sure who's disagreeing doing these things makes you a good sub, but it's not me.
I think servicing your Dom and being sure to present yourself in your best possible way to him is appropriate, and highly sought after by many a Dom.
suzanne



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:19:09 PM)

The issue tends to be when people think this is the ONLY/BEST way to be a sub/slave.

Oh and frankly not questioning someone's actions or judgements might be good for some, it's usually just a cop out on the part of the dom.

While few women in my family have managed to keep hold of their men either (thank god because they were abusive assholes), I personally would ADORE having the time and opportunity to treat my partner as described above everyday.

People who blame feminism for their own relationship crap just want to place blame.



Wildfleurs -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:19:58 PM)

I don't have a problem with the list, although it does seem geared for someone who stays at home and doesn't work (although most of that can be done while working, just not as intensively).

I especially think that my owner appreciates me being a "little gay" especially when I'm a little gay with another woman[sm=biggrin.gif]

C~



mixielicous -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:23:54 PM)

well of course its hard to get this done while holding a job too, but its the effort that counts [:D]



hot1 -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:24:58 PM)

Everyone is different.  I enjoy the man being the head of the household...but only if he knows what he is doing, if not I will step in and take over and do it right...shortly after that we will seperate because I don't want to be in charge...lol  tis an evil cycle.

I do take care of my man tho...and several when I don't have one...lol....in every way I can but clean..I don't clean...never have since i was 18....as soon as I moved out...I hired someone to come in and clean.  First thought most people have to that is must be nice to be rich....I am not rich, I live comfortable.  But for me it is necessary.  I have 2 businesses and work min 80 hours every week, I don't want to waste time that I am not working on cleaning...so I hire someone.  Right now all I do for cleaning is dishes and laundry.....nothing to it.  I also have a bad back and simply cannot sweep and scrub without pain...so why do it.

The other stuff....I think it depends on who you are with.  I have a nature slave heart, serving and pleasing is just what I do, is not an act or put on....I tend to just develop into meeting what anyone expects of me.  Isn't that what life is about..being true to yourself?

beth



viperess -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 1:30:38 PM)

i personally have to say the list is a great starting point as how to please your Master after a hard day at work. It also sounds a lot like how my grandmother was (they were married over 50 years before their death) and how it is with my own parents who celebrated 58 years of marriage this past June.  Must be something to the list after all.

viperess slave of CTDOM4sub



proudsub -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 2:10:41 PM)

I strive to do a lot of that but Hubby works out of the house so it's a little different.  I serve him all day long at his biding.[:)]



Missokyst -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 2:27:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

origional thread can be found here

here is a list of "how to be a good wife"

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.


Back in the days I was married, making sure he was fed was a big part of my job.  However, during the 7 yrs of my internment he was probably working only 1/2 the time.  Sometimes making sure he was fed got to be bothersome knowing that I was doing something for someone who had time to do it himself.

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Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

 
I would agree that looking like you spent all day laying around in sweats is probably not a good plan if you want someone to spend time between your legs.  But that's nilla or ds'y, imo

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Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

 
This may be more true if BOTH parties kept things interesting, since likely as not, both people probably work.



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Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.


Keeping it clean is better than tripping over towels and what nots no matter what your situation.  But this also assumes that the wife would arrive home before her mate.
 
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During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.


I miss having a fireplace..
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Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.

Often this is the only time of the day where you can wash, vacuum, on interact with your kids for many families.  Though if the kids have video games, who sees them anymore?

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Be happy to see him.

Hopefully this is true for both of you.

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Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Ditto to my above statement

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Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.


Umm... not always.  Life happens.  Sometimes you or your children MIGHT take precedence.
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Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Ok... my evil side is coming out now.  I agree.  Save those things for when sports are on.  LOL..
Seriously, things will come up.  While it's not a good plan to discuss issues immediately when people come home, remember things do come up and should be discussed in a timely manner.

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Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.

WHAT??  When he was out all night and I shouldn't have complained?  Well dang.  Here I thought it was just enough to cook him dinner at 4 am after he came home from the bars.  I didn't know his not coming home all night didn't merit my questions.  The things you learn..

 
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Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

No comment

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Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Agreed, soothing beats strident anytime.

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Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

How did he reach this state of perfection?

My problem with these things are geared to someone who has had to work, raise kids, and come home to do these things.  A lot of us out there are also working.  There are issues of conflicting schedules, life issues, and who knows what, that can interfere with this 50's state of "perfection". I can recall my mom living this life for quite a few years.  But her mouth is set now in a permanant tight lipped control and deep furrows worn in between her eyes in suppressed irritation.  And she spent many of those years taking drugs to keep her calm.
I believe relationships should not fall so heavily on one set of shoulders.  While it is nice to strive for ideals, it would be great if both parties put a decent effort into making a relationship work.
This is not knocking the idea of ds, but stressing the idea that keeping things fresh and healthy are not solely the the responsibility of one.
Kyst



moonspirit43 -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 2:33:07 PM)

I do a lot of these things as service to my husband.  But we're also not like a 50's couple in the fact that I also take care of the finances, keep track of whatever schedule we have, drive everywhere, rarely cook (he loves to do that so he does it) etc.

It's basically just do whatever works for you (a general "you"), as always. And everyone will be different.



mixielicous -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 2:33:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst


This is not knocking the idea of ds, but stressing the idea that keeping things fresh and healthy are not solely the the responsibility of one.
Kyst

of course not! even a Dom has a responsibility *gasp* and each of us knows what our own particular One's ways of nurturing/caring/providing [in MANY ways]

i like to think, this is my way of thanking Him for all His glory, dedication and of course, *wuv* [:)] hehehhe



Rayne58 -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 4:29:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hot1

Everyone is different. I enjoy the man being the head of the household...but only if he knows what he is doing, if not I will step in and take over and do it right...shortly after that we will seperate because I don't want to be in charge...lol tis an evil cycle.

I do take care of my man tho...and several when I don't have one...lol....in every way I can but clean..I don't clean...never have since i was 18....as soon as I moved out...I hired someone to come in and clean. First thought most people have to that is must be nice to be rich....I am not rich, I live comfortable. But for me it is necessary. I have 2 businesses and work min 80 hours every week, I don't want to waste time that I am not working on cleaning...so I hire someone. Right now all I do for cleaning is dishes and laundry.....nothing to it. I also have a bad back and simply cannot sweep and scrub without pain...so why do it.

The other stuff....I think it depends on who you are with. I have a nature slave heart, serving and pleasing is just what I do, is not an act or put on....I tend to just develop into meeting what anyone expects of me. Isn't that what life is about..being true to yourself?

beth


I don't clean either! It's one thing I've always hated, so now I get a lady to come in once a week to do the heavy stuff like floors and bathroom/kitchen. I'll happily cook, do dishes and laundry, shopping, take care of finances and bills but clean??? Cruel and unusual punishment (please don't let Master Nevershyau see this![;)])

My mother married my dad in 1957 and she was a 1950s housewife right up until his death almost 2 years ago. She never worked outside the home and was always there when he got home from work and when we got home from school. She also didn't drive and when he became seriously ill she had to learn how to manage the finances. The main reason they had to eventually move was so they would be closer to medical services and public transport.



Celeste43 -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 6:09:47 PM)

There's a conflict there between being a 'good' wife and a good mother. If you're at home with very young ones, you probably haven't even been able to go to the bathroom by yourself. You certainly don't have half an hour to doll yourself up for his arrival. Plus that quiet them down bit must have been written by someone who has never seen youngsters get wired up knowing Daddy's home.

Moreover they need Daddy time. Without it they don't develop good relationships with males in their lives (if females) or learn how to be good fathers (if male). The perfect male rolemodel is not one who does not interact with his offspring. You're in Somerville, go over to the Tufts Early Education department and ask someone about this.

And you need alone time to destress in order to keep up with your work load. Because otherwise you can't be gay and a pleasure to be with. Nor attractive when you can't even get out for a quick walk.



michaels4evr -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 8:16:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

origional thread can be found here

here is a list of "how to be a good wife"

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

I do plan ahead..but..it's a conspiracy I tell you..plans are usually foiled! Honestly He usually gets upset if He comes home to a hot meal...figures I've been slaving too hard!

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.


lol..and twin-weary momma slave will be fresh looking alright..probably with a splash of applesauce or rice cereal in place of the ribbon..

Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Daddy tends to find me quite interesting enough..and that's without trying. His days..or nights i should say as He works 7 p.m to 7 a.m. are rarely boring..he actually enjoys what He does..

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.

i'm trying to train the dog to do this..but she is having trouble not leaving black hairs all over the glass tables..

During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

now this I could get into, but alas..we are in Texas..so few cool days..


Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum.

If I actually got a moment to throw a load in, no way I'm turning it off..Daddy needs clean drawers!

Encourage the children to be quiet.

ROFLMBAO...you don't know these aliens...

Be happy to see him.

I always am...I finally get to go pee...

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Hopefully the clinched teeth count as a smile..my bladder's burstin ova here!

Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

He would disagree. He can't wait to hear tales of twin antics.....

Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

I don't..I generally don't have any..I just have to pee...

Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.

Work for your Daddy must really be awful...


Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

I wish He would rest when He gets in, but after I pee, He  usually offers to take care of the aliens, or He works on His writings...

Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Like I said..the man doesn't sleep..and He won't let me touch His shoes..too germy..and my voice? babbling is probably soothing....

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

I don't need to question, He generally explains His actions in a clear and concise manner.

A good wife always knows her place.

Indeed..Her place is where her husband/Daddy wants her..for some it's as described above..for others like in our home..its in the bathroom for that much needed break He's rushed home to provide...

so i can understand why women who are pro-feminist can easily be upset by this, [because back in '55 -true- this was NOT a choice]
... or why woman who grew up watching their mothers behave as such while all the while bored to tears - also shun the idea

meanwhile i grew up watching the opposite and my mother being unable to keep a man around. connection?

but i am honestly surprised at the lack of women/subs/slaves/etc, who agree that this makes .... not nesc a good wife, but a good sub/slave. i feel any who identify as such and have the opportunity to be live in/long term should strive to meet these standards.

I strive to meet Daddy's standards..mine would be more in line with the above..but that's not His will..who am I to bicker?

this is how i live my life, and i could easily use this article as my daily routine



[[puts on flame retardant clothing]]

[Throws you one of the aliens' sleepers..]




MagiksSlave -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 9:11:48 PM)

Like many have said this list is wonderfull for those that dont work and spend all day at home and this IS their job.. for most however this is unrealistic. I go to Masters place after school Im exousted and most time my work for school doesnt end when I get home it only just starts because of papers and home work and stuff. If I had to come home and then do all of that well I wouldnt be a very good slave because i wouldnt be able to  do anything els Id burn out and be no good to him or to my class work at all. Instead I come to Masters we talk take things easy for a few mintus then he may give me some tasks while he gets dinner together. he does the loudry befor I get there and I fold it when I arrive.. I do what I can and that makes Master happy.. I know I wouldnt  be happy liveing the life of a house wife even if I could I woudnt want to.. does that make me a bad slave... I dont think so.

Magik's slave



AZSweetie -> RE: good wife spin off (2/9/2007 10:31:01 PM)

Right now i am not in a relationship and/or owned but these are things i strive to be to whom i'm with.  This list in my opinion is very much a "50's housewife" to the fullest. i loveeeeeeeeeeeee doing all of the above for whom i'm with. Having dinner ready, lunches packed, rubbing feet, clothes layed out, house clean and presentable, etc.. i DO NOT think that adheering to all of the above makes you any better of a sub/slave/wife  than others though. Alot of us lead busy lives and can't do all that we'd like to do for who we're with. i think what makes you a good wife/sub/slave is living up to what it is that is expected of you.



acissej -> RE: good wife spin off (2/10/2007 5:38:27 AM)

Hmm...according to this, I'm a horrible wife and submissive, but my husband/dom makes a great 1950s wife!

Since I commute four hours a day to get to my full-time job, while he only commutes for one, when I come home, he does most of these things for me.  He's in charge of dinner during the week, though I usually do the weekend cooking and make enough to have leftovers to last us a few days.   He does try to be "a little gay and a little more interesting" when I get home to lift my spirits, though he usually lets me rant and rave about work first.  For the most part, he takes care of all the cleaning...several of my vanilla friends want to know where they can find a domestic slave like him (ha! if only they knew...).  He always has a glass of wine waiting for me.  He isn't so good at minimizing noise, however, or beautifying himself for me.  [:)]

Like others have said, if my commitments outside the home were different, I'd love to be able to do some of these things for him, but usually I come home and just want to crawl into bed.  The weekends are different, but even then, we try to share household duties equitably and, just as I try to make him comfortable, he tries to make me comfortable




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