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ProtagonistLily -> What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/10/2005 5:54:59 AM)
Since Lady Angelika tossed her question about what makes a good Dom/me, I thought fair play was in order. So, what are the signs/traits of a good sub? Lily

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/10/2005 6:10:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily So, what are the signs/traits of a good sub? Lily The same as they are for any good person.

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/10/2005 6:34:26 AM)
humility and the willing and desire to learn

Mercnbeth -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/10/2005 7:28:59 AM)
quote: what are the signs/traits of a good sub? a seeker of nourishing relationships. knows the difference between a caring Dom/me and an abusive controlling jerk. self assured, aware of personal difficulties as well as strengths. interpersonal sensitivity--reactive to the subtle shifts in the emotional tone of others. flexibility that enables adaptation to changing circumstances. accepting of self and dependency needs, in spite of the value our culture places on independence and self-sufficency. an enormous capacity for devotion. self confident, in appearance and in service. a giver, often needing help in rationing self so not to be spread "too thin" or to the point of complete exhaustion. willingness to learn and try new things.

slavedesires -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/10/2005 7:51:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: what are the signs/traits of a good sub? a seeker of nourishing relationships. knows the difference between a caring Dom/me and an abusive controlling jerk. self assured, aware of personal difficulties as well as strengths. interpersonal sensitivity--reactive to the subtle shifts in the emotional tone of others. flexibility that enables adaptation to changing circumstances. accepting of self and dependency needs, in spite of the value our culture places on independence and self-sufficency. an enormous capacity for devotion. self confident, in appearance and in service. a giver, often needing help in rationing self so not to be spread "too thin" or to the point of complete exhaustion. willingness to learn and try new things. very well said and of course obedience, obedience, obedience because the desire and will is there. shy

littlebuttercup -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/12/2005 4:12:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily Since Lady Angelika tossed her question about what makes a good Dom/me, I thought fair play was in order. So, what are the signs/traits of a good sub? Lily personally, i have an innocent quality that is very attractive to some i have noticed. not to be confused with naivete.

nella -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/12/2005 6:13:20 PM)
somone that is sensibel and finds the right partner.

LeanNTall -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/14/2005 7:16:35 AM)
I'm new to this site and relatively new to the lifestyle and loved your post .I'm an avid reader and you put it perfectly.ThankYou. Lean n Tall

cynthiamarie -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/15/2005 9:51:30 PM)
i don't know...but whatever they are, i hope i have them. i wish all the Dom/mes on the board could tell us what THEY think. Is there an area where something like this has already happened? Would someone please post a link if there is?

LadyAngelika -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 5:10:27 AM)
quote: Since Lady Angelika tossed her question about what makes a good Dom/me, I thought fair play was in order. So, what are the signs/traits of a good sub? Lily Hmmm... I saw this list somewhere and I thought to myself: I'd like a submissive with these qualities! I had to make a few minor edits. is self-assured is responsible is self-control is honest is intelligent is empathic is trustworthy is patient is adventurous is creative is open-minded is emotionally stable is self-confident is a good communicator has good manners has a sense of honour has good sense of humour knows and respects their limits as well as the limits of their dominant protects him/herself and controls him/herself honours the contracts that s/he makes can be strict with him/herself (self-discipline) but have a tender side (forgiving one's self) can admit to not knowing everything and/or doesn't expect their dominant to know everything can admit to having made a mistake and/or can accept that their dominant can make mistakes can be chivalrous doesn’t need to submit to everyone to feel more submissive Sound a little familiar? I kind of look for these qualities in the people that I surround myself with in general. I have to admit on a purely superficial that a spankable ass is also an asset. - LA

Mowas -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 11:26:41 AM)
I'm new here but the people and topics seem quite interesting. Now then, a good sub,Mmmmm loveing,kind,respectful,needs guidance,wants attention,needs disaplin,never givving a free moment to a dom. [:D] Seriously, She is a very introcate part of a relationship. I think that the traits would have to be discused by a sub and her dom to be truely defined.

ProtagonistLily -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 11:47:35 AM)
quote: I have to admit on a purely superficial that a spankable ass is also an asset. - LA Amen to that LA... Lily

ARoseAndAnEye -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 12:01:42 PM)
hmmm... i TOO have an innocent quality about me, but it most definitely is based upon a kind of naivete. Don't get me wrong, i have exceptional insight into some people in certain situations.... But Master is constantly telling me of an affect that i have on people that i am absolutely unaware of, until he points it out. i believe naivete/innocence is a wonderful quality for a submissive. Along with that: intelligence, common sense, self esteem (not narcissm), ability to communicate, passion, passion Passion, and the ability to trust (i am astounded at the number of truly cynical people our society has produced!) i also believe that the submissive personality is innate. ~ anna

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 12:15:25 PM)
Except I don't have a submissive personality.

ARoseAndAnEye -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 12:18:47 PM)
ops! i mis-spoke with my keyboard! i believe the submissive "persuasion" is innate. ~ anna

stormsfate -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 3:39:52 PM)
It would depend upon what a particular dominant is looking for in a submissive. The one trait that appears to be almost universally desirable is a willingness to please. best regards, fate

LadyAngelika -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 3:44:47 PM)
quote: i believe naivete/innocence is a wonderful quality for a submissive. I can put myself in someone else's shoes and see the attraction that some people might have for naivete/innocence. It is however not something that I personally find attractive in a submissive. In fact, I have a penchant for insightful, wise and somewhat experienced men and women. - LA

Tatania -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 4:50:57 PM)
All of the above,patience and kindness being at the top of my list.

willing2serve -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/16/2005 5:27:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily So, what are the signs/traits of a good sub? Lily IMO, confident enough to know who she is, strong enough to know what she desires, intelligent enough to know she has choices, self assured enough to know she has a precious gift to give, and a willingness to be molded. Laying all she is and has at her Master's feet.

terah -> RE: What are the signs/traits of a good Sub? (3/18/2005 9:34:17 AM)
One that keep her own idenity wthout getting lost in servitude. ie humor, creativity, skills that can enhance the Ds or Ms relationship.

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