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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:18:45 PM   
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overly offensive joke


Ok, I still don't get the joke though... even if it's offensive, I'm one of these people that you can't do that to, I have to know... I'm very impatient like that, ask my Master... lol...

Could you email me what the hell that joke means?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:19:19 PM   
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i guess my post went unnoticed...again

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:20:42 PM   
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does this seem that way to others? in lookin thru pix it seems like there is a signifcantly higher proportion of overweight femalesin this lifestyle, both tops and bottoms that in the general population. Any theories? i m stumped


I'll take a stab at answering the original question because I too have often wondered the same thing and like everyone else, have my own opinions regarding the reasons behind it.

I remember the first  munch I attended in North Carolina over ten years ago and how VERY surprised I was at the level of obesity that was very common there and yes, mostly with the women.  A few years ago, I visited a friend in Canada and we went to dinner and I was equally surprised by the lack of obesity that was very evident.

So why such obesity?  Well, for starters Americans tend to be a gotta have it when I want it society and everything is generated around the instant gratification.  Our food is FULL of hormones and other chemicals and seriously lacks the nutrients our bodies need.  Most Americans live in a dehydrated state as well.  There are so many reasons associated with poor health that contribute to obesity.

Now add to that mix that everything is moving to online gratification.  Lots of people don't walk and shop - they click and shop and because of that, they are cutting out elements of exercise that would normally be present in their day to day.  People can work from home, play from home, etc.  Then there are all kinds of engrossing online affairs that keep us glued to our chairs where our metabolism just hits rock bottom.  No exercise.  Munching on foods HIGH in fructose and sucrose.  And extended periods of inactivity.

But why more obese people in the lifestyle?  An excellent question.  A few kind of touched on what I think is part of it - the level of acceptance.  On vanilla type sites it seems that the level of acceptance for obesity is lower, just as it is in society as a whole.  Within the lifestyle though, there are so many looking for acceptance and apparently finding it, that they decide to stick around.  There are people so desperate to serve and be owned and all that rigamaro that size becomes much less of an issue.  Plus, let's face it.  If you are the only dom in a room full of men - is your appearance REALLY going to play a huge role?

Someone else touched on part of that as well.  When you have your own sub to do everything for you, there goes another element of daily exercise that would have been present and every little bit of exercise helps just as every bit lost, hurts.  When you no longer get up to get your own drink and instead wait for it to be fetched..  Sedentary lifestyles.

The Marine Corps has an exercise manual that is designed to help the office types stay in shape because they are stuffed behind desks all day handling administrative tasks.  Some of the exercisese consist of flexing the legs to press against the top of the desk.  The less active a person is, the less calories their body burns and what isn't burned gets stored as.. you guessed it.  Fat.

Let's face it.  Most of us, are NOT as active as we were 10 years ago and there's a price to pay for that.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:21:26 PM   
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Obey1 as a personal trainer, would you collar an overweight submissive?  Would you encorage or require her to lose weight?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:22:00 PM   
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overly offensive joke


Ok, I still don't get the joke though... even if it's offensive, I'm one of these people that you can't do that to, I have to know... I'm very impatient like that, ask my Master... lol...

Could you email me what the hell that joke means?


it's a shallow-minded person's way of coping with things they will never understand or accept. not worth explaining...better you don't know


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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:22:16 PM   
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Sure bludemonn, do you want a dozen? I am not sharing mine with you.

asubmissiveheart:
While you're up would you get me an apple fritter and a couple of maple bars....ahhh and a large coffee, black no sugar.
thanx
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:22:47 PM   
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This lifestyle is about being WHO you are WITHOUT the fear of OSTRIZATION and REPRISAL.  When questions such as the OP comes up, WE who are targeted feel OSTRISIZED.  This goes for any topic that targets a specific group of people.  It is only natural that we come out on the defense.  Why can't we just accept people for who they are without wondering why they are a particular way?  As long as no one is getting hurt in the process just let people be.  If you see someone of interest, show them your interest.  If they don't fit your particular interest, leave them alone.


This is a good point B.
 
If the OP said:  Why are there so many ugly people on this site?  Or depressed people.  Or dyslexic people.  Or switches.  Or bisexuals.  And how about amputees?  Once it targets a specific group of people, true, people do tend to get defensive. 
 
But after some thought, i do have a speculation on this question.  i know quite a few overweight vanilla friends who have just stopped looking.  They have become hopeless of finding a partner.
 
What i am thinking is that in D/s, a sub (and domme....if we are talking only about females here)....have something more to offer, in a sense.  i see many say that if the sub has the heart to serve...and please her Master....then the physical is not that important.  Same with dommes.  If they offer the type of dominance a sub is looking for, then the physical is secondary to that. 
 
So overweight or not...perhaps much of this is just being accepted for what we do best...and hopefully that will be fulfilling to those we seek. 
 
Just a speculation.
 
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:23:03 PM   
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an orgy.....OMG...will need more popcorn.....

guess i need to make some for me....cause Obey1 is still not gonna share those wonderful M&M's

beth


you are imposssssible!!!!!!   Here.  Have all U want!

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:23:41 PM   
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i guess my post went unnoticed...again


aaawww  I noticed your post Michael... I was going to say something about narrow-minded people in my post about how we all find patterns here (Like I noticed the lack of men I like to choose), that one could also say that there is a pattern of narrow-minded people too...

and I want the joke explained to me pretty please.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:25:11 PM   
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and I want the joke explained to me pretty please.


Mine?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:26:20 PM   
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It would be an honour to visit you, I went to the cheers bar and guess what? It wasnt ANYTHING like the bloody series, they turned it into a friggin restaurant, one was not amused! I do agree with you about being big but not lazy, there is a distinction to be made between overweight people who simply binge eat (fluctuating in weight really is the killer) and geneticaly big people who eat a regular healthy amount. You know what though, a big people who is happy is so much more attractive, sexiness will always eminate from within, if you are big but unhappy you will give off that impression. So are you a John Cena fan?   

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:26:53 PM   
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LOL.....awwwwwwwwww Obey1...you are such a wonderful, kind, caring, selfish, totally awesome Dom Dude

takes enough to share with the rest of the subs....

gives you a great big kiss on the cheek.....

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:27:31 PM   
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i guess my post went unnoticed...again


aaawww  I noticed your post Michael... I was going to say something about narrow-minded people in my post about how we all find patterns here (Like I noticed the lack of men I like to choose), that one could also say that there is a pattern of narrow-minded people too...

and I want the joke explained to me pretty please.


Would someone please explain the joke.  I don't get the correlation between sucking and being rolled in flour...huh?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:27:46 PM   
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The BBW mafia is out in full force on this one!

It is not OK to be fat.

It is not OK to be a drug addict or an alcoholic either.  
It is a tremendous struggle, this battle of morbid obesity and one of the things that make is so hard to win is the denial that many of its suffers go though. The denial is insidious and many if not most of the time, the passions and resources going into the "acceptance" causes would be better used in personal "unacceptable" battle against fat.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:28:36 PM   
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~fast reply~

yes, sombody, anybody, I've asked a couple of times now for the explanation to the joke... lol...

bludemon: Who is John Cena?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:28:44 PM   
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OK, here's a JOKE everyone...........

Q:  Do you know why fat girls suck?

A:  Because they don't want to be rolled in flour.


what this means is that the person that wrote this joke believes that overweight women suck (orally) because they're not good in bed, although i do not agree with this shallow way of thinking. it's a "man" thing i do not subscribe to


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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:28:45 PM   
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LOL.....awwwwwwwwww Obey1...you are such a selfish Dude

takes enough to share with the rest of the subs....

gives you a great big kiss on the cheek.....

beth


ummmmm.....

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:28:48 PM   
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OK, here's a JOKE everyone...........

Q:  Do you know why fat girls suck?
A:  Because they don't want to be rolled in flour.[:****]


I don't get it.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 10:30:45 PM   
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i can only speak for me and no one else when i say i get tired of intolerant posters who decide to debate the issue of  why there are overweight/fat people in the Dom/sub roles. i say enough already!  it's a tired and old subject - could we just move on, please?

*steps off soapbox munching on a chocolate-covered strawberry*



yes but the real issue here is....where did you get those chocolate covered strawberry's and may i please have one?

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WHAT about the Men in BDSM? - 2/10/2007 10:31:08 PM   
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I've got nothin'........
Maybe it's true people who like food also like (kinky) sex.
Maybe it's because it's easier to get naked in public where there are lots of other naked people of all sizes.
As soon as we finish this research, I want to know why most of the men in BDSM aren't rich, submissive/slave (okay with a few kool dominants thrown in for the awesome submissive women on here), tall, average-well endowed, 30--55yo, virile, open minded, smart, and possessing of gentleman manners.     M

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