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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Go check profiles and add up the chubby's versus the thinnies, and i will guess that the ratio "might" be  a little higher because we get fatter as we get older, and there are more older people doing this than other sexual lifestyles, like swingers for example. What I have noticed is more people over 40 doing this, and that this might  skew the perception that we are all fatter.

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If that is the case, I would guess that the way men age (failure to get an erection as they get older) would be analogous to how women age (getting fat).

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

There is a whole lot of emphasis placed on a man's cock and how it relates to their manhood. As an example, the whole Gorean subculture of natural order is defined on whether or not you have a cock between your legs. There are certain subjects which are only fit to be discussed by those with cocks and if you don't have a cock, your freedom is tenuous and subject to the whims of those who do have a cock. The cock is mightier than the sword and weilded as the arbiter of separation between the sexes. The sole arbiter.

We judge everything about cocks: length, girth, cut, uncut, hard, soft, how often to you touch it, have it sucked, use it to fuck. I mean, it's a pretty damn important body part and yet, we don't seem to talk to much about it, or, more specifically, about power and how it relates to the cock.

Up to one half of all the men on this board have or will have some sort of issues with erectile dysfunction by the time they are 40. That's a fact. (Seriously, google it if you don't believe me!)

So, are men with ED using BDSM to compensate for the inability to fuck effectively or, in some cases, to fuck at all?  Is the power of pleasure being transfered into sado-masochistic acts and M/s lifestyles because of internal, physical phallus failure? The answer has got to be 'yes' in some cases. There are as many reasons to enter into BDSM and D/s as there are people on the planet who engage. Is phallus failure a valid and honest reason though? Is it being disingenous to make a claim of dominance when the only reason you put on that cloak is because you can't get it up? What about wearing the submissive hat? Is it lying to make a claim of submission when your reality is that you can't get it up so turn to service (etc) to compensate?

For those involved long term, who own dominance or submission as part of their nature, who are unhappy living life any other way, such will effect them as well but does it matter that they were here to begin with, immersing themselves into BDSM because they felt the pull of the beast? Are BDSM and D/s being inundated with men who don't actually engage in power exchange but are simply involved as some sort of compensation for phallus failure.. and.. does it matter?

Celeste

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

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If that is the case, I would guess that the way men age (failure to get an erection as they get older) would be analogous to how women age (getting fat).

Metabolic slowing happens to both and women go through menopause, so they are more alike than different in those aspects of aging, IMO.  In fact, I would bet that the number of women with age-hampered libidos far exceeds older men with ED.  Happily, better living through chemistry (natural and medicine) offers many solutions to both.

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 Love to hear the Ladies take on this from those who have had partners with this affliction!!!!!  

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
I find the two subjects to be equally valid to discuss and yet there are, literaly, hundreds of pages of posts devoted to weight issues, and very few devoted to this issue. Or, perhaps, neither merits much time or thought at all. I guess it boils down to perception. I had a nightmare about snakes last night which woke me up and this is what I wrote when I couldn't get back to sleep. ::chuckles::
Celeste

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

But when all is said and done what does it matter?...It is what it is.