MidnightWriter
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Several unrelated points to make here.
1 - I got the single best piece of relationship advice I've ever gotten from a virgin. What she told me was, roughly "Be yourself. If you try to be what they want, they'll love what you're doing, not who you are - and the person who's looking for who you are will miss you entirely. It may take longer, but it'll be worth the wait." She'd never been in, or wanted, a romantic relationship, but I've never regretted taking that advice to heart. I just gave advice to somone trying for an LDR, when I've never been in one - and I was clear that this advice was not coming from extensive experience on my part. Someone may give me advice that's unhelpful, because it doesn't match my situation - but I'm not going to dis them for trying to help. I've never made peanut brittle, but I cook and bake, and can pass along a recipe for peanut brittle - it's your call whether it sounds like a good recipe or not. Where they're coming from does not necessarily indicate how good their advice is. Caveat damn emptor.
2 - Intolerance sucks, and we can all find it - we are a persecuted minority. If you REALLY need to express intolerance of someone else's personal preference, do feel free to log into a religious or feminist web site that gets to frothing in the mouth that we exist - they deserve your opposition. Nail to the wall anyone who is violating consent - they're fair game. But tender respect toward your fellow travellers, regardless of how appealing you think their kink is. They don't need any more disapproval any more than you do, and if they wanted it, they'd not come here for it. They, and I, and you, come here for a kink-friendly environment - so be friendly about thier kink, dammit! If their kink is not-okay, then there's room for your kink to be not-okay - and room for mine to be seriously bad. I'd just as soon not let that not-okay judgemental monster into the room - do YOU really want it here?
3 - I've never been in a romantic or d/s LDR. I've been online for a long time (remember 1200 baud modems? BBSs, before there was an internet?), and I've made good, solid emotional connections to friends around the globe. Jaggery, Inquisitor, Leona Joy, Spectrum, Phillip the Foole, Kajira, Equus and Ms. Casey, Tanith, Binder, Laylah, and the ineffible Nurse Jones - just a handful of the good friends I've made and people I've admired, in a forum much more chaotic than this - very little email, mostly public stuff, where you took your guts out and spilled them on the table to share with a half-million or so of your closest friends. That forum is gone - but dear Ghu, people - it was REAL, even if it was only text on a screen. I knew many of them better than I knew my next-door neighbors, and had the great good luck to meet a few of them RL. For here and now, well - either I am a real person talking to you, in the comfort of your own chair, or this is simply me wanking. If this is just me wanking, then I've got better things to do with my time - like sort my belly button lint collection. If I'm a real person, then LDRs can be real, as well - deal with it.
4 - If I may be a tad USAian, let me paraphrase one of the Founding Fathers of my home country, who said "We need to hang together, because if we cannot do that, we shall surely hang separately". Freedom is more restricted every day - and we, as a group, are on someone's list of people to outlaw. Division amongst ourselves merely makes their goals easier to reach.
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). On the other hand, there is a lot of intense personal contact that is possible through the medium of print- look at the letter-writers of the 18th and 19th centuries. On the other other hand... 
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