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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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These rules as presented are meant as guidelines, a beginning point from which develop one's own set, specific to a particular relationship

http://www.geocities.com/satyr_man/128rules.html

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For the record, when these rules were created, I used the 128 Rules and a few others as guides and for the foundation of discussion. At the time beth was not living with me full time so some aspects, like the webcam, were included. As we've counseled many to do, we communicated for many hours and went over each rule long before they became "our rules". Then a ritual was added as part of the document. Finally, at the end of the process the rules that we live by came into being......this thread, post #70

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you have our direct e-mail, phone number, and address. You've seen us in person. We've come to your groups munches, and attended your groups "parties", the last one being after this thread was well underway, and you didn't have any questions then, why carry on this discussion here and now?

In case you missed it, WE did not post a portion of our contract here, neither did WE ask anyone to do it, nor were we asked how we would feel about a portion of our unique contract-word for word-being posted here as a topic for discussion. WE never claimed authorship of the "128 Basic Slave Rules" that Mr. Kay claimes authorship of.

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All the while Beth would not even look in our direction the entire time.

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When you are given the look to stay away...its pretty basic.

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Why not carry on the discussion here? Is it not a message board where we discuss things?

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If this slave didn't look at you the entire time, as you say, then how did you get "the look" you say you got, to stay away? whatever look you think you didn't get or got, that's your own self-generated confusion, can't help you there. If Master instructed His slave not to initiate conversation with people at a party and only speak when spoken to, would we have a conversation in person?

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That is the look, the lack of look Merc. As I already stated it very well could have been my own confusion. Just as it was the 3 other's impartial observations of the same scene.
So, myself and 3 other people, none of which were Doug.
Make's me believe I wasn't too off track there.

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as this slave stated earlier, WE did not consent to, nor were WE interested in, initiating or responding directly to a public discussion about specific portions of our contract, such as what to do when the UPS guy rings the doorbell and this slave is naked, collared, cuffed and chained as Master has directed for a particular day. Well, duh. Just because the UPS guy rings the doorbell, or anyone else for that matter, doesn't mean this slave is obligated to open it, unless it really IS the authorities. If this slave is meditating or napping or showering or naked in chains, the doorbell doesnt even exist. the UPS guy either leaves the package at the door or a note saying when it can be picked up and goes about the rest of His route. whatever package he is bringing is secondary in importance to what Master has decided for His slave for the day. Just like this message board and the feelings of the people here are farther down the list of importance, with regards to Master and what His desires are for His slave.

Correct and as I've stated to you prior as well. In private e-mails if I must say as well. Guess you just can't seem to remember anything other than this thread. That's ok though.
At the time I gave my opinion on the contract, which by the way still holds true. I didn't know it to be yours. That was before all of the people you mailed it to came to me.

Since you brought it up, just how exactly do you know if it is the authorities or not? When you cannot get to the door in the first place?
Many scenerios could be put into play, not merely that one.
Fire, other emergency. Many other scenerio's.

(in reply to Mercnbeth)

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i but guess, contracts must-be something very few use.

so far since '98 no one has offered one. it is all vocal agreement.

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ORIGINAL: asissyforher

after all is said n done here........
i but guess, contracts must-be something very few use.

so far since '98 no one has offered one. it is all vocal agreement.


just me here.

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As long as they are realistic and feasible

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ORIGINAL: feline

D/S LIFESTYLE
Contract "A" For Male Dom
D/s Contract

I, ________________________, with a free mind and an open heart; do request of
_______________________ that He accept the submission of my will unto His and to take me into His care and guidance, that W/we may grow together in love, trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of His wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Him. To that end, I offer Him use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as my Master, He accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of O/our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, He may have unfettered use of my body any time, any place, in front of anyone; to keep or to give away, as He will determine.

I ask that He guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene-related behavior, both together with, and separate from Him, in such a way as to further my growth as a person.

I request of _______________________, as my Master, that he use the power vested in His role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that He continue to help me to develop my artistic and intellectual abilities.

In return, I agree:

To obey His commands to the best of my ability.

To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve Him and limit my growth as His submissive.

To maintain honest and open communication.

To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.

To inform Him of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that He is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.

To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals.

To work with Him to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual.

To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims.

My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or harm my children, nor interfere with the performance of my duties as mother and as wife.

This I, _______________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which it is given.

Should either of U/us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, E/either may do so by verbal notification to the O/other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. W/we both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of O/our relationship as friends and lovers. Upon cancellation, each of U/us agrees to offer to the other H/his or her reasons and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly.

This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of O/our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both O/our lives.

I offer my consent to submission to ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of _____________ in the year ________.

____________________________
Signature of Submissive

I offer my acceptance of submission by ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of ______________ in the year ________.

____________________________
Signature of Dominant

You can find this contract guideline at; http://www.bdsmcircle.net/dslifestyle/contractam.htm

Others in case any one is interested;

http://www.cufsmaine.org/BDSM%20Contracts.htm

http://ca.geocities.com/bdsm_canada/magvol1iss1/male_dom_fem_sub_contract.htm

http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/contract2.shtml

http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/contract1.shtml


Enjoy!

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D/S LIFESTYLE
Contract "A" For Male Dom
D/s Contract

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ORIGINAL: asissyforher


i know i am going to be blasted for this;
the one link i clicked on, the contract talks about, "time off"????????
excuse me?
i did 24/7/365 for 15 months and i never HEARD the phrase ''time off''
what in heaven's name is it? i never had, time-off. i do 24/7/365 service...there is NO time off!!!!


and just coz i want to ask..is there ANY contract stipulating to no sex and no love? i am 150% service only and "i" have NOT found 1 SINGLE domme. they all have boyfriends/hubbys.

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This is a nice Anne Rice "Beauty" romanticized version perfect for a sub seeking a "service provider" dom; or for someone to dream about as they scourer the chat rooms and boardsvicariously living a life that others are living, but being too afraid to surrender. The retention of self, as indicated by every "I" reference, indicates the intention of retained power. But then, as the source site points out, this is just a guide.

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vicariously living a life that others are living, but being too afraid to surrender.

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ORIGINAL: stormsfate

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This is a nice Anne Rice "Beauty" romanticized version perfect for a sub seeking a "service provider" dom; or for someone to dream about as they scourer the chat rooms and boardsvicariously living a life that others are living, but being too afraid to surrender. The retention of self, as indicated by every "I" reference, indicates the intention of retained power. But then, as the source site points out, this is just a guide.

You appear to look down on those who choose a different path than yours. While I find it difficult sometimes to see what people get out of it, when they are weekend warriors so to speak or have limits within their relationship, it obviously fulfills a need in them or else they would not do it. What's wrong with that? This mindset that one way is somehow better or on a higher level than another is hogwash. If one does not have a need to be a slave with all that entails, it would be foolish of them to pursue that because you or someone else comes along and tells them that if they don't, they are

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vicariously living a life that others are living, but being too afraid to surrender.

While this might be true in some cases...in others, they simply have no desire to actually live it, or desire to live only portions of it. Truly, not everyone is jealous of the way those in an absolute relationship live. Most people don't even grasp the concept of it, let alone desire it for themselves.

You say you are not embarrassed by who you are or how you live. I don't believe anyone should be embarrassed by who they are or how they live. There simply is no "one true way" and its bizarre to me why people feel the need to be "da bomb" and place their kink higher on the pure level than the next guy. I don't "get" a lot of the choices people make <shrug>, but hey...if they are happy, more power to them.


best regards,
fate

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I guess it might be a bit of a bother if you are someone who does these things and takes them extremely seriously, because if a bunch of people are running around talking about how they do it and making it look like a huge joke, you'd be irked to be put in their class.

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This is a nice Anne Rice "Beauty" romanticized version perfect for a sub seeking a "service provider" dom; or for someone to dream about as they scourer the chat rooms and boards vicariously living a life that others are living, but being too afraid to surrender. The retention of self, as indicated by every "I" reference, indicates the intention of retained power. But then, as the source site points out, this is just a guide.