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RE: Dom/mes treating subs as "fair game" - 2/14/2007 8:32:13 AM

MsKatHouston

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For me, I do think it is a matter of training or maybe more accurately, communication. There are certain things I want my submissive to know. First, what is and is not ok with me for certain situations and certain people. This may vary from time to time. What is ok one day may not be the next depending on the situation. Being clear with that up front will prevent all sorts of drama. Next, how I would expect my submissive to react if put into a situation where my orders are being pushed by someone else. There is a right and wrong way I would prefer it to be handled. I would also expect him to know how to handle it if things got more escalated. Also, I have discussed how to deal with issues arising from his discomfort if there is no pushing of expressed limits but he is still in an uncomfortable situation for whatever reason such as a personal dislike of the person.

Some submissives may be unsure of these things. Not so much perhaps of what to do but how to do it.

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RE: Dom/mes treating subs as "fair game" - 2/14/2007 10:06:49 AM

nephandi

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Somtimes it is very hard when one have shifted to a submissive mindset to say no. And just look around you at the vanilla world to, how many have not the problem whit saying no, i will not babysit to night or no i will not do this or that, pepole generaly, or at least many pepole have a problem saying no. And for slaves and submissives that is often alot harder becouse we wish to be obedient and pleese our owners and then it is nice to be trained in when i is ok to refuse and when it is not ok.

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