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Mercnbeth -> RE: The Last Bit (2/15/2007 9:44:50 AM)
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lil sister,
I understand your position. My goal for posting to this thread or any other isn't to say you are wrong, but to make you think by providing my perspective from experiences. I'll assume I obtained my goal.
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i guess my problem is, i think there would be a substantial difference if things did happen. A BIG difference. The difference would be how i would handle it. i do agree with generating the self fulfilling prophecy, but i've always been told to "hope for the best and plan for the worst"
I can relate to this thought and believed it appropriate in business and in life. It's commonly referred to "hedging your bets". Then something happens in your life, the meteor hits you in the head, and you wonder why you were so foolish. I think you know, a meteor did strike 5 years ago taking everything from my life but life. It was then that I knew that you can never really have a "plan" for a ultimate "worst".
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Which i guess is what i'm doing. You are most likely right on the holding back can create failure or not. And you are right, i would regret not giving it my all. I guess my fear is that something could happen that i couldnt handle. I dont want to be one of those people in the old folks home sitting there listing all of my "regrets" or my "if i only...." i suppose that no matter what - everything is recoverable from?
Forget the "old folks home" worse would be regretting tomorrow what you did today; seeing the people and results of your decision. Personal comfort, assets, and especially health, do not last. Ultimately everyone dies. The saying "He or She who dies with the most toys wins" is wrong. It should be; "He/She who got to play and have fun with the most 'toys' wins". Regretting only that he/she didn't have more time, energy, or ability to play with them." All personal wealth and possessions can be gone in an instant. A wealth of memories and experiences remains even if you are homeless.
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I've been in so many situations that have left me broken - that the recovery is the most important thing. When it comes to survival, i am a sure thing. i know that no matter what, i can pull myself through. If i give over all of myself.... then what? What will pull me through? Only i can do that.... BUT i guess realistically thats not true and only an emotionally based statement from being left out years in the cold when crap was going down.
I've never been broken, but I sure have been broke. Recovery isn't the most important thing; integrity is, honesty is, trust is. Integrity, honesty, and trust in yourself. It is impossible to apply any of those traits to another if you first don't have them for yourself. So you are correct, only you can affect that self confidence. Without having those traits, it becomes almost impossible to recognize them in another. "What will pull me through?" - You! Not the you that feels the result will be "cold crap" but a you that is self warming, self confident, and content that you held no "bit" back in the effort even if the effort failed. Because you can still fail. Success isn't guaranteed by the effort, but failure is not always bad.
It is only my opinion, but one of those held back "bits" may be that part of you which you don't want to accept. You are a "slave" to that part held back.
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