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obey1 -> RE: DOM Couples (2/16/2007 11:50:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass


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ORIGINAL: obey1

In the strictest sense of the term, a Switch is someone who can play either role in any given scene. 
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Not trying to be argumentative, but.... Where did you derive this definition from? IMO, the above is about as logical as the statement that a bisexual person is one who is attracted to anyone of either gender.

Just because someone has both dominant and submissive sides of their identity does not mean that they could play either role in any given scene. In fact, quite the contrary, in my own experience I have felt submissive to a very few people in my life and dominant in relation to more than a few but by no means everyone. When it comes to the other 99% of the population, I feel neither dominant nor submissive towards them. I believe this is the same for most switches and this is why it's pretty rare to find couples that switch between themselves. It's much more common to find a couple who are D/s in relation to each other while the D is submissive to someone else and the s is dominant to someone else.

Then again after reading the rest of your post, maybe I have misinterpreted what you're saying.

PS - the easiest way to switch is to alternatingly use I and i to refer to yourself. This would be how you can recognize a switch online.


Your definition is far more accurate.  But then you used a bunch more words now, didn't you?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Switch_(BDSM)



Vendaval -> RE: DOM Couples (2/18/2007 3:11:41 AM)

 
I have been in a long term relationship with another
Dominant personality, who actively encouraged me
to find male and female submissives for Kinky sex.
Several years ago, I had a very intense relationship
with another Dominant male but we were not
overtly Kink, just liked rough sex between ourselves.
This type of dynamic can be very euphoric and long lasting.
And it is a very different dynamic from the relationships
I have with my submissives.
 
In my own experience, you cannot size up the potential
for this type of energy exchange without knowing the
person face to face.  Two people may both be switches
or Dominant on paper or on the computer screen, but
the dynamic between them will manifest with live,
face to face interaction.
 
I wish you luck in your search, you seek something few
ever experience or even imagine.

Regards,

Vendaval 


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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Whatever one of us did to the other, it was understood or expected it would be returned.  Everything was maintained on even footing between us.  I'm looking to explore more of the dynamics of DOM couple relationships.

I would kill to have another relationship like this again, however I am not certain if I should be looking for a DOM Switch or a DOM for this.   Also, any information or resources regarding DOM couple lifestyles would be appreciated.  Something I can read and compare previous experiences to.

Any insight, direction or help would be most appreciated.




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