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need a female perspective - 3/14/2005 9:40:28 AM

diaperedbaby

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I am a adult sissy baby and wonder if I am better searching for a prodomme, a single lady, or a couple? Has anyone had any experience dealing with age play and infantalism.
Not sure what my best approach should be ?

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/14/2005 3:48:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby
I am a adult sissy baby and wonder if I am better searching for a prodomme, a single lady, or a couple?

Why limit yourself to only one venue/possibility?
Use pros while you seek a relationship with a single lady or couple and feel out where you click best; for long term you'll want a single lady or couple with whom you have good communication/chemistry. Good luck, M

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/14/2005 5:39:39 PM

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While I'd not limit yourself, you're probably best seeking a pro. Domme are rare as it is, and ones into infantilism even more so. You limit that even more by seeking one who wants to make you a sissy girl. I'm sorry to point out the grim realities. You might find who you're looking for.. but.. the odds are low outside of the Pro world. :-( It could happen though, so don't give up searching.

Now that I've probably made you sad, let me give you something to cheer you up a little.. http://www.manties.net/ They have beautiful panties that would be lovely on a lil sissy girl. Also, http://www.jumpinjammerz.com/ has adorable footie jammies that would be perfect for beddie bye time for a lil one.

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/14/2005 10:19:33 PM

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I glanced at your profile, and there is little there. Since you do list some other interests that are not specific to infantilism, it is hard to know how deep and how focused your diapered baby fetish is.
It is possible that you will find your Mistress Mommy. But if you wish to satisfy those needs in the meantime, your best bet is going to be a Pro. Most Lifestyle Dominas do not have the patience for the constant neediness of ABs. Many of us have already had our children and have already raised them or are raising them now. We do not really need or want another child.
What I would suggest, since it seems you are open to other areas also, is this. Put some thought into a more comprehensive profile. Let the Dominas know what you bring to them. And remember that you are really narrowing the field if you think offering the opportunity to love and nurture a baby is going to make you stand out. What I read now would not interest Me enough to respond to you. you indicate other areas of interest, and you will widen your possibilities if you are show you are more flexible. Then do a search and write the best letter you can to any Dominas who interest you and you feel may be a match. A few may list infantilism as an interest.
I wish you much good luck.

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/14/2005 10:25:19 PM

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Here is a piece of advice you can actually use - lose the diaper and begin your search for a normal human adult relationship. THat combination of fetishes is like building a 50 foot wall between yourself and the rest of the civilized world. C'mon! Ask yourself - what exactly is the least bit erotic about a grown man in a diaper?

tsk...tsk...
This is a valid fetish and a sincere question. Are you looking for a "normal human adult relationship"?
There is a whole world out there who believes that any of O/our kinks are not the least bit normal, much less erotic!

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 3/14/2005 10:26:59 PM >

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/15/2005 6:40:55 AM

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Thanks for the advise
I should be more forthcoming with other interests. It seems like a pro may be my best alternative. I would prefer something long term so I can begin to search that venue as well. I am probably limiting myself as you suggested but do enjoy that fetsish.
If I got in a position to have that "right" full time relationship, I would have alot to offer a dom/mommy. Mostly financial ect. but not sure I would want that in an ad.
You gave me some things to think about though.
I appreciate everyones ideas and thanks for the links.
I always think there is someone out there for everyone
It doesn't have to be a 24/7 seven thing so like everyone, there are other aspects to my life.
Hopefully all of this made a little sense?

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/15/2005 3:29:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I am a adult sissy baby and wonder if I am better searching for a prodomme, a single lady, or a couple? Has anyone had any experience dealing with age play and infantalism.
Not sure what my best approach should be ?

I would guess that your chances of finding a woman who is actively seeking specifically an adult sissy baby as a partner are slim. You have to adjust your expectations to seek a woman who is open minded, kinky, and enjoys erotic roleplay. More importantly, you must not let your other features and characteristics go to the wayside as you invest too much time in your kink, finding your kink, and looking for that mystery/fantasy partner that might not even exist.

In other words, work on your qualities that make you an attractive partner for a woman. A best friend, lover, provider, partner. Learn to date and learn to court. Keep things in perspective and remember that a woman is going to seek an adult, man partner first and foremost and then comes the possibility to have occassional adult baby roleplay.

Remember that you can't expect/desire a fetish like this that will consume your sex life or your chances are slim. In other words, it is a lot easier to seek a woman partner who will indulge in your diaper games perhaps as a sexual diversion now and then -- but not every single sexual encounter. Women have their own sexual needs.

The other option is to compartmentalize your kink, and find out how often you would see a pro to healthily explore your kink and scratch the itch but not bring it home to the bedroom.

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RE: need a female perspective - 3/15/2005 8:02:29 PM

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Thanks for the adivise
It was a sincere inquiry and not a joke as one had thought.
The other advise is greatly appreciated.
You are correct in that I must keep an open mind about what they other person wants. Or as mentioned, seek the services of a pro.
My preference is to find the right long term person to share this with.
I have the looks and finances, just need the attitude adjustment.
I will have to work on that

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