Celeste43 -> RE: How to handle this (2/22/2007 8:45:37 AM)
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This is his problem. Make it clear to him when he starts to tell you everything that this is his relationship, it isn't yours and you aren't interested. But also make it clear that if doesn't have sufficient self control to not take out on you the upset in his emotions caused by the stuff he allows her to do, you will lose respect for him. And then change the subject. Every time he starts to tell you about her, repeat word for word. And call him on it when he calls you and is out of control. He needs to grow up and the best service you can do for him is make this clear. He won't appreciate it anymore than a drunk appreciates being told they need to go into rehab, but you wouldn't appreciate having a relationship with a drunk and you don't appreciate or need the drama that comes with his other relationship. And I'm not sure why he deserves such devotion when he has deliberately disrespected you over and over by detailing his relationship with her instead of focusing on you when with you.
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