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ORIGINAL: medea
Would any caring, honest and genuine Masters out there (or even subs for that matter) afford me the benefit of their experience by advising what to try and look out for other than obvious safety precautions, such as letting a friend know where you are going on a first meet, etc.,

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ORIGINAL: ARoseAndAnEye

This has all been said a million times before. i am still astounded at the number of people who think they are immune to the danger, and jump in with their eyes wide shut.

~ anna

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Are you looking for an online only thing? If you are, then many people would describe you as a troll, and some might even consider you pathological. *smile*.

Then many people would be wrong. There is enough misuse of web and BDSM terminology, Taggard, without helping to propagate it with statements like that ... the irony indicated by Your smile will be lost on most here at CollarMe.

A troll is someone that posts in a provocative manner, usually in order to attract attention to him/herself, but frequently s/he is happy simply to sit back and watch others self-destruct in the ensuing train wreck that results from his/her post(s). The common bottom line amongst all trolls is a desire to entice others to post that normally wouldn't, either directly against them, or disruptively against each other so that they can voyeuristically enjoy the resultant degrading action, in a similar vicarious manner that some folks enjoy women wresting in mud, or episodes of "Jerry Springer" on TV. They derive their pleasure in the same way that many Dominants do ... they get a big cyber rush from knowing that they ultimately caused (i.e., controlled) what resulted - be it a large public brawl, or simply lots of people coming out of the woodwork to post (and possibly bearing their souls) that would not normally post, or folks responding directly to their own posts (thereby granting them immediate feedback attention). Usually there is an element of all three rewards involved for the consummate troll.

For a troll, it's all about them and their enjoyment of their considerable ability to push people's buttons and remotely control the actions and thinking of others ... they get the same power rush from the knowledge that either their posts and/or threads are "popular" (i.e., get lots of hits and replies), or that they can flame someone else's thread into the gutter and ultimate closure / deletion. In fact, the second most common method of making their own threads "popular" - the first most common method being to make the initial topic of the thread totally contentious and unresolvable (e.g., abortion, gun control, "all men suck", etc.) - is to flame their own thread (either single-handedly, but more normally with the aid of sock puppets) and to then control the burn. Although trolls may rejoice in the total demise of someone else's thread, they also like to bask in the glory of seeing their own handiwork hang around still collecting hits, so they will normally restrain themselves from completely flaming their own thread into being locked and deleted (but that is usually something that even a troll cannot control if they flame it too much, or the moderators get wise to them).

Although we use the expression "trolling for sex" this is really a cyber-corruption of the real life term "trawling for sex" ... most trolls as defined above are NOT interested in the relentless pursuit of cyber-sex or in setting up, via the internet, real life meetings so that they can victimize that person in some way (as a psychopath would). The use of the term "troll" to refer to cyber-sex seekers and psychopaths using the web to locate victims (such as pedophiles looking to locate children online that they can subsequently meet in rea life) is a complete misuse of the term "troll" IsHO. sissy Has seen someone called a troll simply because they posted a contrary position to a post. sissy, Himself, has even been called a troll because his posts are provocative ... but they are not provocative in the same sense described above, but provocative in the sense that your posts are, Taggard, meaning intellectually stimulating because of the information they impart. That is NOT the same thing as trolling at all ...

Although trolls and cyber-sex seekers are both socially annoying - and we may go as far as to call them sociopaths - to call either of these phenomena psychopaths might be going way too far. Similarly, someone looking for "an online only thing" is also not a troll. They may be someone that is simply way deep "in the closet" that is using a site such as this one to reach out and socialize from the safety of their cyber-anonymity. If things look like they will become too real for them, they may get cold feet and back off and/or completely disappear. Although this may be annoying to the other party(ies) concerned - and may also be considered by some to be dishonest and lacking integrity - it is hardly as pernicious as being a real troll or as dangerous as being a psychopath.

So let's get accurate with the terminology, folks ... simply because someone is provocative, or posts a contrary opinion to yours, or is posting from way at the back of the closet, or is even seeking cyber sex, that does NOT make them a troll - let alone a psychopath !!

Respectfrilly Yours,

sissy maid lola




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If i don't seem submissive to You, it may be because i'm NOT submissive to You.

(in reply to TallDarkAndWitty)

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but then again I may be dating myself here.

Ooooh, sissy thinks that that, right there, captures the whole essence of the transvestite experience, Sir !

Respectfrilly Yours,

sissy maid lola




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If i don't seem submissive to You, it may be because i'm NOT submissive to You.

(in reply to domtimothy46176)

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

But remember what safe calls can and can't do. I've seen too many people use someone across the country they met in a chatroom as a safecall. What's to stop the person from going psycho after you've made your call?

The only thing safecalls do is let someone know where to start looking for the body. Use them, but understand what exactly you're using.

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ORIGINAL: UKCouple4femsub
SUB: We'd have to pre-arrange a safe word

BINGO! The right answer. We use two safe words - one meaning slow down (we use roses), the other meaning stop (we use thorns).