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A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 7:21:20 PM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		I understand if this gets moved...but I was wondering how many people watch the show ER.

Because I just saw J.P. Manoux (Dr. Crenshaw) getting berated by Sara Gilbert (Jane Figler). 

The boy and are were just absolutely ROLLING after a few interesting  scenes where she ties him up (in the hospital no less, and berates him into "cleaning up" his apartment so they can stay there, and another where she wanders up to him after he speaks to Dr. Neela (who witnesses the next juicy tidbit) and Jane berates him for using blue ink when she had told him to use nothing but black ink that day.

I guess what drives me to the curious about that particular scenario, other than the hardass doctor being dominated by the quiet, kinda weird girl....is the use of such "controls" in a work setting like that so blatantly, and would others do the same kinds of things if they worked at the same place. Granted the act in and of itself of using a certain color ink is rather small and not generally noticable even by those of us in the know.  But the way and volume her character went at berating him for using the wrong color pen...loudly and not exactly privately.  And he in turn was rather....coy? in his "Oops!".

If two people in a power exchange relationship were also working together and in a rather public job at that...how would that effect the interactions between those two people?  Who would let the power exchange trickle over into that everyday life outside of the personal relationship, and to what level?

Who wouldn't...and why?




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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 7:28:19 PM   
porthuronsub


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Status: offline 		I think some could do it and get away with it.  I would tend to think it would make a difference on what profession you happened to work in.  Rockstar sure no problem,  some might even expect it.  Other professions, I'm not so sure.

I personally think I would be uncomfortable in that scenario.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 7:30:21 PM   
TypeAsub1


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Status: offline 		It would depend.  If you are equals in your job that could be problematic.  If the Dom is also an authority figure at work, I don't think that would be too difficult to manage.  If the relationship Sub was in an authority position, you might have issues.

I think this is one of those things that would be dependant upon the relationship, the job/s involved, the business relationship and so many other factors that I would simply have to make that call on a situational and individual basis. 

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 8:07:34 PM   
Sinergy


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It would depend.  If you are equals in your job that could be problematic.  If the Dom is also an authority figure at work, I don't think that would be too difficult to manage.  If the relationship Sub was in an authority position, you might have issues.

I think this is one of those things that would be dependant upon the relationship, the job/s involved, the business relationship and so many other factors that I would simply have to make that call on a situational and individual basis. 


You know, I am an argumentative, nasty, vicious, obnoxious, creepy bastard at work.  I get paid to be that way.

I am so not that in real life.

The word you are looking for is "professionalism."

I have a job to do, and I am good at it.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 8:31:17 PM   
TypeAsub1


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Status: offline 		Nope - i wasn't looking for that word.  If I was, I would've used it.  I do not believe any amount of professionalism would work in a situation where I held an authority position over my Dom in a professional environment.

It would poison our relationship - thus I wouldn't do it and professionalism wouldn't help that.

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You know, I am an argumentative, nasty, vicious, obnoxious, creepy bastard at work.  I get paid to be that way.

I am so not that in real life.

The word you are looking for is "professionalism."

I have a job to do, and I am good at it.

Sinergy

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 8:46:28 PM   
mbes


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Status: offline 		I don't want to watch the personal interactions of ANY couples at work, it doesn't matter what form it takes. It doesn't seem to work well for the workplace when the private is brought in. That would make me uninclined to act out a personal relationship at work myself.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/19/2007 8:46:33 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: TypeAsub1

Nope - i wasn't looking for that word.  If I was, I would've used it.  I do not believe any amount of professionalism would work in a situation where I held an authority position over my Dom in a professional environment.

It would poison our relationship - thus I wouldn't do it and professionalism wouldn't help that.



Fair enough.

I guess my point was more stating something I am able to do, without trying to denigrate your experience.

I am not sure how I would feel if my submissive at home was my boss at work.

Sinergy

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 4:16:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think I would want that. As someone's employee I want respect and equal treatment. These things are important for me to feel valued and for me to work efficiently. If I was getting yelled at for using the wrong color ink when it doesn't matter, I think I'd say quitting time.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 5:58:56 AM   
Driver1961


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Status: offline 		He dips His lid to all;

My Precious and I discussed my getting some work at her employment where she would be my inline boss, the difficulty for her was simply the difficulty (or is it dichotomy?) in her being a boss at work was counterproductive to ever 'sub' thread in her body.  It simply could not be a situation that would be profitable.

The reverse of my being her boss would be workable as in our D/s we interact generally as equals but as Master/slave would be unworkable- I'd have a 'spacey worker' everytime I went into 'normal intruction giving mode'!  It would be to her detriment with other workers.

Have a good one all!

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 6:18:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Though I agree with the comment that it does depend heavily on the type of profession you are in, I personally would not want to carry the D/s relationship into that environment. It works on a silly tv show, but real businesses, especially the big corporations are at an all time low dealing with employee rights. If others saw you Doming your sub, for example, they could complain that you are creating a hostile work environment, or a sexual harassment situation.

If you are serious about your professional life, I would carry on a strictly vanilla relationship in the workplace, except for the very subtle things the two of you can share that would not mean anything to anyone else.

I think it is a mistake to bring D/s into a public environment of any kind. Too many people would be uncomfortable with it, and I don't think that subjecting everyone to my kink is the right thing to do. Anything I do with my slave in public is very, very low key.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 12:53:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		It could work if they were both professionals with impeccable manners. Assuming that her normal style of talking to underlings is to say "Please get me the finished X report by tomorrow night" then the subordinate only has to use his good manners to say "Of course" or else explain what the snag is.

But they would have to pay attention to their normal style of speech and if it were radically different, then it would be difficult to both get all the work done in a timely manner and to watch your speech. Using email to communicate might be easier.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 4:10:51 PM   
blmtrsne


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Status: offline 		I know for sure my sub would love to have a female Boss, Me or another Mistress, or more Mistresses. I would love a world with all males submissive and Women sharing them.

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 4:19:40 PM   
Aine


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ORIGINAL: blmtrsne

I know for sure my sub would love to have a female Boss, Me or another Mistress, or more Mistresses. I would love a world with all males submissive and Women sharing them.


But considering the world we live in......what about my original question?


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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/20/2007 6:22:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dunno.......... i'm one of those that if i can screw the system i will  = )  I might do the same thing 20 times, so i neednt do something else and if i work hard/fast and get things done - i might disappear until something else to do pops up.... Eh, i like to do things MY WAY.  If i worked under Master, i'd be doing things his way and all my little tricks wouldnt work and i'd be totally frustrated.  God help me if some sort of complaint came up!  Heck, i worked at publix once and accidently took a 2 hour lunch break.... had a talk with the big boss and then ran my mouth later... had another talk with the big boss.  Gah - if Master worked there........  and no matter how VALID my complaint is... doesnt cut it with Master. 

BUT then on the flip side, if i worked really hard - did a good job, ect ect ect - it'd be noticed and appreciated.  I can work my butt off from dusk till dawn so long as some one says "good job".  Could be inspiring. 

If i was Master's boss........ i'd be really nervous and it would never work out. 

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RE: A Working Relationship - 2/24/2007 4:41:14 PM   
Sinergy


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I don't think I would want that. As someone's employee I want respect and equal treatment. These things are important for me to feel valued and for me to work efficiently. If I was getting yelled at for using the wrong color ink when it doesn't matter, I think I'd say quitting time.


The only time I have ever worked for a boss who I thought was simply over the top was down on the docks.

It was late one night, we were up there in the rain trying to lash a ship, this boss kept coming up and ranting abusively about how the ship was not getting lashed up in time and we were all a bunch of worthless idiots.

I finally looked at him and said "ya know, it would be a lot easier to do this job if we didnt have to look at your ugly face and listen to your endless bullshit."

He laughed and walked away.

My partner laughed when I pointed out that the only thing that sort of person understands is to be stood up to.  Back down, peeing down your leg, and cowering in fear simply causes him to redouble his obnoxious twaddle.

I work for him infrequently now, and our relationship is generally one of an endless stream of abuse that goes both directions.

On the other hand, when I was a computer engineer, my bosses always treated me with a great deal of respect and decorum.  I was the performance expert they needed to get things done, and it was a niche job; they would have had trouble finding somebody with my skill set and that the customer worshipped.

Sinergy

edited to ad an s.

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