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mp072004 -> RE: Straight up questions (2/20/2007 5:28:38 PM)
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I sympathize, and my chief tactic for responding to 'whatever you wish' is a lot like MasterFire's. "I know I get to do what I want. I want you to tell me which you prefer." That doesn't necessarily mean that I'll do the thing that the submissive likes better--nor that I'll do what he or she dislikes. Insisting on a straight answer generally works for me--if the person is coherent enough to murmur "whatever you like," he or she is coherent enough to give me a more appropriate answer. (If, of course, this is a submissive or bottom who becomes non-verbal, that's a whole different ball of wax.)
It is sometimes helpful to phrase the question in more precise terms than "like" and "dislike", though, and to make questions less open-ended. Since I often enjoy creating dilemmas and switching from one activity to another, I'll ask, "Do you find activity one easier to handle than activity two?" "Is one turning you on more than two?" "Is two more embarrassing than one?"
Sometimes, though, it really is most important for playmates to observe my enthusiasm. Then ranking becomes important--if I'm showing equal amounts of enthusiasm, which activity do you like better?
Not so long ago, I had a charming conversation that fits this questioning model nicely. I asked my playmate whether he liked an activity, and he said something like "if it's making you happy, it's making me happy." Later on, I increased the intensity of our play and informed him that I was a nice person indeed to grant him such pleasure. He was befuddled, remarking that he was hurting more than previously, and I reminded him that I was very happy indeed, and so he must be in great throes of bliss. (Note: this was all very lighthearted and fun, if it's not coming across in text, and I think it transmitted the message clearly--he might be chiefly satisfied by seeing me express delight, but it's a rather complex sort of pleasure.)
Monica
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